Page 2 | Mother made a comment on new partner

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 11/02/2026 09:16

Imdunfer · 11/02/2026 08:07

I j just don't understand this, maybe it's because I'm old. If you were going to a pub to watch a football match why did you need to drink at home at 11am first?

Show quote history

I don't get it either, but I think it's linked to the idea that to have fun, alcohol is an essential part of it.

It's a weird culture in the UK that everything that's considered "fun" also seems to have to involve drinking.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 11/02/2026 09:09

Imdunfer · 11/02/2026 08:58

Alcohol consumption early in the day is strongly linked with alcohol abuse problems.

Show quote history

If you read the Op ‘s posts you can clearly see that’s not the case.
The faux outrage on this thread is ridiculous.

Imdunfer · 11/02/2026 08:58

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 11/02/2026 08:10

Why does it matter? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Show quote history

Alcohol consumption early in the day is strongly linked with alcohol abuse problems.

BitOutOfPractice · 11/02/2026 08:12

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 09/02/2026 15:21

11am is a bit ridiculous.

Show quote history

Why? Depends on what time kick off is!

What does your mother think you should be doing @Keola

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 11/02/2026 08:10

Imdunfer · 11/02/2026 08:07

I j just don't understand this, maybe it's because I'm old. If you were going to a pub to watch a football match why did you need to drink at home at 11am first?

Show quote history

Why does it matter? 🤷🏼‍♀️

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/02/2026 08:10

Who knows? He could very well be love bombing you before he changes, he might genuinely be a nice man. I can understand her concerns when there are children involved.

Imdunfer · 11/02/2026 08:07

Keola · 11/02/2026 07:41

It was because we was aiming to go out early for the football

Show quote history

I j just don't understand this, maybe it's because I'm old. If you were going to a pub to watch a football match why did you need to drink at home at 11am first?

Original poster

Keola · 11/02/2026 07:41

Todayismyfavouriteday · 11/02/2026 03:35

I would be very worried if I saw my daughter drinking at 11 am. But it's your fault, not your boyfriend's... I guess he did not force the drinks down your throat?

It was because we was aiming to go out early for the football

OP posts:

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 11/02/2026 06:58

Todayismyfavouriteday · 11/02/2026 03:35

I would be very worried if I saw my daughter drinking at 11 am. But it's your fault, not your boyfriend's... I guess he did not force the drinks down your throat?

Why would you be worried on the scenario described by the OP? What exactly is there to be ‘very worried’ about?

Todayismyfavouriteday · 11/02/2026 03:35

I would be very worried if I saw my daughter drinking at 11 am. But it's your fault, not your boyfriend's... I guess he did not force the drinks down your throat?

BillieWiper · 10/02/2026 22:51

ScartlettSole · 10/02/2026 20:50

Not defensive in the slightest, just making joke.

The OP didn't say she drank all that day and night. She might have gone home at 3pm, why is 11-3pm bad but 6-10pm acceptable? She also hasnt said she does this regularly. She has said her mother has issues with alcohol so it sounds as though her mum is projecting

Show quote history

Ah I'm sorry I didn't get it was a joke. Apologies.

You could be right about the mum but I didn't say she needed AA or anything, just that drinking that early can give a bad impression.

Frankenpug23 · 10/02/2026 21:28

You have done nothing wrong- unless she has specific concerns based on facts about this man - take what she has said with a pinch of salt!!

I was on a coach with all women last weekend going to see Mamma Mia - all drinking at 11.30am - jesus christ as long as it isn’t every weekend, and you have no responsibilities who cares!??

Hankunamatata · 10/02/2026 20:57

Perhaps she's worried your falling too fast and hard.

ScartlettSole · 10/02/2026 20:50

BillieWiper · 10/02/2026 20:17

I don't think having a prosecco on your wedding day is the kind of frequency OP was referring to.

And anyway if I didn't want my parents to think I was drinking too much I wouldn't start drinking (ie carry on for the rest of the day/night) at 11am in front of them. That was my point.

I said I didn't know anyone who regularly drinks at 11am who doesn't have a dependency or at least drinks more than is healthy. Because it's true.

And at no point did I suggest anyone should go to AA. You sound quite defensive.

Show quote history

Not defensive in the slightest, just making joke.

The OP didn't say she drank all that day and night. She might have gone home at 3pm, why is 11-3pm bad but 6-10pm acceptable? She also hasnt said she does this regularly. She has said her mother has issues with alcohol so it sounds as though her mum is projecting

BillieWiper · 10/02/2026 20:17

ScartlettSole · 10/02/2026 20:01

The time you start drinking has nothing to do with being an alcoholic. Im guessing the football game they were watching was an early start which is why they went to the pub at 11am.

