Will keep this brief. Struggling with anxiety and depression since giving birth to my son 2 years ago. Marriage sort of broke down but we agreed to continue the marriage living apart. Thankfully my finances have allowed for this. He has a teenage son from a previous marriage. I've had to move 2 hours away (where I own a mortgage free property). Initially he was coming every 2 weeks. Then it was every 4 weeks. It's now been 7 weeks and he hasn't visited. His son plays sports on weekends. He told me of his plans to visit this past weekend on Friday. He would literally stay for less than 24hrs. I suggested it made more sense to visit the following weekend because of the half-term but he said they had sporting engagements and that he'd rather see us even if it was for a few hours. So I assumed he was coming since that is what he said. I bought all the stuff he likes and waited for him all day. He messaged me at 10am but it was about something else. It got to 3pm and I hadn't heard from him again so messaged him. Then I called him. No answer. He finally responds with a text at 6pm telling me he isn't coming. He called me around 11pm explaining how he caught up with a friend and was busy all day. He apologies but only after telling me it was my fault since I told him not to come (which I didn't).
I've spent every day since then in tears. Struggling to get out of bed. Struggling to go to work and look after my child. He's telling me that I'm unreasonably unforgiving and that I'm blowing this out of proportion.
There's a bunch of other stuff.. he isn't helping out with essentials for our child. Child is suspected SEN and we have numerous hospital appointments which my husband is pretty oblivious about. I'm trying to talk to him about the difficulties I've had with our son and he'll be telling me he doesn't know what to make for dinner. He gets to go to the gym every evening. Doesn't have to pay for childcare. While I'm here struggling with everything alone. i'm really starting to resent him. Please talk sense into me.