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An email sent to a news outlet in NZ re: Canadian Shooter

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2021x · 12/02/2026 21:47

I sent this email to a news outlet in NZ when reporting the recent Canadian shooter.

I would be keen to know how many people feel that I am being unreasonable.

I’m writing to seek clarification on Stuff’s editorial guidelines regarding the use of female pronouns to describe a male assailant.

I became confused when reading this article: https://www.stuff.co.nz/world-news/360937660/canada-shooting-who-was-shooter-suspect-jesse-van-rootselaar. The use of “her” pronouns, alongside a photo of a male person and references to the shooter’s mother, made it difficult to understand who the “her” in those paragraphs was referring to. Female school shooters are extremely rare and therefore, the pronoun choice stood out and created uncertainty about the factual details of the case.

My understanding is that news reporting should prioritise clarity and factual accuracy- especially for such a tragic event. Using female pronouns to describe someone who is male may suggest an ideological or political framing, which raises concerns for me about impartiality in reporting at Stuff.

I’m aware that raising questions about pronoun usage can sometimes lead to assumptions about a person’s views, resulting in my concerns being dismissed as bigoted rather than considered on their merits. My intention is not to be inflammatory, but to understand why a political stance appears to have been taken in a situation where a neutral approach—such as using the individual’s name or simply “the shooter”—could have avoided confusion and not detracted from the article.

I would appreciate clarification on the editorial reasoning behind this choice.

Stuff

https://www.stuff.co.nz/world-news/360937660/canada-shooting-who-was-shooter-suspect-jesse-van-rootselaar.

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HoskinsChoice · 13/02/2026 08:28

2021x · 13/02/2026 01:07

Good question.

The biggest threat to a womans safety is any man she is alone in a room with.

  1. Women are much more likely to experience violence from men, then they are from women.
  2. Women also live in a society where they have approximately 50% of the upper body strength that a male. This means they have the same strength as a 12 year old boy. this mean when attacked by a man, women are unable to defend themselves.As most of the violence that women experience is sexually motivated it takes place in private spaces and without any witnesses.
  3. In addition to the above, most women exist in a society where for a majority of civilisation the decision makers have overwhelmingly been male. This has meant that womens needs have always been an afterthought... sort of tagged on to the end when laws have been put into place.

In summary women exist in a world where they are more likely to be attacked by a man, less able to fight their attacker off than a man would be able to and live in a society shaped over 1000s of years influenced purely by mens experience.

Therefore all women learn at around the age for 12-15 how to risk assess any situation in which they may find themselves alone with a room with a man. That is why it is essential for the safety of women that there is clear communication in society about who is male. A major news outlet showing their preference for the politics of trans-people is a red flag to me that I cannot trust that news outlet for accurate reporting on something that effects my everyday life.

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Seriously. Go for a walk. Breathe in the fresh air. Look at the snowdrops and the buds on the trees. Listen to the birdsong. Or just watch a bit of TV or read a book. Anything to take you away from this obsession you've developed. It is incredibly unhealthy. When your obsession has developed to a point that you are writing letters to the media and attempting to justify yourself with long convoluted posts, you've gone too far. Step away or get help. He/she. It really doesn't matter.

GeneralPeter · 13/02/2026 08:21

CanadaNotAMum · 13/02/2026 04:09

Statistics Canada, or any other reputable agency that gathers and analyses data on Canadian school shootings, is not going to be using news articles as sources, and you know that. You’re just using it as a soapbox to spread your opinion that trans = bad, The fact that the shooter was born male is one of many pieces of data that will be gathered. Other things include race, socie-economic status, medical history, educational history, family history, etc.

If you were truly concerned about the accuracy of data, you should be giving proportionate attention to these as well. But you’re not, because you can’t see past your transphobia.

The fact that the shooter was born male is one of many pieces of data that will be gathered. Other things include race, socie-economic status, medical history, educational history, family history, etc.

If you were truly concerned about the accuracy of data, you should be giving proportionate attention to these as well.

If the media had reported this as having been committed by a black man, or asylum seeker, or that he was the product of an Islamist upbringing, or that he had had a psychological reaction the Covid vaccine…

…when they knew those things weren’t true…

Would you have a problem with it?

We get that being concerned about accuracy on this one issue is low-status, but it’s as important as accuracy on any other those other things you consider proper subjects of enquiry.

