Dubai single mum

I would say OP - I would be pushing to continue my life and not be held back by my child's useless parent.

But if he has decided to stop being useless enough to pursue this in court - at a minimum she needs to ensure he is actually paying proper maintenance. I would also expect more from him in terms of sharing the childcare load.

Poor migrant workers and victims of sex-trafficking have little rights and protections anywhere.

My point was thousands of women move there, not solely migrant workers and sex-trafficking victims.

It's the poor migrant workers, & sex trafficked women who don't have rights.

Emirati women are governed by Sharia law which disadvantages women too.

Many many many women have moved to Dubai and live very happily earning a good amount of money.

That's for abusive men though especially those imprisoned for abuse towards the partner or child. It's overdue, but it is unlikely to have much impact on the OPs case where the father is seeing his child EoW. It might be the bare minimum (especially with not even paying maintenance) but unless there's a huge drip feed it's not abusive/dangerous.

That seems a pretty cheap price for giving up of women’s rights and human rights, I will be honest.

The presumption of parental involvement is being repealed, as it’s recognised that it’s not in children’s best interests to have contact whatever the cost.

UK law is preferential towards father's having regular contact, even if they are abusive or just useless in looking after their own children, so I think the OPs daughter would have to make a very strong case about how it would be financially beneficial for the family to move there and emphasise the point the father could see the child regularly if he wanted. I don't think the daughter's friendship network in Dubai would make a difference as parental contact would take priority. It is a difficult one to argue in court.

As a single parent in the UK, I know that mine and my child's life would be infinitely better in the ME where my profession is better paid, with accommodation and with nursery and later school fees paid. In the UK, I am working long hours, paying for wraparound care and scraping to get by every month, as well as struggling with vitamin D deficiencies, despite supplements. But would the father of my child allow a move? Absolutely not, despite not being able to financially support our child. It's a very tough system.

She is. I agree that some people treat their helpers appallingly and the protections for them are almost non-existent and probably worse in Dubai. It’s sadly up to individual employers to be decent and treat their helpers fairly, pay them a living wage with time off and pay expenses to visit family.

I lived in the ME and when my daughters were 13and 15 we moved to the UK, there is no way I wanted them doing their teen years there. It’s a very misogynistic society and girls while treated well in private schools are in an environment that does not encourage girls in higher level education.
I’m so thrilled we made that decision as both are in uni and living their best life! Lifestyle is no replacement for real life.

Good evening

thank you all for your advice some positive some not?

my daughter has previously worked and lived in Dubai before her daughter was born and has a fast network of friends in Dubai.

Dubai is a very safe country and offers so much more than uk does in my daughters eyes.

she has secured a job (pending relocation) visa and healthcare and lived out allowance included.been to visit schools and put a holding deposit down to hold place for this year. Home will be 10 min from school. So my daughter has done everything in the best interest of her daughter to ensure this move will enhance her everyday living, education, emotional wellbeing, .

mum is offering to pay all fares for her daughter to see dad in holidays summer 4 weeks, march 2 weeks and Christmas 2 weeks. With as much indirect contact that dad wishes.
dad is welcome to come out too whenever he wants too.

at present dad sees daughter every other weekend as and when in holidays and no FaceTime or calls , or check-ins between that time. Mum does all school runs, doctors , dentist, sick days you name it and , works every weekend .

dad not paying maintenance and mum struggling financially which does effect the child.

so the move not only improves mums finances but it directly improves the child.

every single part of child’s welfare will be greatly improved.

also predictable quality time with mum on weekends.

maternal grandmother also going to move too as to help out as she does here too.

so please only positive response please and if you want to be negative please don’t comment.

just some advice from mums who have or are at present going through the same court/caffcass 7 and have some good advice.

thanks

Singapore is a much better place than Dubai morally. There are issues with exploitation of house helps though.

I hope your helper is paid & treated fairly. There's no issue with help as long as people are

Every other weekend I guess the courts would see as an involved dad so it might not be granted. I personally wouldn’t subject my child to flights to and from the UK every school holiday, it’s a lot of travelling. Will you pay for her to be accompanied? Does dad have enough AL to do this? All she can do is wait and see what the courts opinion is, but I can see why father is objecting. He does have a relationship with his DD, and it will suffer with her moving countries. It’s clearly mum (and grandma’s) dream, but it’s not in the best interests of the child. For many reasons, but main one preventing her relationship with her father, so he has every right to object.

Epstein was trafficking women through Stanstead airport, what does that say about the UK then?

It shows what an immoral, classist, misogynistic & racist place it is though. Many wealthy Arab men commit these crimes on trafficked Eastern European or Ugandan women as they see them as inferior.

I lived in the ME and when my daughters were 13and 15 we moved to the UK, there is no way I wanted them doing their teen years there. It’s a very misogynistic society and girls while treated well in private schools are in an environment that does not encourage girls in higher level education.
I’m so thrilled we made that decision as both are in uni and living their best life! Lifestyle is no replacement for real life.

Moral judgments about Dubai aside, I think it entirely depends on the custody arrangements and your daughter's circumstances. It sounds like if she has sole custody, he has limited contact, she receives no child support and needs to move to Dubai for work then there may be her ex could do to stop her. However, he can kick up a fuss and it is very complex to move children across borders without parental consent, so she should definitely consult a lawyer.

I can see why your DD might move to Dubai if there are job prospects and if her life would be easier. As a single mum in Singapore my life is MUCH easier. I have my parents for a start (huge bonus which I wouldn't have in the UK) but I also have a live in helper, affordable high quality full-time nursery and its a small place where its easy to connect with my friends and also her dad, who still lives here as well. If I was a single mum in the UK I would drown, no doubt about it. Dubai isn't my cup of tea but as a single mum myself I won't indulge in pearl clutching moral judgments about another woman who is in a similar situation.

Good evening

thank you all for your advice some positive some not?

my daughter has previously worked and lived in Dubai before her daughter was born and has a fast network of friends in Dubai.

Dubai is a very safe country and offers so much more than uk does in my daughters eyes.

she has secured a job (pending relocation) visa and healthcare and lived out allowance included.been to visit schools and put a holding deposit down to hold place for this year. Home will be 10 min from school. So my daughter has done everything in the best interest of her daughter to ensure this move will enhance her everyday living, education, emotional wellbeing, .

mum is offering to pay all fares for her daughter to see dad in holidays summer 4 weeks, march 2 weeks and Christmas 2 weeks. With as much indirect contact that dad wishes.
dad is welcome to come out too whenever he wants too.

at present dad sees daughter every other weekend as and when in holidays and no FaceTime or calls , or check-ins between that time. Mum does all school runs, doctors , dentist, sick days you name it and , works every weekend .

dad not paying maintenance and mum struggling financially which does effect the child.

so the move not only improves mums finances but it directly improves the child.

every single part of child’s welfare will be greatly improved.

also predictable quality time with mum on weekends.

maternal grandmother also going to move too as to help out as she does here too.

so please only positive response please and if you want to be negative please don’t comment.

just some advice from mums who have or are at present going through the same court/caffcass 7 and have some good advice.

thanks