The one with the viking cowboy. Are these comments on my appearance terrible or not?

As a matter of interest, does he ever say anything nice?

And is he god's gift to the catwalk?

Do you think you look masculine so it’s hit a nerve? The only response to the Viking one was thank you. He’s not a very eloquent described though is he. Only you know if he is doing it to hurt you, that’s the key.

This absolutely nails it. My husband says yee ha every time I wear my checked blouse but because we generally have a great relationship I just laugh.

I got a new beanie and my DP said I look like the burglar from Home Alone. I still wear it 😂.

Some young’un at work told me I was appropriating lesbian culture by wearing dungarees once. They weren’t joking.

Thanks for all these, I’ve had a stressful few days at work and the laughter has helped enormously.

If you ask for an opinion, you have to be prepared to accept you might get opinions you don't like

I think it was the square shape and the high collar - it’s not unlike a western jacket.

Fwiw I have cowboy boots that I wear with jeans, and a proper western belt my sister brought me from Idaho. If anyone said I looked like a cowboy they would be correct.

Any smart/sensitive guy would know that saying you look like a Viking/cowboy ( if not particularly derogatory ) is unlikely to land well.

The correct response to these questions is ALWAYS “ wow, you look amazing. “

Ngl, I wouldn't mind being compared to a viking. 😝 It sounds as if he is just blurting our whatever comes into his head.

My sister is a bit 'boho' hippy and she used to wear an outfit that I told her made her look like Rainbow Bright. 🤣🤭

I wore an outfit once that whenever I looked at it, reminded me of Robin Hood. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I still wore it as I liked it and felt comfortable.

Why did you need to go and ask him for his opinion on your outfit? Surely you just wear what you want and feel comfortable wearing. If he'd said, omg those jeans are too tight on you! What would you have done or felt?

Perhaps have more confidence in your choices. Also, sarcastically say: that's definitely the look I was going for. I'm so glad to know that my outfit is a success. 😆

I’m not convinced either was intended to be an insult.

I am sure that Borg tapestry abomination needs to go directly in the bin.

I went to the supermarket with my son in striped leggings and some sort of boots - he refused to leave the car with me 'dressed as an elf!'

I think a lot of the reassuring responses have actually nailed the issue. When many men say “you look like a ….” they’re actually referring specifically to one item in an outfit which has reminded them. So cowboy boots make you look like a cowboy. A cape makes you look like Superman. The references are always male not because you’re butch but because he’s referencing his childhood. Eye roll, move on!

Im cry laughing at this. And also Robin hood lady and Miss King Prawn. My son is similarly quick witted and brutal, but it just makes me laugh. I like a bit of banter and wouldnt have been offended.
DP on the other hand is quite "fashion experimental" and was very upset when he debuted a new outfit and i asked him if he was the missing member of East 17 and me and my bestie burst into a hearty rendition of "stay another day". When I realised it upset him I made sure to let him know I love how he dresses and was just teasing but would never want to make him uncomfortable.

My restraint has been severely tested everytime he proudly wears a certain pair of shoe boots, exclaiming how comfy they are and how much he loves them. He looks like a medieval peasant. I hate them. But i scotch-guarded them and keep my mouth shut because I love him.

Your DH defo has an interesting turn of phrase, lol. While I admit I hate that jacket with a passion (sorry, just my opinion), I fail to see a cowboy wearing it. I get the Viking comment even less.. Does he think he’s funny? My OH always makes fucking stupid weird comments about my outfits (eg anything vaguely animal print gets the Bet Lynch ‘jokes’). I generally ignore them now!

Banter is great but I think his remarks weren’t funny enough or on the nose enough for the outfit so you’re left feeling slightly confused and wondering what he means.
He needs to up his game or leave it.

I quite often get compared to a plumber (jumpsuit) curtains (anything flowery) or my mother (unforgivable). I tell him I don't take style advice from middle aged men!

If 'viking' and 'cowboy' are the only words your husband says that upsets you, you have it mellow 😅

I had a beautiful tan suede skirt which I used to wear with a dark brown jumper, a look my husband described as “mixed nuts” or less charmingly “Bristol stool chart”.

Last summer I met two friends at a local garden centre, fab day, blue sky and very sunny and pretty hot and I wore my new pale pistachio cropped trousers with a white top with pale pink stripes.

One of my friends remarked I looked like a bowl of ice cream.

I really liked that. 😊

I would often say to my late husband Are you wearing that for a bet? or Did Stevie Wonder choose that? and he might say something about what I was wearing, not nasty just jokey, but we weren't hyper-sensitive, looking to be offended, just old!

I thought I'd got smartly dressed for work once, black skirt and shirt with a tie neck (they were in then) and my DSS said I looked like I worked in a Building Society. I don't - but I know what he meant.

I had to tell DH that 'I'm not sure it does you justice' was a nicer way of saying 'that looks shit'....He's finally got it after only about 20 years.

Many men just don't understand fashion or style. DP was flabbergasted when I told him skinny jeans had not been fashionable for some time. Once he called my hair 'mousey' and didn't understand why I was insulted (I have dark blonde hair).
"But mousey is cute. Like a soft little mouse" he said.

I work for Virgin Atlantic as cabin crew. An old man once said to me "you look like a hooker in that (meaning uniform) with red lipstick" i said (put on a fake Sharon Osbourne style voice) "a hooker? Wearing Vivien Westwood? I don't think so my darling" he just looked at me with this vacant expression because I wasn't offended or gave him the reaction he expected.
Some men have zero clue on what they're saying but some do and just don't care.
My biggest tip for if they're the latter is never let them know it bothers you as they do it more.