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To hate most men?

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Carlie97 · 10/02/2026 17:25

I'm not speaking about the whole male population, of course, but they're so pig ignorant. Sexist, bullish with disgusting habits. I'm currently sat in a cafe and a man, looks to be in his 60's is doing that deep throaty sniff in and sneezed so loud, I almost choked on my fish. Then there are the men who spit in public. Earlier I endured a man constantly sniffing on the train for half an hour. Women are like this too, but men are far worse. Enduring these men is a daily occurrence.

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BeaRightThere · 12/02/2026 22:35

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LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 12/02/2026 22:27

Yesitisnotthatitbe · 12/02/2026 15:57

Fucking hell, you are deranged. Get help

Please explain.

TooBigForMyBoots · 12/02/2026 19:17

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 12/02/2026 18:42

Hey! Maybe all women should start taking anti-anxiety medication and that will stop us all imagining that we’re being raped, murdered, assaulted, harassed, overlooked, minimised, patronised, underpaid, under valued, exploited, subjugated WORLDWIDE.

We’ll see that WE were the problem all along 🙄

That won't be enough unfortunately.

If we don't want to be porn fodder, we need to be fully covered outdoors. If we dont want to be diminished, put down, beaten, raped, exploited or murdered we need to live man-free lives.

You'd think all the decent men out there would listen, adjust and take the male scum down. But they dont. Because they don't care about women, or children, or anyone other than themselves.Hmm

TooBigForMyBoots · 12/02/2026 18:54

Gahr · 12/02/2026 12:45

Could you be a little more condescending, please? I don't think that you really got the message through.
Also, explain Rose West. Myra Handley, Ghilasne Maxwell, and the countless women who offered their babies up to Ian Watkins. It's not only not all men. It is also not just men.

Rose West.
Myra Hindley.
Ghislaine Maxwell.

Women who sacrificed children and other women up to men. 3 women who were the ultimate, dick pandering, handmaidens.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 12/02/2026 18:42

TooBigForMyBoots · 12/02/2026 18:29

Fortunately, this is a conversation online. Easily avoided if that's what you want.

As I said upthread, try being an adult or child living in one of the femicide capitals of Europe. It's literally depressing and miserable. You can hide this thread, put your fingers in your ears and sing la-la-la.

Until the penny drops for you too.

Hey! Maybe all women should start taking anti-anxiety medication and that will stop us all imagining that we’re being raped, murdered, assaulted, harassed, overlooked, minimised, patronised, underpaid, under valued, exploited, subjugated WORLDWIDE.

We’ll see that WE were the problem all along 🙄

TooBigForMyBoots · 12/02/2026 18:29

BeaRightThere · 12/02/2026 14:14

I'm not sure what you're saying "really?" in response to. Did I read a piece? Yes I did. https://substack.com/home/post/p-184726120

Do I think this site is becoming a depressing and miserable place to spend time? Yes I do. This thread is just one of many in which disgusting hateful bile is spread.

Fortunately, this is a conversation online. Easily avoided if that's what you want.

As I said upthread, try being an adult or child living in one of the femicide capitals of Europe. It's literally depressing and miserable. You can hide this thread, put your fingers in your ears and sing la-la-la.

Until the penny drops for you too.

Sunshineandblueskysalltheway · 12/02/2026 16:46

bigboykitty · 12/02/2026 16:43

I reported him as I was getting sick of the mental health slurs, notwithstanding the pitiful content.

Ah. Quite right.

bigboykitty · 12/02/2026 16:43

I reported him as I was getting sick of the mental health slurs, notwithstanding the pitiful content.

Sunshineandblueskysalltheway · 12/02/2026 16:41

Oh. Has he been banned?

Sunshineandblueskysalltheway · 12/02/2026 16:40

Still here then @Gahr Why do you continue to upset yourself?

And why do you write as though you're very elderly. Are you?

Gahr · 12/02/2026 16:33

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Sweetiedarling7 · 12/02/2026 16:07

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 12/02/2026 14:29

Crikey what a coincidence that you know the only two decent men in existence.

I know!

Yesitisnotthatitbe · 12/02/2026 15:57

LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 11/02/2026 10:23

You're speaking from male privilege and unreflected misogyny. So is the other bloke. You have NOT had the lived experiences of the majority of women because nen are NOT interested in you sexually. Therefore, you have not been leered at since the age of 11 and exposed to vile comments like, you must have a pretty cunt too; or had frightening experiences such as walking to your car in a parking lot and a man coming out from between cars pulling out his penis and wanking it while staring at you; or had to fight off a 'friend' in his car, who had offered you a lift home; or were pulled over on a dark empty highway adding oil to your old car and had a guy stop and start saying how he likes young girls with blond hair and you manage to escape by pushing him down a ditch and driving off and only closing the car door when you had reached 50 miles a hour; had your partner punishing you for not wanting sex, saying things like are you stupid, are you frigid, what's wrong with you; or had your higher degree supervisor run his hand up your leg and then say, I'd better not, my wife will kill me; or having a client say he prefers working with men; or been screamed at aggressively by a bunch of guys because you didn't smile when they told you to.

