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AIBU To Think Remote Work Isn't Sustainable?

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HighlandsExpat · 13/02/2026 05:09

I work a very stable, secure 9-5 corporate job. I have been in this role for 1.5 years. I work in the office three days a week but my team is in another city so I don't see them in person.

I realized today I often go the entire workday without speaking! Which is probably good for my facial wrinkles but actually detrimental to my mental health. I am social outside of work and feel happy with my life and friends, but do feel like my job is incredibly lonely and isolating. Which is odd because I just got a promotion and am taking on lots of responsibilities, but hasn't translated into actually meeting new people or even having to speak more. I send a lot of emails and am chatting on MS Teams all day. I know we aren't pre-pandemic when it was five days a week and you would sort of naturally form relationships at work, but I cannot imagine being in this job in a few years.

AIBU to think this isn't sustainable? Do others feel this way sometimes? All of this is triggered because an old colleague emailed to wish me happy birthday and organized a virtual coffee chat. It made me a bit sad because I haven't had one of those (coffee with a colleague) since I left my old job.

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hattie43 · 13/02/2026 05:37

I think hybrid is the best balance . There’s a lot of positives to being in an office and also being at home . I did hybrid and not commuting was the biggest plus on my wfh days . The biggest ballache was not being able to get hold of other wfh personnel because they were setting their own day around other goings on at home , taking the kids to and from school . Office based is definitely best for young people and new starters learning the ropes . WFH works best for those proficient in their role but also jobs not related to being available at certain times , it’s very frustrating doing a piece of work needing someone’s input to find them not at their desk and no idea when they will be .

Snorlaxo · 13/02/2026 05:36

It might not be sustainable for you but many are happier and more efficient working from home because commuting can be time consuming. Many would also say that chatting on Teams is talking about work?
I work in a job that can’t be done from home so understand that you can’t use Teams for chatting about non work stuff as work will be monitoring but many don’t want to gossip or hear about their colleagues’ lives out of work which is fine too.

MaggieBsBoat · 13/02/2026 05:33

I wfh in two jobs and I am very happy most of the time. I see enough of people in video calls. I don’t need to see anyone in person for work. I’ve been doing this for 9 years so clearly sustainable.

NutellaEllaElla · 13/02/2026 05:30

You’re speaking from such a narrow view point I don’t know why you bothered. I wfh pretty much 100% and am almost constantly in meetings, talking all day.

LindorDoubleChoc · 13/02/2026 05:26

I don't know if "not sustainable" is the right way to describe it, but I do agree that 100% remote working isn't healthy for most people. Convenient, yes sometimes. I think homes and work should be separate (it drives me mad that a whole room in our house is set up for my dh's work and I can't go in there for much of the day) and that most, not all, people need some human social interaction. When I was younger a lot of my social life stemmed from work - it was fun! You also get to negotiate relationships with people who are a lot older or younger than you, from different backgrounds etc.

steff13 · 13/02/2026 05:24

I've been doing it for 13 years.

Woolbearpug · 13/02/2026 05:22

Tell Nigel to bore off to Dubai or wherever this "man of the British people" actually lives.

FrozenFebruary · 13/02/2026 05:15

It might not be sustainable for you. But it is for many others. If you're not happy there are plenty of jobs where being in the office is compulsory.

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