The one with the viking cowboy. Are these comments on my appearance terrible or not?

Sounds like something my DH would say. Fortunately I don't rely on him for my self confidence. I know I usually look nice, I'm not blind. I think a lot of men are pretty useless with fashion. Why aren't you paying attention to the "you look nice" bit and focusing on the cowboy part? Give him another 20yrs. That's how long it's taken my DH to stop making stupid comments.

A cowboy wouldn't be caught dead in that.

I'd find this quite funny. Various comments I've had from DH:

You look like one of those penguins with the sticky up hair
Bag lady day today is it?
Good look babe, Noel Fielding would be proud
Why do you smell like an old car seat / library book?
Hello grandma!
Those shoes do NOT go with that outfit
Are you really going out like that?

Also he is fond of pretending to be a mime artist if I'm all in black

But, he also gives me plenty of compliments and tells me I'm beautiful regularly. If he didn't I think I would probably feel more sensitive about it.

But also not insulting? Op was cleaning at the time so presumably not trying to look particularly glamorous!

Tbh I'm not really sure what the link between claw clips and vikings are anyway, but if anything the stereotype of vikings currently is they're pretty sexy - think of thor, vikings TV show etc.
I dont see how there is anything wrong or derogatory in saying that at all! I would have laughed and done a (terrible) Danish accent and threatened him with valhalla if he didnt give me a hand!

It all depends on what your relationship is like normally op. If you're in a good place most couples would accept those comments as part of the usual teasing and jokes that comes with living with someone. If however he never compliments you then it could be more....but personally if those are the only two examples it sounds like more of an issue with you, a lack of self confidence in your appearance and how you think of yourself at the moment than anything he is trying to do.

I've just spat out my tea laughing at this.

This has reminded me of something from my school days. I wore to school a poncho which was fashionable at the time. Think native American. Some boys took the mickey by whistling a Fistfull of Dollars as I walked past.

I am literally crying with laughter at this comment, and I’m heavily pregnant, so I’m about five seconds away from peeing myself 😂😂🤣🤣

I once bought a pair of wide white trousers with blue stripes, very summery, very breezy, and the first time I wore them, my husband looked at me and asked if I was about to start selling ice cream 🤭🤣 We both completely lost it.

To make things even worse, we later went to a wedding where one of his mates turned up wearing a linen jacket with the exact same pattern as my trousers. Naturally, my husband couldn’t help himself and said I should ask him to lend me the jacket so I could have the full matching outfit to go with my ice-cream seller trousers.😂

Honestly, I don’t know why this still tickles me this much, but I’m absolutely howling every time I think about it 🤣

I once wore a pussy-bow blouse. DH took one look at me and said 'but why did you snatch those kids' milk?' 😭

He also once told me that a dress I had bought was 'a bit mormon'. I had a whole thread on the style and beauty MN section about it (lots of people agreed with him)

No, I don't think I'd take offence and certainly wouldnt get upset at these sorts of comments. The viking one hardly matters - you are just bumming around the house. The one you were wearing out I would most probably look in the mirror and laugh and either make adjustments or say 'well I like it'.
I've told my husband he looks like a fishmonger/the man from Del Monte/Chandler Bing at various points, so can hardly get upset if he comments!

If this is genuinely the only thing going on in your relationship, then yes, you've massively overreacted. But my guess would be your extreme reaction is because you are feeling massively unloved, undervalued and/or disrespected generally in your relationship. You've just maybe found the wrong thing to focus on.

DH makes comments like this, recently he told me my nice co-ords made me look "like a fireman" (???). He regularly tells me "I love your hair, you look like a lion" (not what I'm going for but I just roar at him in response).

The most illjudged was when I was very heavily pregnant and was wearing leggings and a red jumper. He asked why I was dressed as Dr Robotnik.

I mean it's not sexy is it? I'd wear it because it's beautiful but I wouldn't expect compliments from my partner.

I have to say the workplace at the time of the comment was a really fun place to work regarding colleagues. It was pretty much all men and they could be really witty and funny at times. We all got on brilliantly.

I really miss those days at times.

My DP asks if I’m taking the Hobbits to Isengard if I wear my hair in a topknot

At least you didn’t look like Legolas, with your hair tied back 🤭😁 I’m sure many posters will tell you to leave him 🫠

So many missed opportunities to turn his comments about cowboy into something sexy and cheeky 🤠 but each of their own 🤷🏼‍♀️ let’s just get upset

But she asked him. And he was honest.

1. Don't ask him if you don't want an honest answer.
2. For Valentine's Day I would wear a dress for my partner's sake. Men like dresses.
3. Vikings are badass (and also my ancestors). I would be thrilled to be told I looked like a Viking.

@Myblueclematislast time I wore a turtle neck at work I was called Elizabeth Holmes. And I really could be her sister it was hilarious.

Were you wearing it for a bet?

You seem quite sensitive?

Viking women are hot so I don’t see the issue there and your bootcuts and Borg fleece do sound very cowboy. Sorry but he’s just being honest. Also cowgirls are also hot…

Well, you just respond Haha, very funny. And wear it anyway, if you like it, surely? You’re being too sensitive.

When DP wears a white top, with his longish hair and beard, I sometimes call him Jesus.

Ah the good old work place jokes and banter. Sorely missed. Nobody dares to share even the most innocuous of jokes these days lest they offend somebody 🤐

this made me lol... I love your son.

Every time I wear a striped top my husband has to make the "Hello, Sailor" joke, it's just their way of teasing, a bit annoying but not meant maliciously I think. Don't take it too seriously xxx the jacket is lovely

He either has a very poor grasp of descriptors or he is deliberately or inadvertently trying to knock your confidence. Stop asking for his opinion. I love the jacket btw.