2021x · 13/02/2026 08:20

Something like if his distress was properly assessed and treated this might not have happened.

He still could have had gender dysphoria but the hype around it caused more urgent issues could have been overlooked.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 08:17

Yes, I think that’s quite likely.

2021x · 13/02/2026 08:10

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 07:41

It’s utterly chilling, put like that, isn’t it.

I don’t think he killed her because he was trans.

I think he killed her because he was unstable, violent and had access to guns.

I do wonder if the trans stuff masked the real issues which is where the system fell down.

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Catwalking · 13/02/2026 08:09

Passaggressfedup · 13/02/2026 03:25

You're not unreasonable but hypocritical. The purpose of your message was to express your disagreement with their choice of the use of 'her' on the basis of your ideology.

It wasn't written because you were concerned the article was confusing.

Your message was really meant to criticise the author.

I disagree with your post.
At no point can I see even the minutest criticism of the author of newspaper article.

Unusualdog · 13/02/2026 08:01

Great idea

2021x · 13/02/2026 08:00

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 13/02/2026 08:00

You weren’t confused OP clearly.

You have too much time on your hands.

Thank you for your opinion.

Have a nice day.

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TheBeaTgoeson1 · 13/02/2026 08:00

You weren’t confused OP clearly.

You have too much time on your hands.

2021x · 13/02/2026 07:59

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I would also say that I feel it promotes a political perspective, because there are societal changes that requires laws and lobbying to take affects

Therefore the queer theory and ideology are being implemented rather than remaining theories.

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2021x · 13/02/2026 07:56

NZKate · 13/02/2026 07:44

There are certainly very few but there have been at least a couple in recent years.
December 2024 — Abundant Life Christian School Natalie "Samantha" Rupnow, killed 2 people and injured 6 others before killing herself

March 2023 — The Covenant School Audrey Hale (biological female, identified as transgender FTM using he/him pronouns.) Killed 6 people (3 children and 3 adults).

I also think “I don’t like Mondays” shooting was a female.

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LeftieRightsHoarder · 13/02/2026 07:52

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2021x · 13/02/2026 07:48

Mithral · 13/02/2026 07:39

Personally I am broadly on your side (OP) about this stuff. It's very relevant that the shooter is male. I do find your email disingenuous though. You weren't confused at all you just disagree with them using his preferred pronouns. The article is very clear that he was male. Complaining they use female pronouns for trans women is a valid complaint - why pretend you're complaining about something else?

In the first paragraph they use “her” a couple of times before clariying that the shooter was male who was transitioning. Then later on in the article they use the mothers online posts as ”he like guns”.

When I was reading it this morning I was confused about whether they were talking about the same person or whether the “her” was the teenage mother and I had to read it several times to understand they were using -what they must have assumed- to be the preferred pronouns.

They could have just used “the shooter”
and state that the shooter was in the process of transitioning. They chose to use her.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 07:47

NZKate · 13/02/2026 07:44

There are certainly very few but there have been at least a couple in recent years.
December 2024 — Abundant Life Christian School Natalie "Samantha" Rupnow, killed 2 people and injured 6 others before killing herself

March 2023 — The Covenant School Audrey Hale (biological female, identified as transgender FTM using he/him pronouns.) Killed 6 people (3 children and 3 adults).

Yes, and in 2019 Alec (Maya) McKinney together with a boy, Devon Erickson.

NZKate · 13/02/2026 07:44

Empress13 · 13/02/2026 06:34

Most mass shooters in these kind of cases in schools reported over the years are male (not sure if I’ve ever seen a female) so be transparent in showing a woman

There are certainly very few but there have been at least a couple in recent years.
December 2024 — Abundant Life Christian School Natalie "Samantha" Rupnow, killed 2 people and injured 6 others before killing herself

March 2023 — The Covenant School Audrey Hale (biological female, identified as transgender FTM using he/him pronouns.) Killed 6 people (3 children and 3 adults).

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 07:41

HarryMaguireSlabHead · 13/02/2026 07:31

That's exactly the be kind messaging the killer's mother had been saying for the last few years.

He murdered her first.

It’s utterly chilling, put like that, isn’t it.

Johnogroats · 13/02/2026 07:39

Honestly can’t remember where I first read about this. Probably BBC but not definitely. However, the report was about a suspect dressed in female clothing. To me it was clear from the start that it was likely a male who was transitioning.