These are just SOME of MY lived experiences as a woman. I have HUNDREDS more of these stories. I have very fortunately NOT been raped, but it was fucking close on several occasions. ALL of my friends have similar or worse stories and 3 out of 7 HAVE been raped. One even got pregnant and had to abort.

We are all collectively TRAUMATISED by men.

So everyone here, including the bloody NAMALT women, there are fucking good reasons for women being afraid of men and HATING what they have done and what they continue to do.

And the bloke I am replying to, you have in your hand access to the many many many stories, academic studies, and discussions about this topic. You can also readily find sites where men post photos of their sleeping wife in sexually explicit poses; or hear men discussing how you've got to treat your wife mean to get sex from her; or hear men saying that women only want 666; or hear men discussing women in vile demeaning terms. These are not a few sites occupied by a few deviants. These are thousand of sites occupied by ordinary men, raised in the patriarchy to despise women. And the so-called good guys, like you think you are - they are the worst, because they have unreflected misogyny and are so fucking ignorant of it that they add further to this massive problem.

Do better. Read, think before you decide to share your ignorance with women on one of the few sites for women.

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Fucking hell, you are deranged. Get help

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:37

Gahr · 12/02/2026 15:36

The thing that always amuses me about your posts is that I imagine Owen Wilson to be writing them lol.

If I wrote what I thought when reading yours I’d be banned. Lol.

Yeah you still need to work on those skills.

Gahr · 12/02/2026 15:36

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:34

You need to work on your comprehension skills.

The thing that always amuses me about your posts is that I imagine Owen Wilson to be writing them lol.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:34

Gahr · 12/02/2026 15:25

Of course we don't, how very dare you. Our farts smell like sugar candy, we never get in the way of people going about their business, we never EVER bully anyone, we are never abusive, and most importantly, if we do happen to err and do something bad, it's a man's fault. Always.

You need to work on your comprehension skills.

Gahr · 12/02/2026 15:25

SnowFrogJelly · 12/02/2026 15:22

And women never do anything disgusting of course!

Of course we don't, how very dare you. Our farts smell like sugar candy, we never get in the way of people going about their business, we never EVER bully anyone, we are never abusive, and most importantly, if we do happen to err and do something bad, it's a man's fault. Always.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:25

SnowFrogJelly · 12/02/2026 15:22

And women never do anything disgusting of course!

As if by magic…! 🤣

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:23

dopaminego · 12/02/2026 15:19

Don't engage with it then. Instead we have a poster claiming Rose West's motivation was internalised misogyny - not being a despicable pervert then?

And the poster with the 'you're crying aren't you' stuff - utterly unhinged.

Why would I not engage. I’m all for this thread, men being the more problematic sex class can’t be highlighted enough. I get it, I’m here for it. It’s the ‘stop hating men’ posters who can’t seem to be able to scroll on and find a thread that interests them. Or that by discussing shite men, it means woman can’t be shite either. Wild.

SnowFrogJelly · 12/02/2026 15:23

This thread is v judgy especially regarding men over 50
NAMOFALT

SnowFrogJelly · 12/02/2026 15:22

And women never do anything disgusting of course!

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:20

dopaminego · 12/02/2026 15:08

If something is doubtful then it's not a fact.

For the hard of thinking.

Oh God. Something can be doubtful, and still a fact.

dopaminego · 12/02/2026 15:19

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/02/2026 15:04

It’s hilarious (in a depressing way) that any thread that talks about men being the shittier sex class (and they are by a country mile, statistically so), along with the inevitable NAMALT, the women do it too brigade always, ALWAYS mention Myra Hindley and Rose West. Always! Why is that? Because they are rare. They stand out. And have male co-accused. Would MH have carried out the horrific
crimes if it weren’t for Ian Brady? Doubtful. This is not excusing them, this is fact.

I could mention a hundred male murderers of women and you’d be like ‘who?!’. How many would have female co-accused calling the shots? Maybe some, but it’s not on the same level as men.

This doesn’t equate to women won’t and can’t cause serious harm. For the hard of thinking.

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Don't engage with it then. Instead we have a poster claiming Rose West's motivation was internalised misogyny - not being a despicable pervert then?

And the poster with the 'you're crying aren't you' stuff - utterly unhinged.

Catwalking · 12/02/2026 15:12

Carlie97 · 10/02/2026 17:46

I hate those men!!! They clearly think they and their needs are superior. Tossers.

Yep, & they’re even worse when they have an actual child in their trolley, & you’re just an older (& no longer awfully agile!) woman🙄.