Sticky situation. I’ve been dating a number of people recently. Suddenly found myself inundated with offers (I know!) and I don’t know what to do.
I’ve basically narrowed it down to 2 people I’m interested in. But the problem is neither know about each other and I’m finding it difficult to “choose”. We’ve not had conversations about being “exclusive” but I can tell the assumption is there to be exclusive soon if not now. Neither have asked if I’m seeing anybody else and I’ve not volunteered the information. Both know I’ve been dating various people over the last few months. The thing is I’ve spent my life in relationships and have very much been enjoying the freedom of dating around. I’m just feeling a bit guilty right now (not sure why as I’m single) and also a little pressured to cut someone off - but I don’t want to.
person A - lives far from me (approx 3 hours), great job that can be done from anywhere, very attractive, seems to tick all boxes, funny but not AS funny as person B. Prioritises me “being happy” and is clear on what they want from life. Adventurous but tied down to where they currently live for the time being due to caring for elderly family. Has discussed moving when the time comes.
person b - lives 5 minutes away, decent enough job with set shifts, very attractive but not my usual type, ticks plenty of boxes, very funny, also prioritises my happiness but we’ve not yet had deep life discussions, very caring, very adventurous loves to travel. No ties but a few mutual ties in our pasts which make me feel a little awkward.
WWYD? I’ve been on 2 dates with each. Person B has spent more “none date” time with me purely due to distance. I don’t actually want to choose at this point. But the net is closing in as both are raising an eyebrow when I’m not as active in replying when I’m with the other.
yabu - make a choice and settle down
yanbu - stick to dating both and wait to see how it plays out