To want both people?

You've only had two dates with each, and seem to be enjoying them being weirdly obsessed with you after such a short period of time. Can't you see the red flags there?

In a more general sense, I'd say pick neither. If you don't like one obviously enough to pick him over the other, then you don't like either enough to be exclusive.

Yes! A has got to go.

Edit: just saw the update. Now I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Why would you need to be exclusive after 2 dates?

4 dates minimum before even thinking about that. And a conversation. None of the 'implied' bs. To be honest I'd date them both for at least 6 dates in your situation.

If I could be arsed with the long distance.

At 2 dates in you barely know them at all.
And cool down the between date chats. It rushes this false sense of intimacy.

I missed this! After 2 dates you really don’t know them at all. However, if they know you’ve been dating others then yes I agree this can make some people possessive but do you really want that so soon? And are they just being this way because they want to win the game of dating you?

Yep!

If they are trying to say what you can or can't do after TWO dates, that concerns me.

You can do what you want on Valentine's day, just like any other day of the year, and if they don't like it they can lump it!

You’ve been on two dates with both of them, you barely know them. What makes you think they both “prioritise your happiness”?!
Quite an assumption, really.

This. It all seems a bit premature. To be honest I don’t think I’d date the LDR man, too much hassle and you don’t want to be cut off from friends and family.

Other alternative is you find someone else.

Go for the funny one

You sound like you're not ready for a relationship..

If it goes all the distance you could have kids with one of them. Which of them is going to be kinder, and help out with the supermarket shopping while you’re stuck at home in a sick-stained tracksuit with two kids?

Always go for kindness and decency.

Nice problem to have, but!

Ask yourself who you’d choose if both of them lived nearby or if both lived far away.

Neither.

You are not theirs to share.

It's really bad that after just two dates either is getting possessive - bin them both and enjoy being single

Would you be happy if they are chatting and meeting other women though?

I think if your not ready to exclusively date then you tell both of them that. See what happens. If they don't like it then your free to go back to dating other people.

This. Good men don’t joke like this. How dare they! You don’t now and wouldn’t ever belong to them to ‘share’. Having multiple people interested is flattering but careful you’re not left thinking they are the only options, I’d get rid based on this chat.

Just take your time? It's early days. But, be honest with them, if they want more from you that you're not willing to give, then don't feel pressured into it. However, honesty leaves them free to decide what they want to do in their own lives regarding dating.

And long distance is fine if both willing to make an effort and it can be quite cute. Certainly look forward to seeing each other. My OH and I were long distance for about 3 years, we took turns to travel to see each other. And 18 years later we're still together.

I have been in this position a few times (I’ve been single for a looooong time). I actually decided that I like being single and just dating without a full blown relationship.

long distance relationships rarely work so I would probably friend zone this guy or at least tell him that you don’t want anything serious due to the logistics. Carry on dating the other guy for now but maybe tell him your not in a rush to jump into a serious relationship as you are still ‘finding yourself’ after your last relationship.

As the years have gone on I have found it harder to date more than one person, I am not great at texting multiple people and would likely send the wrong message to the wrong person (I have done this a few times). It’s also harder to find dates these days, mainly because my standards are higher and I enjoy my own company way too much.

None date time?

I assume you mean non-date time, but given you're in the very early stages of dating, what does that even mean? Surely all the time you spend together at this stage is a date?

I would pick neither man and go on lots more dates with lots more people.

This is eerily familiar….

They sound like they might both be life bombing you.

how is your relationship history? Have you had an previously abusive relationships?

It seems weird you’ve only had a couple of dates with each get you are allowing either/or/both to dictate events such as Valentine’s. You need to be a bit more assertive here, pull back a bit, calm it down, and properly get to know both.

Also, three hours isn’t remotely long distance.

Getting jealous would be harsh to say, but both have joked about not wanting to “share” and sort of sent memes about not letting anyone else access me if that makes sense.

After 2 dates? Bin both and raised your bar, they're testing red flags to see if you react.

Neither sound great after your update about Galentines. They both seem a bit too invested after two dates, to explicitly tell you they want you to cancel plans with friends. If you like them both, I'd risk pissing them off and just carry on dating them until you get to know them better. Or better still, ditch them.

I'd dump B - I think he's just the easy option. Keep dating A and keep seeing other people until you know what you want to do.

You sound like you prefer A but the distance thing is a problem?