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WWYD? School Incident.

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ciscowife · 10/02/2026 17:21

DS (13) is a weekly boarder. Last night he texted me “can you come and get me”. I tried to call him a number of times to see what was the matter. I decided to phone the boarding house as this is out of character for him. Was told there had been an incident and he was very upset. Drove to collect him immediately without knowing what had happened. He was in an absolute state when I got there.
He had been dragged into a bedroom by a Y13 and Y10 pinned to the bed, wrapped up in a blanket so he couldn’t move and then threatened with being water boarded, and having various liquids and things shoved in his mouth. Luckily they were interrupted by the lady who was on duty. She knocked on the door and opened it to tell them something, DS shouted for help and managed to get away but he was then chased by them. He tried to run away from the school to get away from them.
The school dealt with it quickly and we had late phone calls with deputy head followed by meetings today. The two boys have been suspended for the rest of this week which basically means they are getting an extended half term break.
We feel that this isn’t acceptable punishment because it could have been an awful outcome. Some friends who are either in boarding/teaching have said that this should be a police matter and the council safeguarding team should be informed.
So WWYD oh wise mums in the net!

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MillsMollsMands · 10/02/2026 17:24

Absolutely no way have school dealt with this appropriately. Had they not rung you following the incident themselves? This needs a safeguarding referral to LADO in lieu of appropriate response from school.

the ages of the boys here is significant IMO - this is not horseplay from peers.

Holdinguphalfthesky · 10/02/2026 17:23

I agree with your friends, and I would contact the police myself. School is failing here. Would they have told you if your son hadn’t called you?

FuzzyWolf · 10/02/2026 17:23

What is the school’s complaint and safeguarding policies, because I would be going down those routes.

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