Husband always off when I go out with man crazy friend

oh sorry, here we where thinking you where asking for honest advice. Next time start your post with can you guys validate me and criticise my husband please. So now knowing what you’re after here goes.

how dare your husband be bothered at the thought of his wife going out for the sole purpose of talking to men who most likely are hoping to get in her pants. What a bastard. Your sister sounds like a stuck up snob to, who doesn’t want to hang out with a woman who attracts men that want nothing more than an easy shag she would be happier living under the taliban. Tell your husband not to care the sooner he stops caring the better, tell him that caring is somehow making you feel a little guilty and that’s leading to resentment. Unless he’s a complete sap I think you’ll see the man he is when he leaves and you can be as free & happy as your mate. Just ignore all the doubts about her putting on an act, happiness and the unhealthy habits.

I could not be friends with someone who has that little self respect, dress it up anyway you like so have zero self esteem but if it genuinely works for you fine but yes it a reflection on you same as all our friends are of us

She sounds awful. Attention seeker. Do none of these men make it to full relationships with her?

Are you her only friend?

“Show me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.” Taught that decades ago and still reverberates to today.

Bookmarking this for when you come back here expressing unease about the fact your husband has started spending a lot of time with his recently single mate Ash who is one of those life of the party womaniser types who likes to get blind drunk every weekend and have unprotected sex with randoms.

You can absolutely chat to whoever you want. Likewise, your friend can go out on the pull and shag whoever she wants as she is single.

But where’s the fun in this for you, being her wing woman? Your life has moved on as you are married and not out on the pull. You can still be friends but the friendship should naturally evolve away from all that.

Surely when you are out, you want to talk to each other. Have a proper catch up. Not sit chatting to random men (who will probably quite happily ignore the fact that you are married) and watch her trying to be the centre of attention and cop off.

What do you get out of this friendship?

It’s about being respectful when married .
It’s about sitting with your friend who you described as “ Man crazy “ always on the pull when you guys are out together.
She’s trying to get with someone ,( while you’re her wing woman , also your words btw) , & you’re there chatting to “ some random bloke “ .
It’s just not on in anyone’s book .
Have you read what everyone is saying here ?
You don’t have to live under Taliban rule to know it’s not cool & your husband is right , we would all be the same if it was us , we wouldn’t like it , & as I’ve said already I can’t imagine how it would sit perfectly fine with you .
Your husband out chatting to random women while his buddy is trying to get with her friend .
I wonder if that friend of yours was married would she be your wing woman ?, or would she be showing her husband a bit more respect.

I mean; just from your descriptions of her behaviour I dont think Id like her. So I can only imagine DH has the same icks that I've got.

Some people are just chalk and cheese

Hope for your sake your DH doesn't start flirting back in response.
You said 'if I'm not feeling it I reel.it in' So sometimes you go along with her behaviour . Not surprised your husband is not happy.

It is. Research indicates a significant "divorce contagion" effect where a close friend's divorce increases your own risk by up to 75%. This phenomenon, known as "divorce clustering," spreads through social networks, as witnessing a friend's happier, post-divorce life can make divorce feel more normalized or desirable.

OP has no intention of doing anything wrong so I can’t see the problem. Some of the replies are weird.

I can't stand attention seekers, so she'd be my idea of the mate from hell, having known each other that long or not!
I'm on your husbands side in this. I can fully understand why he isn't keen on you going out with her. It's not controlling, it's concern and I would be concerned too, despite how much you protest that you don't do the same when you're out with her.

What inappropriate things does she say to your husband? Not to be prudish but I wouldn’t like my mate being flirty or over familiar with my husband. I would find it really disrespectful.

i Always look at something from other perspectives & my husband does have a mate who is a shagger and whilst they go out as a group I wouldn’t be happy if he went out alone with this friend for purely no other reason other than to pick up girls.

I used to go clubbing with a friend who would enjoy long snogs with men she would meet in these clubs. She had a happy 5 year relationship and young daughter at the time though. I, in no way encouraged it though but she thought it harmless. We were both 23.

My husband has suddenly got funny about me spending time with my friend who’s going through a separation. It’s like he thinks divorce is contagious…

That’s still pretty sleazy - why does she want attention from your husband about her sex life?! I’d be telling her to rein it in.

My boyfriend doesn't like it either. He hasn't explicitly said so but I just catch a vibe. He knows I wouldn't tolerate any kind of controlling behaviour. For me, I don't want to abandon friends who are still looking for someone so if they ask me to wing-woman, I will.

It sounds awful, I agree with him. I think the friends we choose do reflect on us, and if you are around that behavior it's kind of supporting or accepting it. I wouldn't like it for my husband to be out with a friend like that either.

I wouldn’t be impressed if one of DH’s friends was saying sleazy things to me and I wouldn’t like him chatting up strange women to be his mate’s wing man!

If my husband had a friend who was an absolute hound, I wouldn't be very impressed.

Well - i'd hate it if my DH was going out as supporting act for a bloke on the pull.

I trust him - but i'd hate it. Human nature.

I don't blame your husband. Why don't you suggest she takes another single friend out hunting with her and you two stick to week night friendly meet ups. Or do you like the fun of 'pulling blokes' but then dropping the 'oooh no i'm married' bomb shell.

He wouldn’t be putting himself in any inappropriate situations, his friend that loves to chat up women would be though .
Surely you see now when roles are reversed, why your husband doesn’t like you going out with your friend .