To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

@mumofoneAloneandwell

what if she wants a shag herself though? Why should she deprive herself to make a point? When there are other means of doing so? (I.e just tell him no more lifts)

Just text him every so often “Dave. I’m pissed again.You’ll have to make your own way home”

He’ll soon twig.

That's obviously the arrangement they came to but if she isn't happy she needs to change things

He’d have to walk or find another way if he didn’t have you so I’d seriously suggest it finds an alternative, at least some of the evenings. Collecting him every evening sounds miserable, especially when it’s only a 30 min walk home.

Just tell him on a Friday he needs to get a taxi home cause u want to unwind

every Day!? Yes it’s absolutely awful, and would make you go on a sex strike

I'd suggest a bike or electric bike would be an option.
I walk 35-40 minutes to work and back every shift I see it as my exercise and keeps me healthy. I used to walk around a 50 minutes. I am considering an electric bike. But I do do 3 1 hour sessions in the gym weekly as well.
And yes I work full time (as well as studying towards a BSc)

Ffs I wouldn't like to come home to u with a few ££ short in my pay packet 🤣

Yes because he doesn’t need to does he. He could walk 30 minutes well everyday if he had to but certainly twice a week

so his wife doesn’t have to take 30 minutes out of her day

so yes he is putting his needs/selfishness/laziness first and expecting the OP to facilitate at her expense which is incredibly unattractive

Yes - a grown man who can't make his own way home from work (a whole half an hours' walk away) and relies on his wife to come and collect him every night for six years is incredibly unattractive.

It's just pathetic, really.

He doesnt need picking up

He's acting like an incompetent.

So not attractive

(or worse he is, as we have said, controlling and therefore this is not attractive either)

Husband needing picked up makes him less attractive? Wow

I have reported your personal attack on me, and I will say what I want thank you

but she is also out earning a living. And cannot enjoy life because of her man. That’s no way to live

He needs to pull himself together and so do you. Stop babysitting him! He can walk - if his legs chafe then get some long boxers? They literally do running ones that are tight fitted and prevent chafing. He can get a taxi or ride a bike or get the bus and you can have a life outside of being his lift. Let him make his own way home a few times a week and stop babying him.

The alcohol bit is only an aside to the whole thing really. The fact is it IS a hassle to have to pick someone up everyday. I know because I live for the 1 day a week when my kids have no activity in the evening so when I'm home from work, that's it. I don't need to go out again unless I want to.
It would be different (still annoying, but not as annoying) if there was some reason why the grown man couldn't easily get himself home. Eg. He's physically incapacitated etc. But the fact is, he just can't be bothered to cycle/scoot/walk. And he knows this means his partner can have no evening social life (or just relax after a day of work) should she choose to and he clearly doesn't care.

What would he do if you left him, worked evenings, died, were unfit to drive due to ill health. This is not a healthy set up if it 8s something you dont want to do. Some people are fine with this. I wouldnt be happy with this

It's not sunny all year round or poor weather all year round - you've been driving him too and from work for six years now? Half an hour walk is around 1.5 miles or so depending on how fast someone walks. He can't even get a taxi a couple of times a month or walk it?

Why shouldn't you come home from work and relax - he's taking the piss and it's about time someone went to the union and asked why do managers have parking spaces and staff don't

This is completely besides the point, but 15mph on a bike isn't really easy. I'd say 10-12mph. That's what I would cycle at to work and if I did 10 miles. 15mph would take a bit more effort.

Still, it's the difference between 10 minutes and 6 minutes. Negligible when it's about 2 miles away (based on 30 minutes walking).

Just tell him to get a taxi on the nights you've had a wine ? My partner picks me up from the train station as I commute with a toddler. But he will just text me if he can't for whatever reason and I'll get a cab or bus. No drama.

I think they mean because when grown men behave like children its a turnoff.
The OP partner is behaving like a child.
My partner doesnt drive. We used to live 30 miles from his work and even then, he got his ass home himself. When we lived an hours walk away, he also took himself to or from work without relying on me.
Because that is normal adult bahaviour.

A friend of mines partner got a gym membership so he could park his car there on the way to work. The membership worked out a bit more than what he would have to pay for a parking permit and the carpark wasn't that much closer anyway.

I don’t understand the posters suggesting the OP should not drink or wait.

Getting home from work is HIS responsibility, not hers, and he needs to find a solution. It seems like so far his solution was just to expect her to run around after him.

Fuck that shit, you’re not his chauffeur or his mum. Tell him to get a grip and sort his own way home.

And those questioning why this would make him less attractive? Being treated like a mug or his mummy wouldn’t exactly do it for me.

It’s not really about the drinking. She can’t make any plans any evening as a grown man won’t walk 30 minutes. Picking up children is completely different.

Though to be fair my DS walks 30 minutes to the gym and back and never accepts a lift…

It is annoying but I'd probably just have a drink after I'd picked him up. I often pick up dc late (11.30). I sometime have a drink then.