Will dr’s give me DD medical records

My mum was like you, and your username is apt in my case. I went NC 15 years ago.

Sorry I've not made myself sufficiently clear.

Yes, the website does talk about the need for the child to consent, but you have to go halfway down the page before you reach that rather significant requirement.

My complaint is that the page doesn't mention at the outset the need for a child aged 11 or over to consent.

So where it simply says at the top:

"You can only get online access to the GP services of a child aged under 16 if you are their parent or guardian with legal parental responsibility"

I think it would be a clearer and more accurate statement if it said something like:

"You can only get online access to the GP services of a child aged under 16 if you are their parent or guardian with legal parental responsibility, provided that if the child is 11 or over they must give their consent to that access."

Seems to me that the important bit - the consent requirement for over tens - should be made clear from the beginning.

Based on the fact that 15 years olds do not need privacy where medical decisions are concerned.

I'd rather destroy my relationship with her than allow her to destroy her life because I was worried about her privacy FFS.

Look up Gillick Competence, if all apply then no they wont. You need to value her privacy if he proud she is mature enough to take responsibility for her own health needs! Even if she’s going to access contraception or similar (which I assume is one of your concerns) if she’s mature enough and confident enough to do so alone she should be allowed the independence.

She's entitled to leave her diary where she wants in her own home without nosey looking through it, don't be ridiculous victim blaming.

Nope.

If she’s gillick competent then no they won’t and shouldn’t share her information with you.

It’s probably for contraception and that’s why she doesn’t want to talk to you about it. However, more concerning is the fact that your DD doesn’t want to talk to you. I’d be addressing that rather than trying to access her confidential notes, which you are NOT entitled to.

Also please do not damage your relationship further with your DD by reading her diary- that is something that would completely destroy her trust in you!!

I’m actually quite shocked by this. Your poor daughter.

This is possibly the best post I've seen so far on this issue OP. I get it you are concerned about your daughter, but you have to tread carefully here otherwise you risk losing your daughter wanting to talk to you about such issues.

Almost certain they won’t give you her medical details

almost certain

No they won’t give you the records, as she will have been assessed as competent with capacity at her age, and nor should you know.

She is entitled to the same privacy as you are, but healthcare professionals will breach that if they deem your DD is at risk.

Your role is to support her at home and ensure it is a safe space for her to talk to you about anything thats troubling her.

No chance OP. I couldn’t even get my 15yo daughter’s NICU records last year without her permission. (She wanted them, she was fine about this)

Best thing to do is tell her/send her a message saying you know she’s gone to the doctors and that you’re there for her if she ever needs to talk about anything at all and that you’ll listen without judging or being cross about anything. Then leave it. Please don’t press her to tell you what it was about. How you handle this could have a lasting impact on your future relationship as she becomes an adult.

You cannot. She has a right to confidentiality unless she is deemed not to have capacity eg significant impairment

That's so incredibly sad, I'm really sorry that happened and had that impact on you - but I'm not surprised. I'm still unnecessarily secretive now, even though I have nothing at all to hide. These things stay with us. Sending love x

There's nothing 'clearly' about it so stop looking for validation to invade a teenagers privacy. The OP hasn't mentioned any of that in her posts or the replies would be very different.

If the OP had those concerns she would have said so. She's just nosey.

I used to go to the doctor at that age for the contraceptive injection. And if my mum would have made it awkward and weird by requesting records I’d have never gone back. And would not have used the contraception.
Be careful meddling it can do more harm than good.

No absolutely not.
She is likely Gillick/Fraser competent and it would be against the law for them to disclose it to you.

Clearly you’ve never had to deal with safeguarding a teenager.

Op do you have any concerns about anything- MH, self harm, weight loss, drugs etc?

If yes for any then yes I wouldn’t hesitate to read her diary or search her room. My doing so saved my daughter’s life on more than one occasion and got her the treatment and support she needed.

No point waiting until you hit a crisis.

She won't tell you why she went to the doctor but she leaves her diary lying around where you can get at it?

Google Gillick competence

Yep. I used to write in a diary and I used to write stories as well. I found out at 16 that my mum had been reading everything. It wasn't only my relationship with her that was fucked, it was my relationship with writing. Something I genuinely loved doing as a teenager and I have many happy memories of sitting with my typewriter for hours. I had a massive stack of stories in my room and she read every single one. The sense of violation can't be overstated. These are private writings.