Is DH being mean or am I being precious?

Try being a single parent.

In the UK, employees have a statutory right to take a "reasonable" amount of
Time off for Dependants (often called emergency family leave) to deal with unexpected, sudden illnesses or accidents involving a child, partner, or someone who relies on them for care.
This is designed for immediate crises, not planned situations, and can be used to deal with the initial emergency, such as taking a child to the doctor or making alternative care arrangements.

Not sure that a partner that has a sickness bug would count, its not the children that are sick.

I understand the thread, yes. A person asked me to expand about sick days and productivity, and my response here was answering their question.

My posts, if you read any of them, were referencing the whole sickness culture in the UK and how bloody stupid and self-defeating it is.

OP is sick and needs to properly recover with the support of her DH, but he can't help her because of ridiculous workplace policies towards sickness and absence in the UK.

Reading back from other posters, I worked for the NHS for many years. I had an RTC one day,off sick just that day with shock, same year I had dental surgery booked with a max fax. It was mid December. It was planned shown to ward manager. Unfortunately I got a "Dry Socket" was off Christmas. That particular year, dentist and clinic were closed from Christmas Eve till gone New year, local hospital doesn't have a dental department. I almost went mad with the pain. Got email from ward manager demanding certificate from dentist otherwise she was putting me down for unauthorized leave. They weren't open!! Next thing I get a written warning, she made it official and meeting with matron. I had been on the ward over 10 years, never off sick. I didn't get colds, norovirus nothing. Other staff members came to work sick, because they were frightened to be off.

Can he not take carers leave?

Crikey how would you manage as a single person with kids

Have you misunderstood this thread? This is not about a sick person going to work. Its about the OP expecting a perfectly healthy person to take time off work because she has a minor tummy bug.

Most teachers aren't supported by support plans. They are a device currently used to punish and manage out teachers and unions are overhelmed so are struggling to assign caseworkers and offer support.

Look up Silenced by Support. It's a huge problem in education at the moment.

They can if it's a case of don't be in vs show up late! The teachers I know come in late if they really have no other options.

Honestly secondary schools can be brutal about staff absence, so I can see why your DH is saying no tbh.

These things can often be pretty arbitrary and are supposed to be ‘supportive’ or they can get into trouble as employers. One of the absences is a work place injury too. They aren’t exactly going to be able to sack him for that.

Teacher here. After 3 episodes of absence I would be hauled into a HR meeting and put on a support plan to ensure I’m not repeatedly absent from work.

Of course he can't take a day off! Get a friend to pick up your older child and you'll just have to manage with the baby.

Yes, I'd do that (and even see if they can take your oldest after school as well until DH can collect them). If you just have the baby to look after you can get away with absolute minimum feeding and cleaning and resting.

If you genuinely don't have anyone you can ring up, then once you are better, I would suggest getting to know your child's classmates parents better (and obviously offering support if they need it, too).

Because sick people forced to come into work don't work properly because they can't focus. They also infect others, and the inability to rest causes them to become sick again sooner. Psychological stress around being forced to work whilst sick causes burnout - look at how many people in the UK are signed off long-term due to depression and anxiety.

"Rising workplace sickness is costing UK businesses billions every year, according to a new report by IPPR.
New analysis from the think tank reveals the annual hidden cost of employee sickness has risen by £30 billion since 2018. Most of this increased cost (£25 billion) is from lower productivity, with only £5 billion due to a rise in sick days.
Employees now lose the equivalent of 44 days’ productivity on average due to working through sickness, up from 35 days in 2018, and lose a further 6.7 days taking sick leave, up from 3.7 days in 2018.
Workers in the UK are among the least likely to take sick days, especially compared to other OECD and European countries. However, they are more likely to persevere at work through sickness, which can have a productivity cost."
From this article:

www.ippr.org/media-office/revealed-hidden-annual-cost-of-employee-sickness-is-up-30-billion-since-2018

This stupid policy of forcing sick people to come to work has no winners, only losers.

Tummy bug which means she is unable to take care of their joint responsibility children together sufficiently ,his employers wouldn't give two shiny shits for her if anything happened to him tommorow .
As I said family comes first .

This. I think he should be able to something. If you had a car accident what would he do? Ok he has to go to work but he can do a drop off before hand. I’d see if he could drop off earlier or pick up later so it could be manageable for him to do it

Doesn't he have any friends he can ask to take the kids to school? I know that if I was in that state I would call up a friend and they would (drive 30 mins each way) to come and get my kids - given how inflexible his job is, he really needs to cultivate that kind of support network!

Then you and the baby just have to lie on the sofa together watching TV all day/napping. That's what I did when I got sick when DS2 was a baby (also had the very memorable moment where he lifted his head, groaned a bit, fixed me right in the eyes and threw up right in my face. Which was lovely)

He can take the day off as parental leave emergency and he is protected by law to do so .

How does it not harm productivity?

Absence due to A workplace injury is very different from sickness absence. Your DH needs to involve his union if they are being treated the same. The school should ensure the WPI doesn’t happen again, its not the employee's responsibility.

Personally I think you're the one who's crackers, along with the whole UK sickness system.
You're rude too.

It is mad. My child missed a day off nursery and I got a letter asking me to fill out an absence form justifying it. They are linked to a school and said it was just their procedure even though attending is voluntary 😐

I regularly go in to work sick as the hassle is unbelievable if you don't. We also have back to work meetings after every absence, even for half a day off.

It's a baby not a plant pot.

The baby will cry, need feeding and changing, bring held etc. It's definitely not easy with a sickness bug.