To take child out with chickenpox

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What on earth are you talking about? The op has done precisely the opposite. She has set out with an intent to avoid people - hence Covid rules/distancing.

She has said it’s a park kiosk. Outdoors. Therefore her dd doesn’t need to be anywhere near another human.

Everything in life carries a risk. Op has weighed up the risks and is taken every reasonable precaution to minimise them. It’s a very miserable person who suggests she MUST keep her dd inside (despite the risk being vanishingly small in these circumstances) just to obtain some sort of MN worthy selfless, morally superior badge of honour.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5488632-to-take-child-out-with-chickenpox?page=11&reply=150463490

Oh get over yourself with your lazy ageist slurs and invented history.

My children were born in the 90s, childcare took the bulk of one income and there were no free hours from the tax payer. None of my friends were SAHMs nor were my mother’s or grandmother’s generations - SAHMs were always a privilege of higher income families, others worked around the clock if they couldn’t afford commercial childcare or have family help.

I was back at work within three months of my first because maternity pay was largely non existent and as well as childcare we had a mortgage which took the bulk of the other income (on our luxurious two up two down). There was also no parental leave for fathers, no right to leave for parental responsibilities, no right to request flexible or reduced working after maternity leave and women were “managed out” or simply sacked at an even higher rate than now. When I started work women also didn’t have the right of access to pension schemes if they were not full time. And no we didn’t have coffee out because we didn’t have the disposable income to pay for it. Lucky old you to be able to afford small luxuries instead of taking a flask and sandwiches with you. Oh and my pension age is only a few months short of yours if you are in your 30s.

We did however understand the impact of infectious diseases and didn’t spread them around (there were also far less rights to sick pay and families couldn’t afford to lose income).

You can’t go out and about till the spots have crusted over.

it’s very infectious and spreads easily

Why do you keep just repeating this, are you stuck on some sort of play back loop?

How do you think coffee and cake is obtained without going into a shop, is your experience of being outside the house so limited you cant use your imagination

Some of us posted pages and pages ago we assumed she meant either a drive through or some sort of outside vendor, turns out she meant a park kiosk. So what of it?

Not a zero risk as the OP knows the child is still contagious and th OP had set out with an intent to be in contact with people.
An outdoor vendor is your take when the OP said "Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors."

You were the person who opted for hysteria while missing the fact that the OP was going to bring her child into contact with one or more workers etc. If you dont know why the choice of hysteria is amusing you should look it up.

Are you classing this as "an attack"?

》》 The OPs further posts give a glimps of attitude.

Also I just read your replies, I have no idea about adults but “generally” I’ve never heard of a child having a chickenpox vaccine before chemo. Mines had chemo twice and didn’t get it either time, and he’s never had chickenpox.

When my son had cancer chickenpox could have killed him. Keep your child at home.

You can't catch shingles from someone with chicken pox. A quick NHS read confirms that. Your link just provides an AI overview that states you can get shingles if you've had chicken pox. That's not the same thing.

You also don't just catch chicken pox being in the same space as someone with it. It's spread via coughing/sneezing or direct contact with fluid from the blisters so everyone probably needs to calm down a fraction.
I wouldn't have taken my children out for a day with it, but a walk with a stop at an outdoor kiosk that they can be far removed from, is not really a risk to anyone.

The op may have made a few shitty remarks but it doesn’t change the fact that what she’s proposing - a riverside walk, outdoor vendor, Covid rules - is of absolute minimal risk to anyone.

Trying to patronise me with ‘amusing’ remarks doesn’t exactly cover you in glory when you’re attacking someone else’s attitude btw.

Yes, I realise that. I was just suggesting she could have a play date with said child if safe to do so with the above caveats.

Well I mean if you’d spoken to her properly about it in the first place, she wouldn’t have had her little hissy fit 🤷‍♀️

That happened locally here a few years ago with pox parties and then one of the children ended up in hospital.

Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors.

How did fozziebear2 expect the coffee and cake to be obtained ?

Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors.

The OPs further posts give a glimps of attitude.

But please do continue the hysteria classification is so amunsing

Yeah it was a shitty comment but doesnt take away that she is completley reasonable to go out with her child in the way she went (or described as going)

Probably from a child who was contagious but hadn't come out in spots yet . Chicken pox is contagious before spots and is why it spreads in nurserys/schools so easily.

Suggesting ‘boomers’ spread their germs around Waitrose is also pretty patronising

Take coffee and snacks with you or use a drive thru on your way.

Pick a remote area/less likely to see people.

I absolutely did this when my DD has chicken pox. It helped us both massively.

I chose an area that I knew to be quiet at the time of day I went. We saw noone. We both got fresh air and DD got a scooter ride and felt happy.

Stay away from the coffee shop or crowded areas/play parks as others say.

Well I’d say opinions are fairly mixed so it’s not like she’s been unilaterally told that she’s BU. Don’t think it’s a wind up either, it’s a very common childhood illness that we’ve all probably dealt with at one time or another.

Still nobody has been able to specify the risk of the child being outdoors far away from other people.

And the biscuit emoji is very old and patronising now.

I took my poxy child out on a walk on my own land (rural) ran into a neighbour with a dog and called out to let her know. She said it would actually be quite a good time to get chicken pox out the way and offered to bring her dc over for a play. 🤦‍♀️

This is very true. I accidentally took dd to my antenatal appt when she had chickenpox. I’d got there at 11 for an 1120 appt. I wasn’t seen till 1245 as they were busy. She was grumpy and whinging in the buggy then had a nap. I had to wait for bloods then a scan then back to the doctor . As I was leaving at 230 a midwife said ‘ why did you bring her here like that ???!!’ I looked at dd in the buggy and she had 3 spots on her face which must have literally come out while she was napping. The midwife was furious with me but I hadn’t done it knowingly she told me it was extremely dangerous for pregnant women

What of it?