Will dr’s give me DD medical records

If you were my mum I would go no contact with you without hesitation. I assume the username for you is appropriate. Get your big beak out of teenagers privacy and security.

100% agree, I have (I think) a great relationship with my daughter, we talk about everything and I completely respect her privacy and she knows she can come to me with anything however there are some things I’m pretty sure she will want to talk to her friends about and not me and that’s normal and fine but asking for medical records and reading her private thoughts dear god a great way to have no relationship with them at all and watch them slowly cut you off

This is a joke right? Or a reverse so you can confirm your own mother was awful to you?

If it isn't you really SERIOUSLY need to stop, reflect and change everything about your parenting right now.

Sounds like you need to scale back a bit first OP. Rather than bulldozing in and demanding she tells you. You need to improve your communication with her and allow her to trust you.

You sound similar to my mother who I have a very tricky relationship with now. I told her at age 17 I was going to GP for the pill, I had a boyfriend (my now husband). Because of her abysmal communication skills I'm still waiting for a safe sex talk or any sort of sex talk from her and her reaction to the pill was one of anger and confusion, "why on earth would I need the pill" etc... so it ended up with an argument and me telling her it was for heavy periods with an eye roll and that was the most we talked about it. There was no ensuring that I was ok and safe etc... Just piss poor communication.

Assuming that you're worried that it might be about contraception, you can still have whatever talk you would have with her anyway. Unless you were planning to hit the roof of course. Maybe don't do that

Well that's one you won't see for dust when she's 18, you absolute control freak!

I'm really shocked by those advocating reading a teenager's diary.

My mum read my diary and opened my post in my teens. She thought it was such a reasonable thing to do that I was then in trouble for what she'd read - and honestly I was such a dull teenager, there was absolutely nothing worth the drama. I was being told off for my feelings, rather than any outrageous behaviour.

End result - total loss of trust with my mum, which has never been repaired and never will be. I have always kept her at a distance.

Or she wants counselling for how to deal with her overbearing mother who won't respect barriers.

Same. I would be crushed if my daughter didn't want me to support her for any reason but at 15 and having competence, its her choice. And I wouldn't guilt trip her over me being crushed either. The fact that this girl has the confidence to go to the GP on her own in a world where many find even making the phone call for an appointment a bit of a trial, is a good thing.

At 15 for your DD to have the confidence and sense to attend the dr is a good thing. I’m sure it’s hurtful that she won’t tell you why, but I would suspect you don’t have that kind of relationship then. I’d assume at 15 it will be something related to sex and I’d be glad she had the sense to go and see about it tbh.
If you are going to ask for her records then you might as well read her diary - both a major privacy breach.

I don't think that's a given, when I was that age I was just intensely private (still am). But this is one way to make sure she never does.

I’ve just asked my bestie (she’s a consultant) no you absolutely cannot be given access to her medical notes without her consent
and BTW I have a daughter and would never ever dream of doing this

Based on what though? Her going to the doctor and not telling you why at 15 years old? Because your nose is bothering you? Give her her privacy. If there was a reason for them to contact the parent or guardian of a 15 year old based on capacity or safeguarding, they will. Otherwise, if you try to get her records or read her private diary, it's a one way street to utterly destroying your relationship.

She clearly doesn’t/can’t already

In fact, she obviously doesn't trust you now, hence her going by herself.

Poor kid.

Law varies between Scotland and England. Assuming the GP surgery feels she has "capacity" then you have NO right if she is 15 to access her records. And thank goodness for that law.

Struggling to understand how asking for her confidential medical records is any less of an invasion of privacy than reading her diary

If she's Gillick competent you have no right afaik. Dc had to sign a form authorising us to speak with GP on their behalf. Suspect if she won't tell you what the appointment is for she won't be keen to do this.

You need to ask yourself why she can’t talk to you and tell you.

She will never trust you again.

Jesus woman, by the way you’re talking I can see why she doesn’t feel able to talk to you. Going through her diary is an absolute no go.

I hope you sat her down with love and care and told her that she can come to you about anything and that you’re always there for her rather than than grilling her like she’s under interrogation.

She was probably there for contraception but obviously doesn’t feel comfortable enough to talk to you about it.

Maybe think twice about how you’re approaching parenting with your daughter and she might feel more comfortable being open with you.

Fingers crossed she’s written nothing about her confidential medical issues in her diary.

Well, I would far prefer that to the alternative.

The question you need to be asking is not whether you can force the GP to share your child's data without her consent (you can't), but why you have such a poor relationship with your dd that she doesn't feel comfortable telling you herself.

@Funparsnip

I suggest your Google Gillick Competence.

She's perfectly in her rights to go to the Dr's on her own without your knowledge.
neither she or the Dr's have to tell you what it's about.
maybe lose some of the exclamation marks, cool off and talk to her like a young woman with agency, and don't betray her trust.

No, a Dr will assess her for gillick competency, fortunately your daughter has a right to keep her medical records private, you have a duty of care to your daughter but that does not mean you have a legal right to her medical records.