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To ask how many women have either been sexually harassed in the street in the teenager or have a daughter who has?

238 replies

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 11:59

For context I'm Gen Z. I live in a very quiet neighbourhood & through my teens was never harassed. There's lots of building works in my area often but builders have always been fine & so has everyone else. I've never witnessed anyone else my age being harassed either (nor adult women). Some of my friends are the same, some unfortunately not (most don't live in my area)

However, I know this is not typical. I've read so much on here about people being harassed in school uniform, having daughters harassed etc. How common is this? Surveys show pretty high results too...

Was it always like this? Has it got worse or better? I've read some arguments it was worse in 70s-80s, others that online misogyny & porn has made harassment of teens worse.

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Furlane · 11/02/2026 12:29

I work in the building industry and (at least my company and our subcontractors) things have changed enormously. We have dedicated training and ‘banter’ is taken seriously - we are not afraid to sack people. I have noticed millennials and Gen Z men are not afraid to call out disgusting behaviour, where as some of the older generations would just go along with it. It’s just a different attitude for the younger generations, they work alongside women, often work for women and see them as equals.

Northcoastmama · 11/02/2026 12:28

I was a noughties teen although the looks started when I was about nine, the comments followed at about 11. Got beeped at yesterday in the street at 37, seemingly men feel confident to objectify women regardless of how old or young they are. My mum used to call them out on it when we were out together, would literally say loudly ‘what did you say? She’s 12 years old you pervert’ at the time I was mortified but now I am right there with her!

BeatrizBoniface · 11/02/2026 12:27

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:26

My mum lived in the same area growing up in the 70s & 80s and was also never harassed. I'm wondering how rare this is : it's horrible so many women & girls can't walk around without this...

I would say, very rare.

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:27

BeatrizBoniface · 11/02/2026 12:25

Yes, the whole building site thing has improved now. It used to be almost compulsory for men to hang off scaffolding and comment on your body or what they'd like to do, or various insults.
In daylight, when you were on your way to work or a hospital appointment or whatever.

Horrible. Thank goodness that has at least improved. Men in general clearly have not, though!

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BeatrizBoniface · 11/02/2026 12:27

@APatternGrammar ah, yes. That's what we were told. Take whistling and catcalling as a compliment. Or it's your fault in some way.
That happened so often "you'd hate it if it stopped!'

movingthegoalpostsagain · 11/02/2026 12:26

Teenager in the 90's, and yes more times i can count.
Some Examples -

Being in the first year of secondary school , being in uniform and a man shouting i wonder if her pussy is as sweet as her face, and his friends laughing and joining in.

Working in stables at thirteen and hearing comments from stable owner about how good i am at grinding on that saddle and how my boyfriend is a lucky man... i hadn't even kissed a boy at that age.

Being flashed at in a park in summer holidays.

Being asked out by the guy who worked in the chip shop when i was about 13-14, he then started driving and sitting outside the school gates and sending letters to my house, he was in his 20's

Being groped on the dance floor in clubs

Standing at the bar in a pub and someone squeezed up behind me and tried to stick his hand down the front out my trousers.

My boss when i was a saturday shop girl constantly doing the hands on waist to squeeze past.

Being told i had fuck me eyes at 15 by a friends dad

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:26

My mum lived in the same area growing up in the 70s & 80s and was also never harassed. I'm wondering how rare this is : it's horrible so many women & girls can't walk around without this...

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FavouriteBlueMug · 11/02/2026 12:26

I was harassed as a teen pretty regularly. My DD only started experiencing it after moving from our small town to a large city for uni.

I suspect the fact that our town is small enough that everyone know each other protected her rather than anything g else as I see little evidence that men think better of women now than they did in the 90.

BelleEpoque27 · 11/02/2026 12:26

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:23

Grim...

I watched an LBC clip on YouTube about street sexual harassment a while ago & several builders commented that catcalling could get you dismissed normally now. Has general builder behaviour improved at least? Now thread comments on more recent hatassment seem to generally mention random men harassing rather than builders.

Yes, it's stopped from builders now because they'll get fired. Thank goodness. You used to have to steel yourself to walk past.

I remember building work near where I worked in my first job (2005ish) and going the long way round so I didn't have to walk past them.

BeatrizBoniface · 11/02/2026 12:25

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:23

Grim...

I watched an LBC clip on YouTube about street sexual harassment a while ago & several builders commented that catcalling could get you dismissed normally now. Has general builder behaviour improved at least? Now thread comments on more recent hatassment seem to generally mention random men harassing rather than builders.

Yes, the whole building site thing has improved now. It used to be almost compulsory for men to hang off scaffolding and comment on your body or what they'd like to do, or various insults.
In daylight, when you were on your way to work or a hospital appointment or whatever.

