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DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:32

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 11/02/2026 11:30

At the risk of boring even myself, what proportion of the US population do you think is trans-identifying and what is your source for that? That is, after all, the sole number I got from the Williams Institute and I'm happy to accept it's wrong if it is indeed wrong. (Weirdly, despite several people falling over themselves to tell me it's biased nonsense, and despite me asking several times now, no-one has so far managed to tell me what source I should be using instead.)

I'll now jog over from the "school shootings perpetrated by all trans-identifying men" to "mass shootings perpetrated by trans-identifying women" pitch. A couple of questions if I may - how many mass shootings, and over which time frame, have you counted as having been perpetrated by women? And what are you counting as a "mass-shooting", because as anyone with the slightest knowledge of gun control arguments is aware that is a VERY contentious point.

There are so few trans people statistically, supposedly, that the minute one commits a school and/or mass shooting, they are over representing the numbers.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 11/02/2026 11:30

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/02/2026 11:10

They’re not moving anywhere. I made it clear why I think it’s absolutely relevant that a proportion of these men are sitting in their bedsits fantasising about violence against women they disagree with. It IS a problem, whatever biased nonsense you’ve lapped up from the Williams Institute.

Ive already mentioned on this thread and others when other trans identifying people have committed mass shootings that I’m interested in trans identifying women because the proportion is high. It’s not what I would expect, so I’ve been struck by it.

At the risk of boring even myself, what proportion of the US population do you think is trans-identifying and what is your source for that? That is, after all, the sole number I got from the Williams Institute and I'm happy to accept it's wrong if it is indeed wrong. (Weirdly, despite several people falling over themselves to tell me it's biased nonsense, and despite me asking several times now, no-one has so far managed to tell me what source I should be using instead.)

I'll now jog over from the "school shootings perpetrated by all trans-identifying men" to "mass shootings perpetrated by trans-identifying women" pitch. A couple of questions if I may - how many mass shootings, and over which time frame, have you counted as having been perpetrated by women? And what are you counting as a "mass-shooting", because as anyone with the slightest knowledge of gun control arguments is aware that is a VERY contentious point.

ThatBlackCat · 11/02/2026 11:29

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:21

Even if it is a man it doesn’t mean it’s a trans person - could be a man using it Asa disguise to be less noticeable around a school - I don’t think you can presume.

Apparently he has a YouTube channel and he's well known as trans.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 11/02/2026 11:28

Bagsintheboot · 11/02/2026 11:17

I can't keep repeating myself.

We should wait for the formal identification and go from there.

You can wait all you like. The rest can discuss as they see fit (and won’t be shocked at the outcome in the slightest).

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:28

ChickenCooper · 11/02/2026 11:20

Wikipedia is run by Trans Activists now? Gosh, I wasn't aware. So much information emerging on this thread, it's hard to keep up with the logic.

Oh, you're in for some learning.

nolongersurprised · 11/02/2026 11:27

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 11/02/2026 11:22

This is where years of mis-reporting gets us.

We've all had to learn to read between the lines - rightly or wrongly - and I have to admit as soon as they acted coy about the sex of shooter I too was thinking trans.

It used to be the media’s job to inform the public of the truth. When it comes to the sacred caste of trans, the media refuse to tell the truth so many people no longer trust them, unfortunately.

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:27

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:25

You are probably correct - why not say though it was a trans man - I don’t get it, call a spade a spade I say . It will come out anyway.

And this is where they use language to confuse people. What do you mean by "trans man"?

"Trans identified man" works better. Or TIM for short.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/02/2026 11:26

ChickenCooper · 11/02/2026 11:20

Wikipedia is run by Trans Activists now? Gosh, I wasn't aware. So much information emerging on this thread, it's hard to keep up with the logic.

You should look at the editor discussions of any page relating to gender identity.

ThatBlackCat · 11/02/2026 11:26

ChickenCooper · 11/02/2026 11:20

Wikipedia is run by Trans Activists now? Gosh, I wasn't aware. So much information emerging on this thread, it's hard to keep up with the logic.

It's well-known, even on Reddit that trans activists are moderators on Wikipedia. They have themselves admitted to erasing feminist contributions and facts on Gender Ideology. It is notoriously impossible to get fair and unbiased entries on GI on Wiki and the lies about GC feminists and 'TERFs' are horrendous.

Apart from that though, there is a reason Wikipedia isn't allowed to be used as a source in schools or universities. Anyone and everyone can edit it (well, except feminists and GCs).

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:25

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:22

The BC RCMP know who he is. And are calling him a female. It wasn't a "disguise", it was an identity.

You are probably correct - why not say though it was a trans man - I don’t get it, call a spade a spade I say . It will come out anyway.

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 11/02/2026 11:25

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:21

Even if it is a man it doesn’t mean it’s a trans person - could be a man using it Asa disguise to be less noticeable around a school - I don’t think you can presume.

But that never happens.

No man would don a disguise to gain access to vunerable people - we've been hearing that for years when women object to self ID or mixed sex facilities occuring with no consultation.

likelysuspect · 11/02/2026 11:24

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:21

Even if it is a man it doesn’t mean it’s a trans person - could be a man using it Asa disguise to be less noticeable around a school - I don’t think you can presume.

Are you seriously proposing that. You felt that was likely enough that you sat and typed that out as a realistic possiblity?

