To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

This 100%

wow he is like a sulky teen child isn’t he. I’d have to cross a park to get to the car waaaah. I’d just insist, and the first few Fridays I’d go out so I’m not at home.
‘Dp id like to go out on Friday occasionally or have a glass of wine at night. You can drive and park on the other side of the park or uber home. I think once a month sounds fair. I am out this Friday and have a 17yo called Sally babysitting, she will leave when I get home.’

him: sulk sulk grump. You: excuse me, I haven’t gone out or had a drink on a Friday for 6 years so your royal highness doesn’t have to walk across a park. You have legs, you’re an adult male not a 16yo girl, I don’t believe I heard you say how much you appreciate how much I put my day out for you every day as well as cook dinner clean and tidy? You’re sulking now; wait till you realise that I’m so pissed off with all this I’m done doing all the work at home as well as being your chauffeur. You should have appreciated how good you had it.

I agree. For my own personal safety I would not accept this situation as an employee.

Buy him some talcum powder or some cycling style shorts and tell him to man up.

Bus? He's already doing well getting a lift from you every morning, he should be able to get himself home a couple of miles in the evening

made of meringue LOL :D i need the laughing emoji!

"he hates walking because it makes him hot and sweaty and he gets a leg rash..."

What...?! 😂 The irony... If he walked more, he probably wouldn't get so hot and sweaty and have leg rashes (evidence of circulation perhaps)... Sorry 😐 @stripeyrain

Although actually, I would,band do, happily have a drink after 9.00, especially on a Friday, so it doesn't jeab you can never drink. But I still think he's taking you for granted

Hoping OP comes back (after she's collected the DH) to tell us how the conversation went when he got this job and he told her about how he was going to get there and back.

Or if there was only an assumption on his part.

Either way, OP. Just tell him. There will be days - that you can't predict in advance - when you will not be in the mood to collect him and that he needs a robust Plan B. And C. And D

I'm surprised it's only the drinking that bothers you. 9.00 every evening for years? What if you were invited out for an evening, or wanted to take up a hobby, or were ill? I think it's great to pick him up occasionally eg rain, but it shouldn't be an expectation that you always do and he never walks.

Does he work very long hours that you start the same time but he doesn't finish until 9, or do you start unusually late?

Not just you. Many posters can see it, and have said so. It's about control.

I don't understand how people can't see the obvious here.

It has nothing to do with being lazy, being fat, having chubby thighs, feeling hot etc.

It is purely a mechanism to tie OP to the house at all times. Am I the only one to see this?

He can just wear some cycling shorts to prevent rubbing

Wow that’s nothing. Surely he can walk sometimes or bike!

Uh-huh. So not overweight but can't walk a mile and a bit because his thighs rub together. Rugby players cover considerably more than a mile in a game so I'm not convinced with that excuse. He sounds pathetic and tbh you are a bit too for enabling this nonsense.

Yanbu, I collect my son same time Monday to Friday. It sucks!!!!!

Half an hour! That's nothing!

What would he do if he didn’t have you to take him and pick him up from work? Would he just not go or would he find an alternative way?

Why can’t he cycle or get a taxi sometimes?

Seriously why are you doing this?

I would do this for my husband but not at the expense of an evening out with friends.

It’s really odd the company haven’t sourced parking for their staff even if it meant the staff footing the bill themselves If it’s on a business park could your husband not enquire about getting a permit to park at another companies premises

A 30-minute walk to work is a dream commute! I can’t believe you’re driving him. What would his reaction be if you said you’re going to stop giving lifts on, say, a Friday so that you can socialise with colleagues and have a drink? Why can’t he ride a bike (even an e-bike) or a scooter? Honestly half an hour is nothing, I used to walk that to the train station and then walk another half hour the other side of the train to work – great for fitness and mental health!

How far is his work from where you live? How do other people manage? They can't all have OHs who are willing to provide a taxi service.

The whole thing smells a bit fishy to me. I live near a city with business parks all over the place and while public transport is infrequent and means a 15-minute walk, it IS possible. If he were getting a bus or local train, how far would he have to walk?

Sorry, have just read your update. HALF AN HOUR'S WALK? The exercise will do him good, and if it rains he can wear a waterproof.

I think he needs a bike!

he is utterly pathetic.

He needs to put on cycling style shorts to stop the chub-rub before he leaves.

He can get a bike (30 minutes walk is 10 minutes biking) which would also help his weight and fitness.

Find out what everyone else does. I thought you were going to say it was over an hour's walk or something.

And tell him: you are ok getting him twice a week. The other days he makes his own way back. And you drink whenever you want. And if he whines - just ask him what his solution is. Over and over and over.