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dd15 induction tomorrow & i have a bug

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lunarwhisper · 12/02/2026 19:57

Reposting in AIBU for traffic
Trying to keep this brief

My dd is 15 and she's 3 days overdue we went to the hospital yesterday for reduced movements all fine but she's been booked in for an induction tomorrow
We arent the closest and werent before the pregnancy either due to her behaviour at the time and she was living with her dad for a few months befoe she found out but i was meant to be her birthing partner .

Since shes been off school we have been closer and going out together when my younger dc are at school but we did have an argument as she wants to call the baby something ridiculous and she called me controlling

The dad isnt the nicest of boys and tbh neither is his dad ive only spoke to him once and that was when i told him dd was pregnant and he said how did his son know its his and called dd a slag

They eventually broke up and he was bullying her along with his friends in school which made her anxious about attending , she blocked him and they had no contact from december until recently , they aren't back together but apparently he does want to be involved

Anyway fast forward to the issue, she is due to be induced tomorrow and I've woken up today vomiting and I don't feel the greatest. The dc’s dad aren't really involved tbh but the plan was he come here and be with the dc (though they'll not be home during the day) and I go with dd. Im now unsure what to do as I wont be much help to dd and obviously with a bug on the labour ward wont be good anyway

The dad is under 16 so i doubt just then would be allowed and I dont think dd would want him there anyway , i don't know if shed want her dad there either(i wouldnt have wanted mine there at 15 and we were much closer than dd and her dad) and im unsure how much use he’d be

What the hell do we do??

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CasuallyConfused · 14/02/2026 17:50

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Thankfully it isn't 40+ years ago, and young unmarried women aren't forced into harmful adoptions anymore.

There is absolutely no need to make this comment, it's out of date and unnecessary.

Op congratulations, I hope your daughter is doing well and you recover soon so you can meet your new grandson X

RootRot · 14/02/2026 17:35

Thankfully OP is probably spending time with her family now (if the sickness has subsided anyway!) but she shouldn’t have to read comments asking if her newborn grandson will be adopted. I mean seriously, what century do you live in? Really not appropriate.

Evaka · 14/02/2026 17:22

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Whisht, you fool

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/02/2026 17:12

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

What the hell kind of question is that?!

Ducksbehindthesofa · 14/02/2026 17:11

Congratulations to you all and hope you all feel better soon too!

Needspaceforlego · 14/02/2026 15:59

Glad to here she's delivered safely.
Hope your all clear of bugs soon.

DD and baby might be resistant to the bug as she has been living in the same house. But I'd still be super careful with disinfectant and if possible use seperate bathrooms.

Lifeomars · 14/02/2026 15:50

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Oh give me strength!

Lifeomars · 14/02/2026 15:48

Pleased that the baby boy is here safely and that your daughter is ok. What a roller coaster you have all been through, hope that the sickness clears as soon as possible.

RampantIvy · 14/02/2026 15:44

@lunarwhisper Does the hospital know that there is D and V in the house? Surely, they can't discharge her back to your house until you are all well?

Kirbert2 · 14/02/2026 14:37

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

It's very, very clear that there is no plan for her to give her baby up for adoption.

VivaDixie · 14/02/2026 14:32

Congratulations OP!

Sorry to hear you are poorly but do get yourself tip top before seeing her - you will have years ahead of you to love your DGS.

My friend's DD gave birth at 17 - my friend really worried as her DD wasnt the most responsible when she got pregnant - she really stepped up to the game however and is a wonderful mum. I hope it all works out for you all and you get GM hugs with the little one soon Flowers

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 14:31

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

ODFO.

VivaDixie · 14/02/2026 14:30

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Let me be the first to say.....

FFS!!!

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 14/02/2026 13:05

Thank god all is OK, I hope DD is recovering well. It sounds like she has been through a lot already with the awful boy bullying her, I hope for all your sakes he and his family have little to do with you both. I hope you feel better soon and enjoy the baby snuggles. Wishing you all the best

DontTellMama · 14/02/2026 13:00

Awww congrats OP, glad baby boy has arrived safely. When is DD due to come home? Do you have more than one bathroom? Norovirus (if it is that) can survive on surfaces for up to 2 weeks, so you need to be militant with cleaning. Would she be safer staying elsewhere if people are still unwell? Is she planning to BF or FF?

Sellseashells · 14/02/2026 12:57

Congratulations! Fabulous news. Well done dd ❤️

RootRot · 14/02/2026 12:26

zingally · 14/02/2026 10:58

Agree.

Is there no auntie or kind family friend? I'd do this for any of the teenage girls I know without a single thought.

Check the last update, OP’s grandson has arrived, they managed to work it out

NattyDenimLurker · 14/02/2026 12:16

Congratulations to you and your DD. Flowers

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/02/2026 12:14

Congratulations to all.

Quickchangenow · 14/02/2026 12:11

zingally · 14/02/2026 10:58

Agree.

Is there no auntie or kind family friend? I'd do this for any of the teenage girls I know without a single thought.

Keep up! Beautiful baby boy has been born ❤️

Sunshineclouds11 · 14/02/2026 12:04

Congratulations to you all!

Hope you all start feeling better soon.

wishing your DD well!

TirednessOnToast · 14/02/2026 11:34

Many CONGRATULATIONS to you and your brave Dd on the safe arrival of a baby boy.
You all did just the right thing x

Stickytoffeetartt · 14/02/2026 11:29

Congratulations OP, I hope you all feel better soon and get to see your dd & new grandson 🥰You will probably get lots more comments offering input from people who haven't rtft to see that baby is now here!!

zingally · 14/02/2026 10:58

onlyforyou · 12/02/2026 20:35

dd doesn’t have any friends? You don’t have any friends that she knows? I wouldn’t let her go alone (unless that’s definitely what she would prefer)

I accompanied a friends teenage dd to an intimate medical procedure because mum was ill and only other person available was her dad. I didn’t know her well at all but she just needed a woman to support her, I’m sure there is someone who would be willing to do the same.

Agree.

Is there no auntie or kind family friend? I'd do this for any of the teenage girls I know without a single thought.