Anonymous valentines card from a woman in my street

That was written by a man, who doesn’t understand women at all.

Very formal isn't it! Admirer of yours no less 😁

Valentines are supposed to be anonymous.

On the assumption it's legit, you need to decide if you are outraged or flattered, if you are interested or not and have an intention to respond or not - or sleuth a bit!

Might just be her, might be her and her husband. They might be sex people and using the female to butter you up...

Now. If you can get a GoPro or similar and film your walk to the bus stop you may be able to spot her, she will be looking if she is real. Then you can decide how to proceed..

Box of OMO in your window and a rainbow scarf or twenty layers of bulky clothing and sunglasses.

Personally I'd be flattered and amused. Probably not interested but might have a little daydream 🤔

I'd be tempted to raise it with the police, as a precautionary measure so that there is a record, it says they watch you walking to the bus, and before everyone jumps on me saying i'm over reacting, i got stalked by an ex for 6 months, it may seem trivial now but it could be the start of something

Whether it’s a man or woman it’s creepy as fuck. I’d keep it in a drawer for ‘evidence’ in case the person does something else unhinged.

A woman definitely would not send this. Your ex’s family are pretty awful if they sent this. Is there a post mark?

Man with a fetish for writing dirty letters to random women. Bin it.

No way did a woman write that.

OP did you, or your XH ever express doubts with your sexuality? This sounds like an unhinged man/ family for sure.

Very weird! Is it handwritten, and does the writing style seem familiar in any way?

Is your ex local? If it was posted and you still have the envelope check the postmark printed on it! May give you more clues!

It's giving me teenage boy who has been on the internet too much vibes. If you know who is supposed to come from, I would go and see them and say that you know it is a prank and you suspect some local teenager but just making them aware of it - they might have sent her one from you!

To top it all, it isn't even Valentine's Day for a couple of days!

you could rate her / him like theyre on Strictly

0/10 for effort
0/10 for being anonymous
0/10 for being a mature adult
10/10 for wasting money

💃

Ugh! Sounds like something a man would write. Basically putting his fantasies to paper. Bin.

I think you would be surprised what unhinged behaviour you get from people you know.

Just off the top of my head:
my ex husband (a secondary teacher) sent me a few cards one was a sympathy card, no one had died, one was a get well soon card, one was a good luck card. All were signed from different people. The police were not interested at all.

A woman who was the ex wife of a guy I dated sent me cards birthday and Christmas - she also smashed my car up. None of it could be proven and after I got cameras.

That's definitely not from a woman is it? It's from an extremely thick man who couldn't even work out that a woman probably wouldn't reference dicks when sending a card like that to another woman. It's someone who knows you get the bus so they must know you in some capacity - that's creepy.

That sounds like AGP wording - a man who fantasies that he's a lesbian, usually from watching too much porn.

Are there any men on your street who wear women's clothing?

I'm not sure why you would mock. This isn't your run of the mill anonymous valentine.

This person is unknown to her, has sent her graphic sexual content about what they want to do to her, and has clearly been watching her to know her routine and knows where she lives, and has gone out of their way to avoid being identified.

Save the card in case the matter escalates and you find yourself having to collate evidence of stalking etc. and don’t mention it to anyone……. family, friends, neighbours, work colleagues.
Then put it out of your mind, it can only bother you if you keep dwelling on it.

It might be someone’s idea of a stupid joke and they took the opportunity of Valentines Day to make contact, albeit anonymously. To be honest, the postal system being so crap it’s a wonder it arrived before Halloween, so the sender took a gamble on that for sure!

If you receive any further ‘correspondence’ in the form of cards, letters or even messages on your mobile then save those too. In the event that things do escalate you will need as much evidence as possible to build a case.

It’s a bit creepy tbh, but at least it’s not nasty or spiteful.

Would a woman do this?

It's your ex. You already have intuited this, so trust yourself.

Keep it hidden away as evidence as this could eb the start of a stalking campaign. Don't ever mention it to him or his family.

How’s it both anonymous and you know who it’s from?

And how could she do that when she has no way of communicating that? She doesn't even know who it's from....