My 6 yr old has attacked another child

I'm not saying it's your problem at all. However a parent cannot demand a place at a specialist setting for their child and for all you know, the parent may be fighting for that.

Your later post sounds like you don't believe it was autism, in which case it isn't relevant. We can only take the op's post at face value and assume her son does indeed have autism.

It is that easy, to keep my child safe. Which was all I cared about and after 6 years, all that mattered. I honestly don’t care what would have happened to that kid. Six years of my child being attacked. It really was as simple as pulling that kid out of school and my child wouldn’t have been attacked.

That kid’s issues were not my problem and not my child’s problem and after years of it, they lost all right to any empathy from me. He should have been removed.

Luckily it stopped once police were involved, which tells me that it would have stopped sooner if his parents had actually parented or done anything f at all than cry that he had autism.

Leave her alone ffs

I bet I wouldn’t !

That's like saying every adult has the potential, pointless statement really because anyone who does attack other people has to face consequences

Governors can overturn a suspension if child has SEND and adjustments have not been taken into account when deciding whether to suspend

Bet you would change your tune if it was the other way round.

They all have the potential.

She should have asked them to honour the suspension.

There's nothing you could have done differently. I think the school is wrong- a suspension around have occurred. Regardless of why he didn't violence against another child has to mean suspension, if only to guve the victim a break from seeing the perpetrator.
And a suspension might even have helped you get the help you need.

You're in a tough situation.

So she keeps him home and gets fined?

This thread is infuriating. You can't just demand a place in a special school and get one.

I have sympathy for both the children. Neither should be in that situation.

Im not familiar with English sen process. But school should bow be doing somehting like an emergency risk assessment of your child and submitting it to relevant authority

Get onto whoever does the educational plans and explain your child has attacked and hurt another child due to needs bot being met. Look up legislation and get some legal advice if needed. You need to push push push for the ehcp now!!!

Get to sen sos, NAS - someone who can advocate for you and your child ASAP.

You may also want to consider if mainstream can meet his needs. If he is trying to hold it all together and exploding at home he may need a different environment

Above all you need to become a pushy sen parent to get that ehcp

I have all the sympathy for your children. My son has been there as well. However since then I have learnt a fair bit about SEN due to my other child having SEN needs. It isn't just as easy as pulling the child out of school sadly, even if the parents wanted to.

What does that mean? Not every 6 yo is attacking others?

Yes, yes it does ! I’m fact, had this child not been autistic he WOULD have been suspended.

Safety first , inclusion second.

That goes for every child of that age then.

Your child should not be around other children if he does something like this. That other poor child and the others who will also be upset by this. You need to keep him at home until you can guarantee that anyone else won’t be attacked.

Bit harsh if it is first time. All children should get one chance to make amends.

Would you rather they didn't have an education? Many SEN kids aren't severe enough for special schools and they need to go to school. Maybe lay the blame at the school who aren't protecting the child being attacked and who aren't meeting the needs of the child doing the attacking.

Also understand autistic children act younger than they. My autistic son is four but acts like a young three.

The rage at home is because he has spent the entire day masking. As soon as he gets home he needs to let it all out.

You keep sending your child in when you know they are increasingly violent to another child… and hope the other child’s parents have empathy for you?!! I’ve really read it all now…

I think you did the right thing messaging the other parent once to say sorry, but definitely leave it now.

I would be speaking to the school again. Honestly I think it may have been better if they suspended your DS, both for the other child's sake and as it may help him understand how serious this was. Would be evidence for the EHCP as well.

Either way needs to be a line in the sand, it clearly can't happen again. You need to work with your DS at home on understanding that but the school need strategies as well and you need to know what they are for everyone's sake.

You said rejection was a trigger for your DS, it's likely to be more than just the child who was attacked who is now uncomfortable around him. Some other children who saw/know about it are likely to be wary as well. You need a strategy for dealing with that or it could happen again and just become a vicious cycle.

They didn't blame the teachers. They are blaming the school system. A system that if we are honest isn't meeting the needs of any of our children - let alone children with additional needs.
Is it any wonder that kids gets dysregulated and overstimulated when we shove 30 of them or more into a small space and expect them to sit still and pay attention for way longer than they can handle with little or no support.
It's not the teachers fault - it's the systems fault.

Unbelievable to blame teachers for this.