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To hate most men?

342 replies

Carlie97 · 10/02/2026 17:25

I'm not speaking about the whole male population, of course, but they're so pig ignorant. Sexist, bullish with disgusting habits. I'm currently sat in a cafe and a man, looks to be in his 60's is doing that deep throaty sniff in and sneezed so loud, I almost choked on my fish. Then there are the men who spit in public. Earlier I endured a man constantly sniffing on the train for half an hour. Women are like this too, but men are far worse. Enduring these men is a daily occurrence.

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onemoretimebutnotagain · 10/02/2026 18:05

I work with quite few men in a building company, there are not that bad....all very helpful also. I don't go too close to men not related to me, so don't want to look into their mouths or nostrils anyway...but it is nice having at home a 53 years old who is very very young looking and completely clean

Tonissister · 10/02/2026 17:58

YABVVU. You don't know most men. Don't hate an unknown sector of society. That's what racists and misogynists do. They think refugees stole our jobs and women are all after one thing: a man's wallet, so we can lounge around. It's nonsense. Just as it is nonsense to assume all men are seedy and abusive. The ones who are become newsworthy. But there are many men out there quietly getting on with life, kind to their kids, their partners, their neighbours and friends, contributing in the community, paying their taxes, mowing their lawns etc.

On balance, I know more good men than bad.

xOlive · 10/02/2026 17:51

Men in public make me hate men.
I don’t know any in my life but I am so intolerant to men in public. They’re gross and loud and just there.
The worst I encountered was opposite my cubical on the maternity ward after I had my baby.
I actually lied to the hospital and wormed my way out of a blood transfusion just so I could go home because I was going to fucking punch him. Disgusting pig of a creature.

Carlie97 · 10/02/2026 17:46

Playingvideogames · 10/02/2026 17:45

And whenever I’m in a shop and browsing something, some bloke will walk directly at me because he wants whatever I’m stood in front of and assumes I’ll just leap out the way. I don’t.

I hate those men!!! They clearly think they and their needs are superior. Tossers.

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Carlie97 · 10/02/2026 17:45

glonurse · 10/02/2026 17:43

I'm lesbian for good reason. I agree.

I actually long for a female partner but wouldn't want intimacy apart from kissing. More for the love and companionship. Is that weird?

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Playingvideogames · 10/02/2026 17:45

And whenever I’m in a shop and browsing something, some bloke will walk directly at me because he wants whatever I’m stood in front of and assumes I’ll just leap out the way. I don’t.

Carlie97 · 10/02/2026 17:44

Playingvideogames · 10/02/2026 17:41

YANBU. They’re absolutely vile. Yesterday I was walking to the shop and the bloke in front of me was morbidly obese and wearing jeans that had ripped across the arse - completely, not just a small hole - exposing his boxer shorts and crack. It was utterly disgusting, he clearly just didn’t give a shit.

That is DISGUSTING!!! Honestly, my (male) pets have more decorum. They're quite classy actually.

I remembered another thing a shit load of men do. Eat with their mouths open and make horrendous noises.

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glonurse · 10/02/2026 17:43

I'm lesbian for good reason. I agree.

bigboykitty · 10/02/2026 17:42

I agree. They are utterly grim.

Playingvideogames · 10/02/2026 17:41

YANBU. They’re absolutely vile. Yesterday I was walking to the shop and the bloke in front of me was morbidly obese and wearing jeans that had ripped across the arse - completely, not just a small hole - exposing his boxer shorts and crack. It was utterly disgusting, he clearly just didn’t give a shit.

Upstartled · 10/02/2026 17:39

Boomer55 · 10/02/2026 17:35

I must have led a charmed life. The decent men I know or have known far outnumber the others.

Same. I've had the good fortune to have mostly known lovely men. Sniffing on the train wouldn't hit my threshold for annoyance though so 🤷🏼‍♀️

SandrenaIsMyBloodType · 10/02/2026 17:39

And oh my god, the (lack of) dental hygiene. I swear after about 50 they often come with minging gums, furry teeth and questionable breath.
And toenails. I’m fortunate enough to be married to a man who clips his toenails (although his aim for the bin could use some work) but if you ever actually look at men’s feet at the pool or beach, they’re basically hooves. Absolutely bogging

Boomer55 · 10/02/2026 17:35

I must have led a charmed life. The decent men I know or have known far outnumber the others.

Caerulea · 10/02/2026 17:35

I was going to vote & run but there's no option to.

So yanbu

Robogob · 10/02/2026 17:34

YANBU

Sweetiedarling7 · 10/02/2026 17:34

I’m with you.
I know two decent men. That is all.
The rest are all shit.

CharlotteFlax · 10/02/2026 17:30

YANBU