I had prosecco on my wedding day at 7am, best go call AA 🙄

Show quote history

I don't think having a prosecco on your wedding day is the kind of frequency OP was referring to.

And anyway if I didn't want my parents to think I was drinking too much I wouldn't start drinking (ie carry on for the rest of the day/night) at 11am in front of them. That was my point.

I said I didn't know anyone who regularly drinks at 11am who doesn't have a dependency or at least drinks more than is healthy. Because it's true.

And at no point did I suggest anyone should go to AA. You sound quite defensive.

ScartlettSole · 10/02/2026 20:01

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 15:49

I don't know many people who don't have a dependent or problematic relationship with alcohol at best who would start drinking at 11am. 'Start drinking' implies continual drinking from then onwards as well.

Show quote history

The time you start drinking has nothing to do with being an alcoholic. Im guessing the football game they were watching was an early start which is why they went to the pub at 11am.

I had prosecco on my wedding day at 7am, best go call AA 🙄

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 10/02/2026 10:27

Ohhhhh fgs, you got a life after becoming a single parent and getting bashed for going having some fun when you don't have your child and long as you are responsible when she is in your care. Occasional early start is fine.....go enjoy yourself OP

Whatkindoffuckeryisthiss · 10/02/2026 10:22

Iris2020 · 09/02/2026 18:58

I'm pretty shocked even by the expression "day drinking". How old are you? I can't imagine Nyone over the age of 22 being interested in that as an activity unless they were an alcoholic. Apart from anything, it sounds like the most unfunny thing in the world.

Jesus wept. Unclench. Shock horror, people go out and have fun. Pass the smelling salts.

DurinsBane · 10/02/2026 09:37

Iris2020 · 09/02/2026 18:58

I'm pretty shocked even by the expression "day drinking". How old are you? I can't imagine Nyone over the age of 22 being interested in that as an activity unless they were an alcoholic. Apart from anything, it sounds like the most unfunny thing in the world.

Have you not seen the middle aged women out all day getting hammered at bottomless brunch and then elsewhere?! In most city’s at the weekends, and definitely in summer!

Pherian · 09/02/2026 22:43

Keola · 09/02/2026 15:13

I have been single now for 3 years since my marriage ended. I have been seeing somebody for 6 months and the connection is just explosive. We have so much fun together and when the kids go to their dads we usually have a blow out now and again (nothing crazy, the odd night out, pub crawl) however my mum seems to think he is leading me astray (I really do not believe this)

You’re a grown woman and while it’s nice to have everyone’s approval it isn’t necessary. Have a great time and enjoy yourself.

Summerlovin24 · 09/02/2026 21:47

Sounds like you are having fun. I went batshit crazy when kids went to uni after being a responsible single mum for so long. Loved it. Partied hard at weekends, held down a good job and did my hobbies too. I just do less of it now after wild 2 years.
Life is for living. Too many bores out there. Embrace your child free days

Momo385 · 09/02/2026 21:41

My mother took issue with my partner when we started dating. I think I'd gone from never leaving the house for me to going out, nights away, drinking at weekends. All with no kids as they were at dad's and all with a new partner who showed me my worth and gave me confidence to be me. 8 years later still together and very happy. I feel my mother projected a lot at the start and sge wasn't quiet about it either

raspberets · 09/02/2026 21:07

purpleygrey · 09/02/2026 20:08

This sounds like my sister.
new bf was a twat. We all told her. She didn’t listen because she was madly in love, learned the hard way.

unless your mum has previous for being over opinionated, I would listen to her. Mums usually have your best interests at heart.

Or, as pointed out earlier, it’s very possible her mother is projecting due to her own problems with alcohol together with a son who has problems with drugs which are never confronted by the mother.

Sometimes scapegoats take the load.

Lucyccfc68 · 09/02/2026 20:40

FFS, listen to all the ‘Pearl clutching’ sounding horrified at a grown woman having a drink at 11am on a social day out! What a bunch of boring old Fannie’s.

If you were on it at that time every weekend and getting smashed by 2pm, then rolling home covered in sick by tea-time or doing £200 worth of Charlie in a day then I think people may judge.

MyLimeGuide · 09/02/2026 20:22

Keola · 09/02/2026 18:51

I suppose what I mean is that I haven’t experienced this before. Like I know he wants to be with me and makes the effort and our sex life is great.

Show quote history

Hope it lasts then!