You must have lived a sheltered life, I envy you.
You also have internalised misogyny. You would rather disbelieve women, or think they must have brought rape and daily intimidation and disrespect on themselves. Because otherwise it's a scary thought that means you are vulnerable too.
If you refuse to believe individual women, or women collectively telling their stories, look at the statistics for the UK alone. I won't bother putting the sources, you can look them up:
-56% of women have taken safety measures like using phones as props or carrying keys as weapons in the past year
- 47% of girls aged 11-21 feel unsafe due to misogyny
- 2.2 million women/girls over 16 in England and Wales experienced domestic abuse last year. That's 7 percent of that population, more than1 in 20.
- 97% of women aged 18-24 report lifetime sexual harassment. Only 4% reported an incident to the police. Last year, 8% of women experienced sexual harassment. This rises to 23% for women aged 16-24.
-Online, 1 in 3 UK women (36%) have faced abuse, increasing to 62% for ages 18-24.
These are MILLIONS of women who are being beaten, raped, harrassed, intimidated, abused annually. They form a HUGE swathe of the female population. Do you really think it's just a few deviant men who are doing this? It's not. It's at least a large minority, and then there's another large minority of men on top of who don't do ANYthing when they witness their friends making horrible comments about women or talking about sex their wife owes them or 'joking' that they they would "do her" when a young woman walks past.
I get it, it is actually impossible, when you live in a patriarchy, to not have it distort your thinking about women and behaviour to women. But that means every decent human has the responsibility to recognise the effects of patriarchical thinking on their own views and to fight against it within themself.
That includes you. Or would you rather continue thinking that women are making it all up, because then YOU feel safe?