Is DH being mean or am I being precious?

He should at least be able to do the school run to breakfast club or something. What would he do of the baby was in childcare and sick? Surely he wouldn't expect you to cover every illness if you were working.

My school has a horrible sickness policy. After EVERY absence (even if you’ve gone home sick at the end of the day, as I did once with a migraine at 2:45pm and was back in the following day!) we have to have a ‘back to work meeting’. After 3 days sickness in any one x 12 month period, something is ‘triggered’ and we have a Very Serious Letter of Warning (it’s called something else but I can’t think what just now!) This is followed up by a long meeting, with many forms to be filled out and ‘policies’ put in place, to manage any further absence. It’s truly awful…considering we are enclosed in poorly ventilated classrooms for over 6 hours a day with 30+ children sharing ALL their germs with us.

It sucks that you’re unwell OP, but your DH can’t be expected to be off for this reason. So yes, you are being unreasonable here.

I don’t think either of you are wrong to be honest, its just a rubbish situation.

He probably can’t take the day off last minute without triggering an absence warning. Agree with others though could the compromise be dropping DC off and then heading into work?

He shouldn’t take the day off but he should at least arrange to go in late and do the school runs.

Can’t DS be dropped at a friends house by DH on his way to work and brought home by the friend?

DH should call work and say he's going to be late in, following the drop off of your DC at school. I have teacher friends and it happens - life happens.

Edited to add - try and book kids into after school club.

Please don't do the school run if you're vomiting contagious infection.

If DH won't take time off and you can't bring your children in the school may offer to come and get them. But imo your husband's employer should allow him to do the school run if his wife is really ill.

Sorry you feel terrible, but he is right. My workplace has a very harsh absence policy, this would be my 3rd episode and I'd get a stage 1 warning.

It is awful but equally he’s right it’s difficult to take time off especially in a school at short notice. Is there literally no one? No friends other school parents? A breakfast club he could drop off to? If no I’d ring school and explain they may offer to collect otherwise your kids will have to stay home. I would get a bucket and camp out on settee all day put kids tv on and try to rest as much as possible.

i was in a similar position to you, if dh was ill he rested and I managed house/ds but if I was ill I had to get on with it. Once I had a horrific migraine and couldn’t even lift my head off pillow, DS was 2 and I insisted dh drove an hour out of his way and dropped ds at grandparents. He was annoyed but did it. But in those early days I did resent dh a lot, he’s never had to care for ds and be ill at same time. Now ds is ten it’s so much easier as he can entertain himself if I’m too ill.