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An email sent to a news outlet in NZ re: Canadian Shooter

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2021x · 12/02/2026 21:47

I sent this email to a news outlet in NZ when reporting the recent Canadian shooter.

I would be keen to know how many people feel that I am being unreasonable.

I’m writing to seek clarification on Stuff’s editorial guidelines regarding the use of female pronouns to describe a male assailant.

I became confused when reading this article: https://www.stuff.co.nz/world-news/360937660/canada-shooting-who-was-shooter-suspect-jesse-van-rootselaar. The use of “her” pronouns, alongside a photo of a male person and references to the shooter’s mother, made it difficult to understand who the “her” in those paragraphs was referring to. Female school shooters are extremely rare and therefore, the pronoun choice stood out and created uncertainty about the factual details of the case.

My understanding is that news reporting should prioritise clarity and factual accuracy- especially for such a tragic event. Using female pronouns to describe someone who is male may suggest an ideological or political framing, which raises concerns for me about impartiality in reporting at Stuff.

I’m aware that raising questions about pronoun usage can sometimes lead to assumptions about a person’s views, resulting in my concerns being dismissed as bigoted rather than considered on their merits. My intention is not to be inflammatory, but to understand why a political stance appears to have been taken in a situation where a neutral approach—such as using the individual’s name or simply “the shooter”—could have avoided confusion and not detracted from the article.

I would appreciate clarification on the editorial reasoning behind this choice.

Stuff

https://www.stuff.co.nz/world-news/360937660/canada-shooting-who-was-shooter-suspect-jesse-van-rootselaar.

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BruachAbhann · 13/02/2026 13:49

Great email OP. I am in the process of writing a similar one to complain to an Irish newspaper who are still using female pronouns to describe this male shooter. My trust in mainstream media decreases every day!

This is not a woman's crime and should be reported on accurately.

FranticFrankie · 13/02/2026 13:35

Reporting should be accurate, wherever it's from- it is more respectful to the victims who are the most important people in this. Inaccuracies cause more confusion for the rest of the reading public. As we have seen before, people are often confused between the terms 'transwoman' ie the general public asking " is this a woman identifying as a man or a man identifying as a woman?"

I do wish this confused boy had more help for his mental health. His mother tried to help but was murdered first?
This is a male person and all the obfuscating and does not help.
He wouldn't know whether you respect his pronouns or not

OP I admire your tenacity in remaining polite in the face of rudeness or dismissive and patronising replies from posters who for example, just told you to go for a walk.
FFS

Naunet · 13/02/2026 13:09

HoskinsChoice · 13/02/2026 08:28

Seriously. Go for a walk. Breathe in the fresh air. Look at the snowdrops and the buds on the trees. Listen to the birdsong. Or just watch a bit of TV or read a book. Anything to take you away from this obsession you've developed. It is incredibly unhealthy. When your obsession has developed to a point that you are writing letters to the media and attempting to justify yourself with long convoluted posts, you've gone too far. Step away or get help. He/she. It really doesn't matter.

So in other words, ladies, don't worry your pretty little heads about it? Who the hell are you to lecture women on not being concerned about male appropriation exactly?

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 13/02/2026 12:52

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 09:35

Everyone has a right to be respected. The article retained journalistic integrity by making it clear early on in the article that the person concerned was a trans female and that’s why the pronouns being used were being used. Nobody was led to believe this was a cis woman shooter.

Surveys have shown that the general public are very confused by the relatively newly invented trans terminology.

There is no such thing as a male female. While treating people respectfully is important, the truth (especially in a news outlet) is even more important.

It is not respectful to women to pretend that some men are also women.

HeisseWeisseSchokolade · 13/02/2026 12:34

2021x · 12/02/2026 23:18

Thank you for your comment.

It is important for me as a female to be able to tell who is male and who isn't.

Simple. If you were born with a dongle and a Y chromosome, you are a man. If you were born with a vagina and two X chromosomes, you are a woman. Everything else is sophistry.

