AIBU to think this is an inappropriate relationship?

A reverse surely?

Your tone's off. This is a reverse, isn't it?

Im seriously not seeing anything wrong.
She sounds like a lovely woman who cares for you son. That's a good thing isnt it?

His stepmum is lovely

Everything that you have listed, all of your ‘concerns, back up your statement. She sounds lovely and your son obviously thinks so too so what’s the problem?

Your ex and his wife have the best days - Thursday, Friday, Saturday and most of Sunday. I’d switch this around so you get to spend that special time with your son. At the moment, all the special time is with his step mum.

You should be thanking your lucky stars that your child has a safe adult around him who loves him and who wants to make sure he feels like an important part of their family, rather than just an inconvenience who is interfering with their weekends. She sounds a better stepmother than your ex is a father.

Grow the fuck up.

She sounds absolutely lovely. I don’t believe this thread is real; or it’s a reverse. I can’t believe anyone would be bothered by a stepmother in a child’s life for 6 years doing any of these things.

Your son is lucky to have a step mum who loves him dearly and makes him an important part of her life.

You only need to read threads on here to know how dreadful it is for children who have stepparents who dont care or who resent them.

How great that the lad has a lovely Step-mum & Step GPs.
Let's hope the bio-Mum's jealousy is well hidden from him.

YABVU. You sound jealous, petty and controlling.

So you don’t want to be told YABU but started a thread in AIBU?
Make that make sense

I know of a 9yo whose mum died. Dad has a new partner plus toddler. They all live together. The new partner practically ignores the 9yo. She spends big time on her toddler but not on the 9yo. Doesn't read to the 9yo. Doesn't give her bedtime cuddles even! Won't give the 9yo lifts to places (eg for a school friend's party) while Dad is at work. Fortunately my friend & her DH are caring GPs who spend a lot of time with their GD).

Is that what you'd prefer, OP?

Yes surely a reverse. She sounds like a lovely step mum. Is that you Op?

I had a similar relationship,to the one you're complaining about, with both my step-mum and my step-dad.
As a now 50 something year old and having lost both of them, I am so grateful for how privileged I was to have four adults in my life who loved me unconditionally as parents.
Please be happy for your son, his lovely and special relationship with his step mum doesn't mean he loves you any less, it just means he's one very lucky and very cared for boy.

If genuine, then I think you are jealous that another woman has such a good relationship with your son.

YABU. There isn’t anything unreasonable about their relationship.

Is this a reverse?

Surely no one would want anything other than this from a step parent?

I also think it’s a bit unusual that you never have your son on weekends. Is there a reason for this? It would be a good time for you and him to spend a lot of bonding time together which you seem upset that he is having with his step mum

I’m afraid you are just jealous. Their relationship sounds normal and healthy. He is lucky to have such a lovely stepmom.

Is this rage-bait??? I wouldn't have loved a relationship like this with my DSS

Sorry but it sounds like a great relationship. You mightn't like him being to close to your ex's side of the family (and his new family) but you should be grateful that they're so welcoming. And he's happy too. Now, that is something to be grateful for.

I have been a step child, I have had step children, and my own DC have a step mother. So I have seen this from every angle.

You should be so grateful that this lovely woman is prioritising your child and making them feel cherished and loved.

My XH had a long term partner who hated one of my DC and it was bloody horrible.

It isn’t inappropriate, but I can understand why you feel hurt by some of it, and are a bit jealous.

If you think there are things his dad ought to be doing with him, then you need to address that as part of your co-parenting relationship with his dad. If she’s taken responsibility for reading, extracurricular activities, and involving him in outings involving her own DD and her parents, because your ex isn’t interested in doing any of that or fostering a grandparent relationship with his own parents - I think you both owe her a bit of gratitude for picking up your ex’s slack.

“His stepmum is lovely and I have no issues with her as a stepmum”

why did you say this if you are then going to go on to reveal you have major issues with absolutely everything this woman does?

You sound jealous and you need to rein it in because it’s not in your sons interests to sabotage such a positive relationship.

Sounds like a lovely relationship, not an inappropriate one. I'd be delighted if my son had such a fantastic rapport with his stepmum.

There's nothing inappropriate in what you have written, remember she has been there pretty much his whole life (as much as he can remember anyway). If she was some random girlfriend, I would understand your concern. It makes sense for the sibling to be the first person to see the baby, a lot of parents do that. Its great that her family are accepting him as part of the family. I'm sorry OP but this is a 'you' issue. Is there more to the story?