The one with the viking cowboy. Are these comments on my appearance terrible or not?

Still unpleasant ‘I’d burn it’. Really necessary when OP was already lacking confidence. But hey you’re the victim now so I’ll leave you be.

I didn’t. I quoted a post that used one if you looked more carefully. You’re the bully now please leave me alone.

Honestly I’m usually the one saying I look like something stupid and my poor DH is tripping over himself to convince me otherwise (it is not a an attempt for compliments I swear to all that is holy).

Long story short I lost my hair blah blah blah … one night before going out I put on a black slouchy hat. Fuck me I looked like Dopey the fucking dwarf. When I pointed it out he tripped over himself to convince me otherwise until he couldn’t hold the laughter in any longer. The last time was just yesterday my curls which have always been aggressive are now aggressive I looked like Cindy Loo Who from the goddamned Grinch. Which was a pleasant change from my daily look of deranged lightbulb 💡

I do love the man but he needs to learn how to laugh.

You actually did use laughing emojis. If you’d care to scroll up you’d see them. Was expecting that response. Bullies hate being called out.

I didn’t use laughing emojis. The only poster being nasty here is you. You come across as someone aggressively trying to start a fight. I’m off to bed.

The question was - was my partner out of order making comments that had upset her. OP shared a pic of the top. You both made derogatory comments about that top with laughing emojis. Well done. V mature.

It’s my perception of your post. Not an invention. You came across as plain nasty.

Of course it is.

That’s entirely your invention.

I read this and imagined the people-pleaser who tells their friend want they think she wants to hear as they value being liked over honesty.

I so rate the friends of mine who tell me the truth over the ones that simper.

i asked my DH about a pair of jeans and he said they were the best of all the men repelling jeans I own…I think men just don’t think sometimes

No I wasn’t a horrible bully. But I said if a friend asked what I thought… I’d have to tell the truth. I find it hard not to. I’d want friends to tell me the truth, even if it was “I think it’s awful you look daft”. Surely that’s a better friend? Then lying and saying you like it.

That’s fairly unpleasant. I read this and imagined two bullying school girls sniggering. Are you like that in real life? Im guessing so. So what if it’s not to your taste. To many including the OP it obviously is.

😂😂😂

It’s not cos he’s a man. If one of my friends turned up wearing that jacket and asked me what I thought I’d have to be honest 😂

If OP had asked me I’d have said ‘burn it’ . Cowboy was quite tactful and imaginative in the circs.

It’s not cos he’s a man. If one of my friends turned up wearing that jacket and asked me what I thought I’d have to be honest 😂

My mum had a white padded coat and I would always sing Stay another Day when she wore it. 😂

He is a twat, he is talking out of his arse, but the idiot is saying things to get a reaction out of you. Don't rise to this fool.He wants a reaction.
I would find a man like him inadequate, a total dick.

Fuck me, the amount of excuses being made for this guy because he's male - would it be the same if the MIL or sister had said it, I wonder?

It doesn't matter what the outfit looked like, it doesn't matter what gender anyone is - although he does not get a pass for 'typical male behaviour', I'm sure he can manage better when so many men don't behave this way.

The issue here is that OP was upset by his comments, and firstly, felt she couldn't communicate that to him. Then, when she did communicate it to him, he doesn't seem bothered. He literally said, "You won't like my answer here, but..." So either he doesn't give a shit about OP's feelings, OP is incredibly sensitive about her appearance (which still doesn't bode well in a long-term relationship where she should feel secure in it), or both.

I'd bet good money OP has asked this small issue, knowing there are much larger issues. But now all the avoidants of Mumsnet have said she should laugh it off, she'll feel compelled to do the same. Until the next time, because it solves nothing.

Maybe he was gently trying to get you to reconsider the jacket for valentines day?

I don't ask my DH for his opinion unless I'm going to consider changing my outfit to suit his tastes. Am aware he doesn't like a lot of my clothes, doesn't bother me although I do tend to not wear the ones he doesn't like for valentines, anniversary or his birthday as a little gift to him 😁

My biggest fashion faux pas was wearing thin tights over unshaven legs once, my brother asked if I was wearing mohair 🙀

It's a shane, but I guess everyone has a mix of good, bad, and ugly outfits. You should tell him he's unforgiven.

I think it's a man thing, my husband is lovely, kind, considerate and would never hurt my feelings on purpose. He isn't known for his style, he's a jeans and t shirt or jumper kind of man. I try to be a bit more on trend with some clothes and will often get a comment about what I'm wearing, I couldn't care less and I know he's not been mean he just says what he sees.
I have a long black padded coat and when I wear it he calls me Jergen Klopp
A very on trend blouse with a big collar, he and my son say I look like a Victorian
It's just banter. When my son was trying on salopettes for a ski trip, they were blue with dungaree straps and he happened to be wearing a yellow t shirt, I was crying with laughter because he looked like a minion.

This part made me laugh : I wore a khaki jumpsuit once and my brother started saluting me as it looked vaguely like an army uniform.

He’s being unpleasant and mean. No need for it.
I’d be telling him he can go out for Valentines lunch alone.

You should wear what you like. I think you're being a bit oversensitive, but can understand why.

I personally don't like that jacket. To me, it looks like something my grandma would've worn in the 70s. It looks like it's been made from curtain scraps. Certainly doesn't say cowboy.

If you like it, and many others in here do, then wear it.

They just don't get it. Many years ago I had an orange parka style coat. Ex-h used to call it my road menders coat.

ahh this reminds me of a time I bought, what I thought, was a fabulous denim jumpsuit/boilersuit type thing..... i put it on and was a little unsure....and then DH told me I looked like a mechanic.

It got immediately returned!