Husband always off when I go out with man crazy friend

You are right, OP did slut shame her friend. No wonder she has left the board.

Indirectly?

how is that indirect?

I think OP indirectly slut shamed her 'friend' when she said 'it's like a dog on heat'.
As we all know some men call certain women dogs who have rebuffed them and more so if a woman is on the prowl like her 'friend' is. She will get called all sorts of names behind her back as will OP by association.
Some men will just look at a woman like this as a ---- who gives it away for free. I bet some of these blokes come onto OP too for similar action.
No wonder her h is pissed off, he's a bloke, he knows how they think.

It's interesting and speaks volumes that OP has dropped out.
I can't help wondering if there is more to this than she is letting on and because most posters are telling her straight she doesn't like it.

So I do have one friend who is absolutely man CRAZY. I mean she is absolutely single bloody minded on a night out. It’s like a dog in heat. She also likes saying outrageous things (often does so in front of my husband). I just tell her to behave tbh.

All she wants to do is flirt and “meet” a guy. I do think it can be a bit much but leave her to it mostly. I just see it as one of her quirks. Do I think it’s uber healthy? No but I’ve shared my thoughts with friend and left it at that. I’m not her mother but obviously try to steer her when I see her making crazy choices. She is a bit of a Samantha (SATC) wannabe but sadly I do think it’s a bit of an act.

erm.... we're slut shaming????

You dont seem to know what your issue is here?

Your friend is out trying to shag anything in pants (and if thats what she wants to do fair play) you are married and your DH is concerned about her behaviour when you are out together.

My friends like that my husband loves hearing the Goss from a night out. Mind you we're in our 40s now so these things happen less but it's never cross his mind is be interested in someone else

Er, no, I can understand why your dh doesn’t like this. It’s not a nice situation to be put in as a married woman, and regardless of your boundaries, I wouldn’t want Dh chatting up women so his mate could get laid. It’s a bit grim once you’re over the age of 30.

Dh and friends have one mate who is always a liability, drunk and doing stupid stuff, coked out of his head. They steer clear now. Because a bunch of dads in their 30s and 40s really just want a quiet pint, not rescuing a friend from the cops or his dealer or tracking him down once he gets himself kicked out.

Can you not just meet for a dinner out or takeaway and a film or a spa day?

Appears OP enjoys the male attention, otherwise why would you go out with a friend who presumably leaves you when she's found what she's looking for. Imagine this'll be a short first marriage.

All of this.

i'd be more pissed off at my friend who can't spend an evening out having a good time with me and was always looking for a man.

Absolutely. It would happen once and then our catch ups would be firmly in the coffee / walk in the park territory. There is no way that anyone would continue these nights out - whilst happily married - unless they also enjoyed the attention from men. Who goes for a night out with a mate and just follows them round whilst they try and find a bloke?!

I'd be so fucking offended!

I think you are now deliberately downplaying the situation because you haven’t received the expected response to your thread.
You described her as like ‘a dog in heat’.
Men spot this from 200 yards away, and the fact that you are with her will imply that you are ‘up for it’ as well - her behaviour will reflect on you.

It’s completely normal that your DH wouldn’t be happy about this, and YABVU to think it isn’t, and to construe it as trying to install a Taliban-style restriction on your lifestyle.
He is your husband and is worried about you.

It’s your choice what you do with this information, but don’t expect to be able to continue on nights out with her and it not to affect your marriage.

you can be friends with whoever you like but she does sound pretty awful to be fair.

Putting aside your husband and sisters views (which I agree with tbh), I really can't see how it can even be enjoyable to go out on a night out with someone like this? Unless you like the male attention too...

I go out with my friends to spend time with them having a laugh and a catch up. Not follow them around whilst they try and find a bloke to shag.

This.

Yes, and calling her friend 'it'.

"It’s like a dog in heat."

So I do have one friend who is absolutely man CRAZY. I mean she is absolutely single bloody minded on a night out. It’s like a dog in heat.

i asked husband who said he does question why I enjoy spending time with her and when she’s it hunting for men. Such a horrible, judgmental take imo.

What?
You say this, and think HE is judgey?

You asked for advice but don't seem to like what is being offered.

I mean…I don’t think your DH or sister should be dictating who you are friends with…but I personally wouldn’t be able to cope with this kind of woman to be honest. What do you get out of the friendship? It sounds tedious (and honestly a bit embarrassing!) to be with such a man-chaser 🤷‍♀️

No issue with Liv's behaviour although I'd find her a bit annoying. However if I were in your husband's shoes I would feel extremely uncomfortable because of your 'wing woman' behaviour (me and my H are also in our late 20s and wouldn't dream of this). It's nothing to do with being under the 'Taliban rule', it's just simple respect, plus men are annoying so you wouldn't catch me chatting to one on a night out.

You said it OP in your opening post.😕

But it's true though that's why it offends you so much. I've heard blokes talk like this and have known the partners and husbands of friends who talk like it too.

Very sound advice/point of view. It’s hard to say you are wrong. Don’t judge your friend but see why it upsets your husband.

YABVU. If a woman posted on here complaining that her husband had a male friend like your 'Liv', she'd be told it was a red flag and that her husband must have similar values to his friend. Your husband and your sister are right and you are wrong. Oh, and your friend sounds like an utter desperado. That sort of thing is mildly amusing for someone in their teens or early twenties. By late twenties it's just a bit pathetic.

To be fair you set the tone with your posts, describing your friend as like a dog on heat is pretty disgusting in itself.

I don’t see anything wrong with you being friends with her she is a single woman who is just having fun and knows when to stop and you’re keeping safe and stopping her from doing silly dangerous things. You’re not doing anything wrong at all and neither is your friend she is just enjoying being young, free and single and that’s allowed.