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An email sent to a news outlet in NZ re: Canadian Shooter

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2021x · 12/02/2026 21:47

I sent this email to a news outlet in NZ when reporting the recent Canadian shooter.

I would be keen to know how many people feel that I am being unreasonable.

I’m writing to seek clarification on Stuff’s editorial guidelines regarding the use of female pronouns to describe a male assailant.

I became confused when reading this article: https://www.stuff.co.nz/world-news/360937660/canada-shooting-who-was-shooter-suspect-jesse-van-rootselaar. The use of “her” pronouns, alongside a photo of a male person and references to the shooter’s mother, made it difficult to understand who the “her” in those paragraphs was referring to. Female school shooters are extremely rare and therefore, the pronoun choice stood out and created uncertainty about the factual details of the case.

My understanding is that news reporting should prioritise clarity and factual accuracy- especially for such a tragic event. Using female pronouns to describe someone who is male may suggest an ideological or political framing, which raises concerns for me about impartiality in reporting at Stuff.

I’m aware that raising questions about pronoun usage can sometimes lead to assumptions about a person’s views, resulting in my concerns being dismissed as bigoted rather than considered on their merits. My intention is not to be inflammatory, but to understand why a political stance appears to have been taken in a situation where a neutral approach—such as using the individual’s name or simply “the shooter”—could have avoided confusion and not detracted from the article.

I would appreciate clarification on the editorial reasoning behind this choice.

Stuff

https://www.stuff.co.nz/world-news/360937660/canada-shooting-who-was-shooter-suspect-jesse-van-rootselaar.

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FateAmenableToChange · 12/02/2026 22:19

For such a tiny percentage of the population trans people do appear to commit an awful lot of violent and sexual crime. Why is this ideology associated with so much violence - the first similar thread below on mumsnet is about Trans terror group Bash Back!

2021x · 12/02/2026 22:18

Lmnop22 · 12/02/2026 22:05

They literally explain in the article early on that the shooter identifies as female but was born male - did you not read that bit when you became “confused”?

I also definitely don’t think that referring to someone using pronouns based on their gender identity rather than biological sex in any way prefers their ideology to shoot people in a school to other ideologies….

Hey look I am trying to keep this conversation civil and with reduced level of judgment.

I am asking about why the view that gender can be fluid between the sexes (as oppose to being fluid within sex) is being unnecessairly priortised in an article about a shooting in a national news outlet.

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Lmnop22 · 12/02/2026 22:05

2021x · 12/02/2026 21:58

Its a good question. The use of pronouns denotes a person sex, not their identity. A person can change their pronouns for their own usuage but cannot force another person to do the same. Supporting one persons ideology over anothers demonstrates political preference.

I was confused when they referred to the shooter as "her" when the only female in the article is the shooters mother. I had to read it a couple of times to understand they were referring to the shooter.

They literally explain in the article early on that the shooter identifies as female but was born male - did you not read that bit when you became “confused”?

I also definitely don’t think that referring to someone using pronouns based on their gender identity rather than biological sex in any way prefers their ideology to shoot people in a school to other ideologies….

2021x · 12/02/2026 21:58

Lmnop22 · 12/02/2026 21:54

Doesn’t seem like you were actually confused about the circumstances of the case though, you’ve demonstrated through your email that you perfectly understood that the pronouns being used were those preferred by the pictured shooter - so why create artificial “confusion” to try to illustrate your point?

How does the use of female pronouns to describe someone suggest political or ideological framing? And how does that suggest impartiality? Surely impartiality means equal treatment and fairness which is being displayed in an article where someone is described with reference to their preferred pronouns?

Its a good question. The use of pronouns denotes a person sex, not their identity. A person can change their pronouns for their own usuage but cannot force another person to do the same. Supporting one persons ideology over anothers demonstrates political preference.

I was confused when they referred to the shooter as "her" when the only female in the article is the shooters mother. I had to read it a couple of times to understand they were referring to the shooter.

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2021x · 12/02/2026 21:55

Thank you I did write the email but tweaked it with AI. The gender/sex conversation has been less prominent in NZ and its difficult to get the balance right. Most people I know are more supportive of sex being recognised over gender idenitiy but are scared of the concequences of saying that.

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Lmnop22 · 12/02/2026 21:54

Doesn’t seem like you were actually confused about the circumstances of the case though, you’ve demonstrated through your email that you perfectly understood that the pronouns being used were those preferred by the pictured shooter - so why create artificial “confusion” to try to illustrate your point?

How does the use of female pronouns to describe someone suggest political or ideological framing? And how does that suggest impartiality? Surely impartiality means equal treatment and fairness which is being displayed in an article where someone is described with reference to their preferred pronouns?

Userxyd · 12/02/2026 21:51

What an eminently sensible and balanced email. I hope they respond with the same courtesy and common sense but we know they won’t. If they prioritise the shooter’s feelings over and above the truth when reporting his sickening crimes they’re not going to bat an eyelid at telling you where to go. It’s disgusting - how do so many criminal men get so much support even when their crimes are not disputed? I send all love and strength to the families.

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