My 6 yr old has attacked another child

Tead the reply above yours from moveonthecards. The parents of the injured child do not owe anyone understanding or sympathy

Please, I am astounded by your insensitivity and lack of insight

This is often the case for TAs at special schools too

Why would she? He has to be educated. It’s the law.

I know I’m not capable of home schooling my little darlings, so school it is.

Leave her alone.
School is supposed to be a safe place for you to entrust others to keep your child from any form of harm.
I would be absolutely furious and not be 'cool' with an apology knowing the very next day my child could potentially be under violent attack again.

Her kid was attacked and the kid who did it will still be in school tomorrow, with her son. Leave her alone. I was that mum and the constant “I’m sorry, he’s autistic” from the bully’s mum nearly pushed me over the edge. Years and years of my kid being attacked by the same kid, who was never punished because “autism.” No. I don’t want to hear the mum making excuses and giving empty apologies when she should have pulled her son out of school because he was out of control.

Mine had it all through primary and then 2 years of high school. That’s when I called the police. It stopped. Funny that.

You are absolutely being vitriolic, and also completely unsympathetic to the OP, who will be feeling completely devastated I would imagine.
I always wonder about people who seem to gleefully comment in such a negative way on posts like these, what do you actually get out of it?

My DC was physically attacked by another child at primary school. The parents contacted us directly with a waffly ‘apology’, we didn’t reply (we were worried about the impact on our DC, and too furious with the situation as there were indications of escalating behaviour issues with this child). The parents then kept messaging us, it felt like we were being harassed to ‘forgive and move on’. I would leave them alone. You’ve said your piece.

I hope your son gets the additional support he needs but (and I mean this kindly) the child he attacked and their family don’t owe you anything.

For what it's worth i think you did the right thing apologising but don't be offended she didn't reply and dont follow up with her. She needs time to process and she'll get over it in time. Its not your fault or your child's fault. Doesn't mean the behaviour is ok as you've already acknowledged which is great but let the school deal with the right approach now.

@FeelShame So so sorry for you. I know the feeling of guilt and shame when your child has done something that goes against everything you have taught him. It's NOT YOUR FAULT. You have sent a message to say you're sorry- now back away. The other parent will be angry ofcourse so don't expect forgiveness. What you can do is ofcourse bring your child to his regular therapy (I suppose he's with cahms) and tell them what happened. Work on strategies with your son so he knows what to do next time he's angry. Has he got 1:1? If not talk to school and set up a plan together- when your son feels like he's going to lose it he must have a plan and the school must be onboard. It could be anything from running around on the school yard to having a mini tent in class he can crawl and do breathing exercices to call down. You know your son and what works. It's important that this doesn't happen agains- for the other children but also for your son- so work with him to find a* *strategy. So sorry for you. Been there💐.

All of you saying the DC should have a 1:1, who is going to pay for that?

If my child was attacked at school they would be so scared to go back in the same classroom, i wouldnt be surprised if that child isn’t in tomor. A teacher with 30 children in the class can’t be standing over the child that did it in case they are violent again. I’m not sure what the answer is here but i would be seriously considering other schools that specialise in SEN and with the recources to deal with behaviour like this

Leave her alone. Your child has attacked her child and left marks on his face.

No diagnosis or excuse will make her feel like any happier about what’s happened.

It doesn’t not matter to me why a child has attacked mine, this is not
the fault or the problem of the victimised child. Why can no one see this? Would anyone here work in an office where a co worker attacked them? No of course you would not. It is not acceptable for a child to be put in that situation either. If the school cannot safe guard ALL the children then it is not
the right place for the autistic child. That is not vitriolic for gods sake

Really he shouldn't be in mainstream. It's the wrong setting for children that can't regulate or understand.
Even with a 1:1, it would just mean that staff member gets attacked instead (which I know is preferable to a child, but still not great!)

A friend of mine is a SEN HLTA in a mainstream school and she is regularly bitten punched kicked.

This, who would you “be furious” with if your son is attacked like this?

Does your come take you feel better about yourself?

You have obviously had no experience with an autistic child, who by the way is 6 years old.
If you can’t add anything constructive to the discussion, I suggest you bow out and take your vitriol somewhere else.

You’ve said sorry.
School has failed both children. You both need answers on how your children’s needs are going to be met to ensure something like that never happens again.

You’ve apologised so now I would leave the other mum.

I’d be speaking to the school about what they will have in place to prevent this from happening again. The staff need to be able to read his cues and step in to preempt and prevent anything in future. It’s about keeping your child safe as well as others.

Think this may be the kind of response you could expect if you pester the other mother.

Better to focus your efforts on ensuring he has the required support going forwards so that this doesn’t happen again.

More insensitive than allowing a 6 year old child to go to school the next day with a child who has viciously attacked them?!

What a disgusting comment. He is a child with additional needs.

I feel for you op. My autistic son did the same a few years back when he was about 7, to a girl. It was horrendous.

i wouldn’t message the mum again or approach her, she will be angry and upset.

you’ve done all you can.

Leave her alone. Her child has been attacked so she's probably not interested in anything other than him right now.