dd15 induction tomorrow & i have a bug

As he's the dad I'm sure he'd be allowed to attend. If she wants him.

Do you have a close friend you could ask? Otherwise maybe be with her remotely via a video call?

She is unfortunately going to have to get used to doing things alone.

An induction is tough and she is only 15. I would ask anyone I can, it is an exceptional situation and people will understand. Friends of yours, a neighbour…if you can’t find anyone then I’d phone around to find a last minute doula or private midwife, then at least she has someone by her side who is only focused on her and will advocate for her.

I’ve laboured without any close people with me and it was crap so I certainly wouldn’t want a fifteen year old to do it. Any older women who are close to DD anywhere? A family friend, an aunt, a mentor of some kind. Even the mother of her best friend might be better than no one!

As much as both of the babies parents sound like they haven't had a good relationship during the pregnancy I'd take a step back and let the father be there.

Loiter in the car park if you feel you want/need to but they both made this baby and if your DD wants him there and he wants to be there so be it.

Left on there own without either parents around may just be what they need for a few hours. They're about to go through something life changing and will both have to grow up fast..
Be available, but in the shadows until needed.

It’s 48 hours from you last being sick. So you need to make plans. If your dd wants it over and done with then she needs to do the adult thing and go alone. Or if she wants you there she needs to wait as she isn’t that overdue. Can the dad’s mum come with her if you can’t? With the dad I expect they would let him being there as obviously mum is underage too but I think they’d want an adult there too.

He's the dad so I think it's unlikely that he'd need permission. Best to call the hospital and explain in the morning and they'll be able to advise you better.

They may even have someone who will be able to be with her at least some of the time such as a healthcare worker or a specialist midwife for teen mums.

I'm sorry op this is a stressful situation.

i would honestly be asking anyone I could who I trusted.
if a friend asked me in this situation I would be there to stand in.
as said, it could be couple of days before the baby is born, which hopefully your better for.

You can't accompany your daughter, as you have a sickness bug. That's not an option and would be hugely irresponsible to go to a maternity ward knowing you are unwell. You have four choices to put to your daughter.

1. Your daughter goes into hospital to be induced on her own.
2. Your daughter calls the hospital and explains that you are unwell, and would it be possible to delay the induction by a 2-3 days.
3. Your daughter calls the hospital and explains you're unwell and can't be her birthing partner, is there any help the hospital can provide.
4. Your daughter's Dad goes with her instead.

Have you told your daughter that you are unwell and can't be her birthing partner? Or have you not yet told her? If you haven't told her, then you must as soon as possible, because, like it or not, your daughter is going to have to make a decision. None of the options are ideal, but your daughter has limited options available to her.

At least you're aware my comment was aimed at you. Being a single mum and coping with what comes with that is very different to leaving a 15 year old to go through the induction process and give birth alone and basically saying 'tough', which is how your post came across.

I was going to suggest this. I'm a single mum and had one as I'd have been completely alone otherwise and she was an amazing support.

those saying she's going to be a single mum anyway so let her do it alone are cruel. She's 15 ffs

Oh FFS, people have suggested many things in this thread and OP has said none of them will work so what do you suggest?

People have suggested a friend or family member goes instead but OP said there is no one.
People suggested delaying the induction but OP said her daughter doesn’t want to.

It’s not about being cruel it’s about the fact that sometimes in life we have no choice. No one would ever say this is great because it isn’t but there will be staff at the hospital to support her.

Can she not just go in for a sweep and monitoring then come back home to see if labour happens naturally? 3 days over is nothing really
But if it's because of reduced movements or foetal heartbeat etc then maybe she does need to be seen regularly and induced. It may take a few days so you have time to get over your bug
Could you speak to triage perhaps she could have her own room and you could visit her there without being on the labour ward and passing germs on.

Would a doula be an option?

My induction took six days, with every intervention imaginable. I spent most of that time crying, and I was 30! It ended in an emergency C-section, as 25% of inductions do. I couldn’t even comprehend going through that alone at the age of 15

If it’s safe to delay the induction itself (perhaps they would admit her for monitoring in light of reduced movements?), is there a friend/aunt/cousin who could be with her and you take over when you are 48hrs clear of vomiting? Or might she be open to having a professional doula with her, if you can find one at short notice?

Was the baby found to be okay after she went to be checked for the reduced movements? If CTG was normal, growth is normal, your DD is low risk and is happy with the baby’s movements now, it would be entirely reasonable for her to delay the induction by a couple days. Inductions can be quite invasive and involve lots of vaginal exams, for such a young girl I’d want to be there for her as it’s such a vulnerable time.

Does she have an specialist support such as specialist midwife or social worker?
Obviously you cant be her birthing partner with a vomiting bug. Dd needs to make a choice if she goes it alone or is willing to wait a couple of days until you are better.

There must be someone you can ask. Neither of you have any friends? Other mums from school? Neigbours?

I don't see many other options if OP isn't well and they insist that the induction goes ahead.

Hopefully it will take a few days anyway and OP is feeling better by then.

I've been induced twice, both times it took over 24 hours for them to break my waters.
when was the last time you were sick?

This! It took three days with my son

I was induced twice, the first time it took 3 days before they broke my waters, the second I was in for 5 days first. I think that's quite normal, so there's a good chance you won't miss the birth if your bug passes soon. Good luck to you both x

Just to add: i was going out of my mind both times being stuck in there during the induction process. Anyone who's had an induction will tell you they are horrendous. All those saying she's going to be a single mum anyway so let her do it alone are cruel. She's 15 ffs

I also think you are going to be of more support when GC is here.