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 13/02/2026 11:13

HoskinsChoice · 13/02/2026 08:28

Seriously. Go for a walk. Breathe in the fresh air. Look at the snowdrops and the buds on the trees. Listen to the birdsong. Or just watch a bit of TV or read a book. Anything to take you away from this obsession you've developed. It is incredibly unhealthy. When your obsession has developed to a point that you are writing letters to the media and attempting to justify yourself with long convoluted posts, you've gone too far. Step away or get help. He/she. It really doesn't matter.

It does amuse me how many posters who dish out this sort of advice are here on these threads totally NOT following their own advice.

I’m sure as it has temporarily stopped raining, we will all whizz out and enjoy some spring flowers.

It doesn’t change the fact that no one has ever changed sex in the history of the world, men calling themselves women is harmful to women and it is important for news outlets to report the facts.

I’m off to check out my camellias which have just started and I’ve got some stunning jasmine perfuming the conservatory. Back later.

2021x · 13/02/2026 11:12

Kiwi09 · 13/02/2026 10:16

A quick google explains the reasoning behind the journalists choice. It appears that the publication they write for says in its style guide that you should use the pronouns that the person uses for themself.

The that is what I will challenge next.

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2021x · 13/02/2026 11:05

Helleofabore · 13/02/2026 10:17

Will you let us know, OP, if you get a reply?

I think that the more people complain about the lack of clarity in news being reported, hopefully better standards will apply. I found the ABC (Australia) clung to describing the shooter as a woman long after it also made a brief sentence about the shooter was male. They continued to have it in the headline.

The BBC was marginally better.

Yes I will.

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2021x · 13/02/2026 11:04

Kiwi09 · 13/02/2026 09:56

@2021x Stuff likely didn’t have anyone put any thought into this article. It is just publishing content by the Associated Press like numerous other news outlets around the world. Probably best to reach out to the journalists from the Associated Press directly.

Edited

Fair enough but they still have responsibility for what the publishing it is inaccurate.

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Anonycat · 13/02/2026 10:50

2021x · 13/02/2026 01:51

This would be interesting to know. Maybe they are the only ones on the internet.

No, if you google the name and look at "images" there are several. It is obvious from the recent one that the murderer was male.

KeepYaHeadUp · 13/02/2026 10:26

I cannot imagine this story being in your consciousness and THIS being what has “confused” you.

CanIHelpItIfImALittleTense · 13/02/2026 10:20

What kind of fuckwit would put on a dress to go shooting?

Helleofabore · 13/02/2026 10:17

Will you let us know, OP, if you get a reply?

I think that the more people complain about the lack of clarity in news being reported, hopefully better standards will apply. I found the ABC (Australia) clung to describing the shooter as a woman long after it also made a brief sentence about the shooter was male. They continued to have it in the headline.

The BBC was marginally better.

Kiwi09 · 13/02/2026 10:16

A quick google explains the reasoning behind the journalists choice. It appears that the publication they write for says in its style guide that you should use the pronouns that the person uses for themself.

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 10:11

FeliciteFaff · 13/02/2026 10:03

I think you've forgotten that whilst most Mumsnetters support transgender people. We also ask for clarity and we also want to be clear on actual sex rather than perceived sex. In this case the shooter was a biological male.

That was made clear in the article

Helleofabore · 13/02/2026 10:05

That is a good email 2021x!

FeliciteFaff · 13/02/2026 10:03

Lmnop22 · 12/02/2026 22:05

They literally explain in the article early on that the shooter identifies as female but was born male - did you not read that bit when you became “confused”?

I also definitely don’t think that referring to someone using pronouns based on their gender identity rather than biological sex in any way prefers their ideology to shoot people in a school to other ideologies….

I think you've forgotten that whilst most Mumsnetters support transgender people. We also ask for clarity and we also want to be clear on actual sex rather than perceived sex. In this case the shooter was a biological male.

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 09:58

bananafake · 13/02/2026 09:46

Well I heard a radio report where the shooter was described as a female shooter. I was very surprised as it’s unusual for women to commit these kind of crimes. How often do they actually fit the stereotype of a young, disaffected male with mental health issues and distanced from the world? It’s better to be honest because these males need better mental health treatment rather than just supporting their delusions.