APatternGrammar · 11/02/2026 12:25

Builders are much better that they used to be, perhaps because people would complain now.
As a teenager I was sexually harassed by a government employee in a government building on stage while presenting my work, microphone on, an audience of hundreds didn’t care. The harassment of young women was quite normalised and even seen as a compliment to some extent; certainly my parents saw it that way.

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:24

MushMonster · 11/02/2026 12:22

100% of women are harassed at some point. 100%. I do not even need to run statistics for it.
Assaulted, then is when the number goes down. But sexually harassed, no doubt 100% by teen years.

Well not literally 100%, I haven't been (I'm 20 FWIW) and nor have several of my friends. But sadly probably close to 100% over most UK women..

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OriginalUsername2 · 11/02/2026 12:23

So many times as a teen in the 90’s. On the bus, in the street, walking past building sites, in clubs.

Carla786 · 11/02/2026 12:23

BeatrizBoniface · 11/02/2026 12:18

My experience in the 70s and 80s meant that walking past building sites was like walking the gauntlet. When there was a renovation near where I lived, I used to have to take the long route round to the station and back. It was awful.
Even very casually, in the street, it was always "give us a smile sweetheart" or "cheer up darling, it might never happen!".

Grim...

I watched an LBC clip on YouTube about street sexual harassment a while ago & several builders commented that catcalling could get you dismissed normally now. Has general builder behaviour improved at least? Now thread comments on more recent hatassment seem to generally mention random men harassing rather than builders.

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AloneInMyTower · 11/02/2026 12:23

I was a teen in the 90s and was sexually harassed regularly, when walking in the street, on trains, walking to school, even had a few creepy comments from teachers, doing a part time job in a shop etc. It’s continued as I’ve got older.

It’s the same for teen girls now, although they spend less time in the situations we did. We give our daughter lifts to and from places which stops a lot of it, but pervy, creepy men have stared at our daughter when with us from when she was about 12.

AloneInMyTower · 11/02/2026 12:23

I was a teen in the 90s and was sexually harassed regularly, when walking in the street, on trains, walking to school, even had a few creepy comments from teachers, doing a part time job in a shop etc. It’s continued as I’ve got older.

It’s the same for teen girls now, although they spend less time in the situations we did. We give our daughter lifts to and from places which stops a lot of it, but pervy, creepy men have stared at our daughter when with us from when she was about 12.

MushMonster · 11/02/2026 12:22

100% of women are harassed at some point. 100%. I do not even need to run statistics for it.
Assaulted, then is when the number goes down. But sexually harassed, no doubt 100% by teen years.

WhereAreWeNow · 11/02/2026 12:22

It was bloody constant as a teenager in 80s/90s

Sunrisesebs · 11/02/2026 12:21

I remember being sexually harassed while walking home from primary school in year 6! It really frightened me. Nobody cared though. Parents didn't and school didn't.

More recently, I was walking home from work mid afternoon in the Winter. Dressed for warmth head to toe including gloves. A driver shouted SLAG at me. I just looked at him like he had a repulsive face and he drove off. (I actually couldn't see his face due to shadows and glare, but I still screwed my face up to make him feel small and ugly)

I am 40.

I8toys · 11/02/2026 12:20

Yep awful in 80's and 90's. White van man.

ReignOfError · 11/02/2026 12:19

I was a teen in the 70s, lived in both a small town and north London. Harassed routinely - everything from wolf-whistles to cars stopping so the witless fucks in them could yell sexual suggestions, snide remarks from passing twats to attempted groping on the tube, and I was attacked when I was 18.

Depressingly, it wasn’t massively different at work - I started full-time work at 15 in a field where men outnumbered women about 15 to 1, and many of them very much resented us being there at all, let alone as their peers.

BeatrizBoniface · 11/02/2026 12:18

My experience in the 70s and 80s meant that walking past building sites was like walking the gauntlet. When there was a renovation near where I lived, I used to have to take the long route round to the station and back. It was awful.
Even very casually, in the street, it was always "give us a smile sweetheart" or "cheer up darling, it might never happen!".

fruitpastille · 11/02/2026 12:18

Had a whistle or a car beep a couple of times. Nothing for years though. Hope I'm not tempting fate!

BelleEpoque27 · 11/02/2026 12:17

I was a teenager in the 90s and it was constant. You just ignored it - pretended you didn't hear or see them. Going out clubbing it was completely normal to get felt up.

It lessened once I was in my late 20s, and hasn't happened at all since my late 30s. I love being invisible now, such a relief.

We had a couple of creepy teachers too - one was eventually fired for having a relationship with a student (Y11). The other would make comments about top buttons and short skirts. Would never get away with it now, at the time we just thought they were sad old men and warned each other about them.

EnjoyingTheArmoire · 11/02/2026 12:14

Teen in the 90s and got this both on the town my school was in, and the rural farming community I lived in.

Now have a teenager of my own and have seen them and their female friends experience this in towns and cities.

It only stopped for me when I piled on weight. Now just get straight abuse from men and boys instead.