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 11/02/2026 11:22

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:18

Good. Please stop policing the rest of us, who can see the truth and read between the lines.

This is where years of mis-reporting gets us.

We've all had to learn to read between the lines - rightly or wrongly - and I have to admit as soon as they acted coy about the sex of shooter I too was thinking trans.

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:22

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:21

Even if it is a man it doesn’t mean it’s a trans person - could be a man using it Asa disguise to be less noticeable around a school - I don’t think you can presume.

The BC RCMP know who he is. And are calling him a female. It wasn't a "disguise", it was an identity.

Crikeyalmighty · 11/02/2026 11:21

Even if it is a man it doesn’t mean it’s a trans person - could be a man using it Asa disguise to be less noticeable around a school - I don’t think you can presume.

ChickenCooper · 11/02/2026 11:20

Shedmistress · 11/02/2026 11:09

You can use it as a source just be aware that it is run by Trans Activists so the facts are not always facts. Again, this is from the guy that invented it.

Wikipedia is run by Trans Activists now? Gosh, I wasn't aware. So much information emerging on this thread, it's hard to keep up with the logic.

trappedCatAsleepOnMe · 11/02/2026 11:19

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 11/02/2026 11:05

OK. How many school shootings in total do you think there have been in the US since, say, 2019? And on what source do you base that number?

https://k12ssdb.org/all-shootings

There a school shooting data base - though it includes all cases where a gun is fired on school property it says.

It's fucking depressing that someone actaully keeping a database - I assume it's just US based as this is usually very much a US problem with spordic occurances in other countries.

K-12 School Shooting Database

K-12 School Shooting Database documents when a gun is fired, brandished (with intent to harm), or bullet hits school property

https://k12ssdb.org/all-shootings

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:18

Bagsintheboot · 11/02/2026 11:17

I can't keep repeating myself.

We should wait for the formal identification and go from there.

Good. Please stop policing the rest of us, who can see the truth and read between the lines.

Bagsintheboot · 11/02/2026 11:17

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:13

Canada, especially BC, is fully captured. They will call him a woman, a female suspect, etc.

The minute they mentioned "a woman in a dress", we all knew.

I can't keep repeating myself.

We should wait for the formal identification and go from there.

DownhillTeaTray · 11/02/2026 11:13

Bagsintheboot · 11/02/2026 11:08

The facts are not already known.

You think you know the facts based on some initial reports and social media.

Those two things are not the same.

There has been more than one occasion where everyone "knows" a killer is e.g. Muslim or an immigrant at first. Just look at the speculation regarding that stabbing in Leicester the other week.

We need to wait for formal confirmation from the Canadian authorities. Anything else is just speculation.

Canada, especially BC, is fully captured. They will call him a woman, a female suspect, etc.

The minute they mentioned "a woman in a dress", we all knew.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/02/2026 11:13

CompetitionMyArse · 11/02/2026 11:05

I imagine there is quite a crossover between incels and trans-indentified young men of the type who are straight, not the gay and naturally effeminate type. They are the losers and the loners who don't gel with people of either sex and feel rejected by everybody. They hate women because women have no interest in them, but at the same time they are fascinated by them and have the strong conviction that women have everything easier, better and fairer. Hence they decide that cosplaying a woman is the answer to their problems.

Edited

Indeed. The incel to trans pipeline.

nolongersurprised · 11/02/2026 11:12

Bagsintheboot · 11/02/2026 11:08

The facts are not already known.

You think you know the facts based on some initial reports and social media.

Those two things are not the same.

There has been more than one occasion where everyone "knows" a killer is e.g. Muslim or an immigrant at first. Just look at the speculation regarding that stabbing in Leicester the other week.

We need to wait for formal confirmation from the Canadian authorities. Anything else is just speculation.

People are mistrustful of the media with reports on TiMs though, aren’t they? Just watch, it’ll be female pronouns and a paucity of background information as purposeful obfuscation.

ChickenCooper · 11/02/2026 11:12

nolongersurprised · 11/02/2026 10:54

The concept that children can change sex requires a huge leap of faith. Especially is they’ve been puberty blocked then placed on cross sex hormones - for boys who have started this in early puberty they’ll never have an orgasm and will be infertile.

This can only be considered an acceptable trade-off if you believe that transitioning is the correct thing to do, that the individual will be happier and function well in society.

Stories like this go against the narrative that transitioning children, without question, is the right thing to do. We do need to talk about it.

I absolutely agree with you that we should be questioning and considering all the evidence on gender affirming care, and it's a complex issue. My understanding is that the alleged shooter had not received any hormone treatment though.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/02/2026 11:12

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 11/02/2026 11:08

Apparently we're not supposed to use wikipedia as a source.

I only used it as a source because I checked that the information is correct. Wikipedia is agenda-driven and biased though, we’re you not aware of that?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/02/2026 11:10

They’re not moving anywhere. I made it clear why I think it’s absolutely relevant that a proportion of these men are sitting in their bedsits fantasising about violence against women they disagree with. It IS a problem, whatever biased nonsense you’ve lapped up from the Williams Institute.

Ive already mentioned on this thread and others when other trans identifying people have committed mass shootings that I’m interested in trans identifying women because the proportion is high. It’s not what I would expect, so I’ve been struck by it.