Agree if that’s what the radio said that they didn’t give the full picture. This article, on the other hand, was not misleading in my opinion

Kiwi09 · 13/02/2026 09:56

@2021x Stuff likely didn’t have anyone put any thought into this article. It is just publishing content by the Associated Press like numerous other news outlets around the world. Probably best to reach out to the journalists from the Associated Press directly.

Anonycat · 13/02/2026 09:49

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 09:40

They did no such thing - did you read the article? They explain that this is a trans person in the article so they have clearly stated the facts and chosen to refer to the person in the way they prefer which isn’t misleading anyone

In the English language the pronoun "she" means a female person or animal. In this instance the person referred to is not female, so it is factually incorrect. Journalism is not about being kind and humouring people.

And no, everyone doesn’t have "a right to be respected" if "being respected" means forcing everyone else to use the language you prefer but which they don’t want to use because it is inaccurate.

bananafake · 13/02/2026 09:46

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 09:40

They did no such thing - did you read the article? They explain that this is a trans person in the article so they have clearly stated the facts and chosen to refer to the person in the way they prefer which isn’t misleading anyone

Well I heard a radio report where the shooter was described as a female shooter. I was very surprised as it’s unusual for women to commit these kind of crimes. How often do they actually fit the stereotype of a young, disaffected male with mental health issues and distanced from the world? It’s better to be honest because these males need better mental health treatment rather than just supporting their delusions.

bananafake · 13/02/2026 09:41

Boppydoodah · 13/02/2026 09:18

Except the headline Stuff used has "shooter" and the name, not gender or sex. As far as I've seen Stuff's reporting has been very clear. Early reports overseas - well, a) there's a lot of chaos in the beginning of these events so facts are often muddled and updated later (eg death roll was revised down), and b) it sounded to me like they weren't sure where the shooter was so wanted people to be aware of someone who - at first glance - would appear to be female. If everyone was looking for a male, that female looking person might then slip the net or kill more people. That's a very brief thought from this morning, I stayed away from most reports because quite frankly I've had enough bad news for one week, and I knew the trans issue would obscure focus on the victims which will be just horrendous for the families. The absolute last thing they need is for their raw losses to be co-opted into a political firestorm right now.

It’s even more confusing if you frame them as female. The shooter really didn’t look like a woman, whatever their pronouns. If they were still at large this would cause serious confusion. They should have been termed a TW or male transitioning to TW if people’s lives were at risk. This may not have been the case here as the shooter was already dead but it’s a point of principle.

We had a rapist here in the UK of a teen boy who was described as female. Very confusing until you read they were a six foot two TW or maybe just man disguised as a woman. What if you had actually been a witness but didn’t ring the police because you wouldn’t have recognised the description from the early media reports.

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 09:40

Anonycat · 13/02/2026 09:38

Why is it different? Unless it’s an opinion piece, surely journalism should be factual. Once a journalist starts altering facts to suit the sensibilities or preferences of the person they’re writing about, their work becomes useless.

They did no such thing - did you read the article? They explain that this is a trans person in the article so they have clearly stated the facts and chosen to refer to the person in the way they prefer which isn’t misleading anyone

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/02/2026 09:40

Lmnop22 · 12/02/2026 22:05

They literally explain in the article early on that the shooter identifies as female but was born male - did you not read that bit when you became “confused”?

I also definitely don’t think that referring to someone using pronouns based on their gender identity rather than biological sex in any way prefers their ideology to shoot people in a school to other ideologies….

This man shot other people. Personally I don't care what pronouns he wanted people to use.

2021x · 13/02/2026 09:39

Lmnop22 · 13/02/2026 09:35

You canvassed opinion…

Now I see you only wanted those that agreed with you, my mistake

You gave an opinion, which I am grateful
for.

You didn’t provide any reasoning or ask any questions.

Therefore there was nothing else to say to you other than Thank you.

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