Mithral · 13/02/2026 07:39

Personally I am broadly on your side (OP) about this stuff. It's very relevant that the shooter is male. I do find your email disingenuous though. You weren't confused at all you just disagree with them using his preferred pronouns. The article is very clear that he was male. Complaining they use female pronouns for trans women is a valid complaint - why pretend you're complaining about something else?

CanIHelpItIfImALittleTense · 13/02/2026 07:35

Yep. Poor cow. Feeding their delusion may make you feel warm and fuzzy, but it isn't helping them, nor is it going to save you.

HarryMaguireSlabHead · 13/02/2026 07:31

CanadaNotAMum · 13/02/2026 06:01

No, I don’t fully agree with your statement as written. I have a more nuanced opinion.

Do I think that cisgender men belong in female spaces? No. Straight, cisgender men are statistically the highest risk group for women in terms of violence and sexual assault.

Do I believe that trans women, non-binary, etc belong in female spaces? Generally, sure, if that’s what they want. It makes no difference to me. The only thing I think needs some guardrails are in certain competitive sports, or sports where someone with male hormones through puberty would have much more muscle mass and could cause unavoidable injury, etc, Although this is not a simple thing either and needs nuance, as I suspect that many of the specific cases that come to mind were likely people who were born intersex, not “men pretending to be women”.

That's exactly the be kind messaging the killer's mother had been saying for the last few years.

He murdered her first.

HarryMaguireSlabHead · 13/02/2026 07:29

Did you see that one of the media outlets in Canada changed the appearance of the killer to make him look more feminine?

And the BBC is still calling him 'female'

2021x · 13/02/2026 07:28

CanadaNotAMum · 13/02/2026 06:01

No, I don’t fully agree with your statement as written. I have a more nuanced opinion.

Do I think that cisgender men belong in female spaces? No. Straight, cisgender men are statistically the highest risk group for women in terms of violence and sexual assault.

Do I believe that trans women, non-binary, etc belong in female spaces? Generally, sure, if that’s what they want. It makes no difference to me. The only thing I think needs some guardrails are in certain competitive sports, or sports where someone with male hormones through puberty would have much more muscle mass and could cause unavoidable injury, etc, Although this is not a simple thing either and needs nuance, as I suspect that many of the specific cases that come to mind were likely people who were born intersex, not “men pretending to be women”.

This is where I disagree.

Female only spaces exist for the privacy and safety of females because there is a risk that some males will take advantage and assault them.

There is no evidence that TW or non-binary folks are any less dangerous than any other type of man.

Women have not been included about the use of their spaces for males. Even if some women don’t mind, they can’t consent on my behalf and I do it want any males in any female spaces.

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2021x · 13/02/2026 07:22

Empress13 · 13/02/2026 06:24

Because it’s not actually him is it now he identifies as her! If the news article is going to report the shooter as a trans woman then show the up to date photo of said woman and not one taken bloody years ago as said boy ! That OK with you ?

Its important to know that a picture of male attempting to look like a female look like a male trying to look like a female.

Males with severe gender dysphoria who take passing seriously- spend huge amounts of money and use heavy filters online and after even after decades they still can’t pull it off.

My point is that even they had an updated photo, it still would have been confusing to use the pronoun “her” when describing a male. It will always be confusing and a national news outlet should take that into account.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:48

CanadaNotAMum · 13/02/2026 06:01

No, I don’t fully agree with your statement as written. I have a more nuanced opinion.

Do I think that cisgender men belong in female spaces? No. Straight, cisgender men are statistically the highest risk group for women in terms of violence and sexual assault.

Do I believe that trans women, non-binary, etc belong in female spaces? Generally, sure, if that’s what they want. It makes no difference to me. The only thing I think needs some guardrails are in certain competitive sports, or sports where someone with male hormones through puberty would have much more muscle mass and could cause unavoidable injury, etc, Although this is not a simple thing either and needs nuance, as I suspect that many of the specific cases that come to mind were likely people who were born intersex, not “men pretending to be women”.

There are no figures that I know of apart from prison figures that explore how many trans people commit violent crimes, so you’re not in a position to make that statement. And the prison figures are not favourable to your worldview. As things stand, given that a “trans woman” is any man who says he is a woman, there is zero reason to believe that they don’t pose as much statistical risk to women as any other man.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/02/2026 06:44

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