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Spa day alone

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Bluehead · 10/02/2026 06:50

Would you?

I think it sounds like heaven. A massage and facial, a sauna, hydrotherapy pool, sitting on a heated recliner in a dark room with no expectations from anyone else. Just time dedicated to relaxing.

My friend thinks it’s weird and going to the spa is something you do with friends and would be boring alone. She says just book a massage somewhere else rather than the spa if I want one.

Is it weird to go alone?

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NinaNina83 · 10/02/2026 19:15

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to go on your own if you like it, definitely! I went on my own once and didn’t enjoy it as i prefer going with a friend. Depends on what you like.

Swiftsmith · 10/02/2026 19:15

I've done spa days alone and its so relaxing. Once stayed overnight at a spa hotel alone. Highly recommend. Bring a good book and enjoy!

TomMorrow · 10/02/2026 19:13

I have one booked next month. I’ve got a treatment, followed by an hour of spa time. I’ll probably treat myself to a solo lunch afterwards. I can’t wait!

cestlavielife · 10/02/2026 19:07

You want quiet and pampering not a hen party... so go and enjoy!

Anonanonanonagain · 10/02/2026 19:03

Your friend is odd. I LOVE a solo spa day. After weeks or months of parenting, working, cooking, cleaning bla bla there is nothing better than a few hours of bliss and silence to yourself !

TamarindCottage · 10/02/2026 19:03

Your friend is nuts. Ignore her, book it and enjoy your spa day

Ghyllscramble · 10/02/2026 18:55

I much prefer going on my own, no risk of getting bogged down in some conversation or other I don't find relaxing, and you can wander about/move rooms etc freely without having to suggest it to anyone. Slight exception would be if there's something really unusual and beautiful about the spa, a really one-off memorable experience of some sort, as it's nice to then share the 'wow' moment with someone and re-live it later. But yes most of the time I'd look forward to going by myself more.

Ghyllscramble · 10/02/2026 18:50

Nomedshere · 10/02/2026 07:03

I'm going to Rudding Park tomorrow on my own for a day. 2 books packed, not planning to speak to anyone.
Not odd at all

Ooh wow, Rudding Park is a sensational spa! Enjoy!

GingerKombucha · 10/02/2026 18:45

A friend of mine tried to invite herself on my spa day, I had to very politely decline. In my head, bars and restaurants are for socialising, spas are for peace and calm alone.

Walker1178 · 10/02/2026 18:37

I’d take that ‘me time’ and totally love it! Who chats away when they’re getting a massage/facial anyway?!?

neverbeenskiing · 10/02/2026 18:22

I did a spa day alone last year and loved it. Had Afternoon tea there as well. It was bliss. Spa days with friends are fun, but I can only totally and completely relax in my own company. I have a very 'peopley' job and sometimes I just don't want any pressure to be social.

Happyjoe · 10/02/2026 18:20

Alone is fine! Been to the cinema, to gigs alone too. Spa would be lovely alone, curled up with a good book in between appointments, doing what you want, when you want.

I was going to go on a Norway cruise last year, but never got around to it. Was going to leave the better half at home, looking after the animals. But I really wanted to revisit a country I lived in as a kid doing it the way I wanted without having to worry about him indoors.

PrismRain · 10/02/2026 18:18

YANBU. People that go a spa to have ‘fun’ are supremely irritating because they inevitably spend their time there shrieking at each other and disturbing everyone else who went there to do what a spa is actually designed for.

Timble · 10/02/2026 18:15

Bluehead · 10/02/2026 06:50

Would you?

I think it sounds like heaven. A massage and facial, a sauna, hydrotherapy pool, sitting on a heated recliner in a dark room with no expectations from anyone else. Just time dedicated to relaxing.

My friend thinks it’s weird and going to the spa is something you do with friends and would be boring alone. She says just book a massage somewhere else rather than the spa if I want one.

Is it weird to go alone?

I’m lucky to have a membership at a nice gym that has a lovely spa. I often go on own! It’s so relaxing, it is nice to go with a friend but not strange to go on your own!

mamaduckbone · 10/02/2026 18:14

Not weird at all, although I’ve never done it. I have a spa voucher from
my birthday to use and I’m contemplating sloping off on my own but haven’t quite decided if I’d be a bit self conscious. It does sound like heaven though.

Granof5 · 10/02/2026 18:12

I absolutely love doing this on my own. I feel so relaxed afterwards

Hankunamatata · 10/02/2026 18:12

Id love it especially if its quiet. Good book and nice cocktail

MummingIt2018 · 10/02/2026 18:03

I hate it when friends suggest a spa day, completely ruins it for me being there with other people. Would much rather go alone with a book 😊

Sheepsmellnice · 10/02/2026 18:01

It sounds fantastic have a wonderful time

dollyblue01 · 10/02/2026 18:00

Not weird no, I would do it on my own, tbf I think it’s more relaxing that way.

Greedybilly · 10/02/2026 17:58

Go for it! Your friends are the weird ones for not having the guts!

NongKhai · 10/02/2026 17:56

Anyone recommend a nice day spa in Central/North or East London?

EsmeSusanOgg · 10/02/2026 17:52

I did this in the autumn. Had headphones and a good podcast for the relaxation room.

Total bliss. I had some much needed time off after a super busy time at work (genuinely clocked up an additional 140 hours work on top of full time hours over the course of 6 weeks).

No one else was free. So I decided to sod it, and book a spa day for just me.

Highly recommend. It was incredibly relaxing. And just... Quiet. I am exceedingly good way.

1000StrawberryLollies · 10/02/2026 17:50

Of course YANBU. I've only ever been to spas alone. For me it's about peace and relaxation, not being sociable!

Chinsupmeloves · 10/02/2026 17:48

I've been to several on my own, bliss! If you enjoy and value alone time do it. It's nice with friends as well but just not having to talk, do what you want when you want is such a treat. Xxx

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