dd15 induction tomorrow & i have a bug

Your poor DD. I hope dad and (ex?) bf are good to her and that they find her a nice supportive nurse.

My ex H wasn't there for my DD's birth. Actually, I was glad he wasn't (and we were still happily married at that point) since he hadn't been much support with DS. Being alone was ok, apart from stupid woman doctor who said I was using too much gas and air (idiot woman).

They are both underage so both have had sex with a minor unless there was any coercion
Do you really think it ,s in the public interest to involve the police?

How's everything going op? Hope you are both ok xx

I hope you feel better OP and best of luck to your daughter.
I really hope it’s a smooth birth for her 💐

That's a really good suggestion. And actually a student midwife probably won't be that much older than her 3/4 years older so will feel like a friend.

Op I hope you are better soon and able to support her. But you know what she's going to need you for a long time to come.

When the hospital knew I might be birthing alone they suggested a student midwife or nurse be assigned to me as a birthing partner. Not as good as someone she knows, of course, but a bit of continuity in the different wards and she might feel better having an adult to advocate for her.

Pleased she has someone there.
I hope all goes well and you start feel better soon!

You can't leave it any longer. She'll have to go on her own. If she's mature enough to get pregnant, she's mature enough to handle the midwives. Could be 3 days before the baby arrives. You obviously cannot go. Poor kid.

Excellent point. This is a discussion that needs to be had after the birth and before registration.

Not to mention the fact that isolation rooms/side rooms should be prioritised for patients, not contagious family members. They are usually in short supply as it is.

As an aside OP I hope your daughter isn’t giving this baby the father’s surname. Please make her aware of the implications of this eg she will need to get his permission for all manner of things including going on holiday. Point out that if she gives the baby her surname and any subsequent children the same they will all have the same name, the only way she’ll guarantee it. Register the baby on the quiet.

An isolation room won’t work as drs etc will be in and out. They often rotate shifts between AN, PN and NICU / SCBU, you cannot risk passing on this illness. Your dd will have to go alone or with someone else.

He sounds immature rather than nasty. You're expecting him to act like a man but he just isn't. They're children having children ffs. Hopefully the birth will give him the shock he needs and mature him enough to allow him to be a decent father but the odds are stacked against him. 15 year old boys are not known for their maturity and responsibility.

Exactly - but make sure she knows the options - delay the induction, go alone, go with someone else
She might not know she can ask to delay

I would be very wary of her getting pregnant again ny this boy since she still "loves" him. Don't take responsibility for the baby. Make her responsible for the day to day care, let her carry the weight so she doesn't think it is easy.

Speak to the hospital first of all, then if you need to, reach out to friends and see if there is anyone who can help and ask the hospital about a doula accompanying her as you can't. I wouldn't delay an induction for reduced movements and the baby previously measuring small for gestational age, always better to be on the safe side.

Being fed up has got nothing to do with being a petulant child and more to do with the toll pregnancy can take on you. Adult women with multiple pregnancies behind them also often feel this way.

@BootleggedMaterialthe OP hasn’t arranged anything. Obviously it would be up to her daughter IF she felt she needed or wanted support.

For some people the kindness of a stranger might be preferable to someone they know.

Half of MN doesn't know what 'safeguarding' means, tbh.

A pregnancy under 16 will automatically incur a referral to the LA social care team. OP's DD should have a named social worker and there should have been a pre-birth assessment which will, amongst other things, look for signs of coercion or abuse. It would be a good idea to notify them of the situation.

Maybe. But how young would you go before you found consensual sex OK?
14, 13, 12, 10?

Maybe parenting or lack of it is involved, hence a suggestion upthread of a safeguarding issue.

Then let her go on her own. Unacceptable to go a labour ward with a vomiting bug. As for being “fed up”, being a petulant child will need to change now that she’s gotten herself into this situation

AIBU - I gave birth as a child and my mum arranged for two strangers off the internet to tag along for the birth

i know it's well-meant but...

I had 2 pessaries, 1st did nothing, baby was born within 5 hours of the second one. But that was a second baby.

Hardly in the public interest to prosecute two under 16s for having presumably consensual sex, is it?