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House selling woes....again

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Ep9993 · 11/02/2026 09:04

Hi everyone,

I posted a thread a few months ago about my struggles to sell. It took 5 months of viewings and flaky offers to get a proper offer 10k under asking for the buyer to pull out a month later. In that time we found our ideal house in a great location and had an offer accepted on that. It was sheer luck the house was due to come back on the market - it's one we viewed many months before when we had another buyer.

Anyway, the vendors of the new house have kindly given us time to find a buyer and with no set time limit. I'm sure if we take too long though they'll start getting frustrated, and I don't blame them!

House is back on the market as of last week for 20k under the last price. We've had one viewing and no other enquires. For context my partner bought the house in 2022 south west London at the absolute peak and I'm sure overpaid for it. We're on the market for offers over 580k (yes I know offers over is a mistake). House next door sold for 600 middle of last year and another on the road is on for 600 currently. I don't believe we're far off the mark but it's only worth what someone will pay!

To keep the current house we're trying to buy and to speed things along estate agent thinks we should reduce to 570...or something similar. My partner is so hesitant to do this as she's got a figure in her head and sees it as losing money. I've offered to make up for the loss in the next house and pay the difference. I've also pointed out if we were to take say 20k less it's not a life changing amount. We're very lucky that we have a large deposit and even with this loss we'd both be able to work part time in a better area and in a house with so much more space. I'm not really sure what else to do. It feels like at this rate we will be hanging on another 6 months for a buyer and who knows what prices will do! We've also already spent a few thousand on solicitor fees and a survey so that currently feels like money down the drain.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

OP posts:
StrawberrySquash · 11/02/2026 10:53

The choice isn't between getting the higher and the lower price. The choice is between moving to the house you want and staying put. If no one wants to buy it at the higher price then you can't magic them up. Market in London is not great at the moment.

birlywoos · 11/02/2026 10:45

God reduce it, it’s so stressful and the longer it’s on the market the more it’ll put people off

Ep9993 · 11/02/2026 10:44

cakeisallyouneed · 11/02/2026 10:21

In an ideal world you’d sell the house for the price you want AND find the dream home to move to. But if that’s not happening you and your partner need to prioritise one of these. Which one is more important? Risk losing this house to hang on for the ‘price in your head’ or take the loss and move.

It comes down to things like how likely is it that a similar house will come on the market if you lose this one?
and how much difference would selling your home for less impact you?
If you don’t want to lose this house I’d encourage your partner to set a deadline. If we haven’t had any offers by X date we agree to lower the price.

when selling a house you have to leave your pride behind. Not everyone will think it’s worth what you think it is.

Thanks this is super helpful.

At this current rate I think moving is more important. We don't have enough space here and we're wanting to start IVF once we've moved. It's like living in limbo at the moment.

If we were to sell for less it won't have any real impact. We might have a slightly bigger mortgage but it'll still be very affordable.

The biggest hurdle to overcome is getting my partner to see the sale in a more objective way. Yes it will be sold for less than she paid but if she wants to hold out for a higher offer it may be months, or might just never happen!
She's very fortunate that she inherited a decent amount of money to buy her current house so she's protective of that...which I do understand. But we're both putting down a big deposit on the next house and keeping a small mortgage.

OP posts:
cakeisallyouneed · 11/02/2026 10:21

In an ideal world you’d sell the house for the price you want AND find the dream home to move to. But if that’s not happening you and your partner need to prioritise one of these. Which one is more important? Risk losing this house to hang on for the ‘price in your head’ or take the loss and move.

It comes down to things like how likely is it that a similar house will come on the market if you lose this one?
and how much difference would selling your home for less impact you?
If you don’t want to lose this house I’d encourage your partner to set a deadline. If we haven’t had any offers by X date we agree to lower the price.

when selling a house you have to leave your pride behind. Not everyone will think it’s worth what you think it is.

Ep9993 · 11/02/2026 09:29

I'm aware about the price my question is more around how to tackle the issue with partner. Bare in mind we've already reduced by 40k

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pocketpairs · 11/02/2026 09:21

Price is too high. Simples...

TupperwareTidy · 11/02/2026 09:16

I had a "figure in my head" but in reality my property sold for a lot less

Empty
Repainted
Garden tidy

A property is only worth what someone else will buy

TupperwareTidy · 11/02/2026 09:13

20k reduction is nothing
If you want to move, make a bigger reduction