I've been friends for a long time (I'll call her A). She lives with a lot of chronic pain and several illnesses. We try to help each other out when needed but she really doesn't like to ask for help if possible.
A needed help with a job that was physically too much for her, so I offered help, and we agreed on a day.
I messaged her early on that morning to ask if I was still needed that day as I'd seen that she'd had a bad night and struggled with sleep. Admittedly I did message around 7am because that's the only time I'd have time due to getting myself and 2 kids out to work and school.
I immediately got a message back shouting at me for waking her up, that she wasn't doing anything that day now, and she was going back to sleep.
I left her message on read not replying as my reply would wake her, again. I wanted to reply that I was working that day and wouldnt see her reply until I'd finished my shift (no phones allowed out at work) and I had other things to do, so was trying to organise my time. I'm maybe feeling very sensitive right now as my head isn't in a good space (as she knows) and felt awful all day because of her reply.
A does this a lot, shouts at people, she is in a great deal of pain every day but that's no reason to shout at friends who offer help.
We're now 2 weeks on, I've deleted my SM as I can't cope with it at the mo (she has other ways of messaging). She hasn't apologised and I feel like I've nothing to apologise for. I'm left feeling bad for something i feel wasn't my fault. AIBU for not apologising?