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BF childish language

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ShudderIck · 09/02/2026 18:31

Hi,
I've name changed for this.

Would you have the ick if someone in their 40s constantly complained of 'tummy ache' (I don't know why, but it conjours up images of a poorly 5 year old rather than a grown adult)

I've really noticed a pattern in this person complaining quite extensively about various health ailments, almost like they want a mummy to fix it for them.

Maybe I'm not making sense, but it's been a continuous cycle throughout our "relationship" and I'm running out of patience with hearing it.. He's like a stuck record.

Majority of time it's self-inflicted with poor diet etc

OP posts:
Sofado · 09/02/2026 18:57

Tummy ache is fine as a term. Complaining permanently about it is not.

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ShudderIck · 09/02/2026 18:56

blubberball · 09/02/2026 18:35

How long have you been together? Maybe it's time to get rid. Have you told him that you don't find this endearing or attractive?

Quite a while now but it's very surface level - sex and occasional companionship. He's emotionally quite distant.
Like I said... Seems to want someone to complain to about a poorly tummy and to receive an 'aww there there' in return.

I sound like a cold hearted cow, I promise you I'm not, I just run out of patience when people aren't actually helping themselves...!

OP posts:
Tumbler777 · 09/02/2026 18:52

I guess you just don't like him. When that happens you could kill someone for breathing!

PashaMinaMio · 09/02/2026 18:43

It’s really strange what gives us the ick but I’d have to chuck him back. “Tummy” is what a Mummy to a toddler/small kid calls it.

I knew a chap who referred to “pills” instead of “tablets!” It made my toes curl up whenever he said it! 🤢 I have no idea why!

That and other innocuous expressions forced me to chuck him back. I think you’ll be doing the same.

Bonkers1966 · 09/02/2026 18:40

He might believe you find it endearing.

TomatoSandwiches · 09/02/2026 18:37

Yeah, I'd not be hanging around to listen to that, especially if self inflicted.

blubberball · 09/02/2026 18:35

How long have you been together? Maybe it's time to get rid. Have you told him that you don't find this endearing or attractive?

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