Mother made a comment on new partner

Would you have ever gone out day drinking to watch football before? If not your mum is probably concerned you are doing these things to go along with the new man rather than being something you want to do. I love football so doing that wouldn't surprise my family but I rarely drink so it would concern them if I suddenly did in the morning

Brits, football and booze is a necessary combination apparently, even though when you look at our reputation as football fans compared to Europe, it's clearly a terrible one!

What your describing doesn't sound too bad but obviously your not looking nor coming across too good to your mum. Are you sure your only getting "tipsy" ? Your mum repeated telling you "to go home" is not the response given to someone just having fun. It's the response to someone who is drunk and making a show of themselves.

True... being from a different culture, I never think of alcohol as necessary to have fun. And I still don't think drinking at 11 am is right, even if there's football involved! (still missing the connection between football and alcohol!😀but it must be a cultural thing.)

Pre drinking at 11am to go the pub is nuts. Doesn’t matter if the mum is bad drunk or not.

I haven't assumed anything. I think her mother, from what she has written herself, may have a point but I don't have any further information to make assumptions about her.

Oh bore off. I have a lot of interests. I do lots of adventurous things. And one of the things I love the most is football and beer.

Don't listen to the nay sayers. It sounds like you did absolutely nothing wrong. My partner goes to the pub every so often with his mates and they will start drinking early. They are all responsible parents and partners and they have a blow out every so often. It's called having fun. I would also if I could cope with hangovers these days.

It's sounds like your mum has replaced drunk drama with sober drama ( I assume she wasn't drinking?!?) She might be jealous that you are so happy, she might be jealous that you can hold your drink, she might be upset because she wasn't the centre of attention, who knows. But if you're not a regular drinker, and never had a drink problem I think you should trust your own instincts over your mums. If you can look back on the day and feel you did nothing inappropriate, I would take what she said with a punch of salt.

If your dad had said something, I would be more hesitant.

Good luck with your new relationship. X

Your mum was telling you to go home, and you are a grown woman with children (who were happily with their dad at the time)? Were you drinking early because that's when the match started? I think your mum is being really over protective and after three years single you are entitled to a bit of fun.

One of my favourite parts of the week is Sunday afternoon in the pub with my friends. Sometimes I drink but not always as I’m happy with soft drinks.

It’s not sad and I’m not trying to be adventurous. It’s just one way of socialising.

Sorry your mum might be onto something. Pub crawls, 11am drinking with your mum and it’s not the airport?

can you explain what’s so explosive about the connection?

do you ever hang out together and not drink at all?

Still doesn’t mean she has a problem with alcohol. You’re just making assumptions.

What a patronising comment.
What do her plans have to do with you?

Are you sure that you also don't turn into a different person? In my experience the drinker tends to think they're incredibly clever and funny when the reality is that they are embarrassing and incredibly boring.

The sad thing about this is that you view an adventurous day as one where you go drinking. It really isn't. Can't you think of something more interesting to do when you go out?

Do you "pre drink" at home in the morning before heading to a venue that is mostly for drinking where you've arranged to drink with your friends though?

This is getting ridiculous now, an alcoholic because of day drinking? 😂 I'm 55 and love a day out drinking cocktails and back home in my PJs in the evening.

Drinking at 11 when you are shortly heading out to a venue serving alcohol where you have arranged to drink with other people would, in many cases, indicate a problem.

This country is stuffed with people with an alcohol dependency denying to themselves that they have an alcohol dependency.

GPs report that they routinely double whatever people declare as their consumption. I have to stress really heavily that when I say max 15 units a week, I really mean it!

Nobody can tell from this thread whether or not the OP has a problem. Her mother thinks so.

Lol she's literally an adult and can drink at 8am if she wants to (a lot of people do when going on holiday, part of breakfast on a morning flight).
It was for a day event where she was going to be enjoying herself. Nothing to be worried about. She was safe.... It's not like she HAS to drink in the mornings to get her day started....

I don't care what people think. But that is the experience of many non drinkers and I can speak about it, in the context of debating whether drinking at 11am should be considered normal, without it meaning I need to get thicker skin.

The fact that you think I'm being a bit delicate about a culture of reliance on alcohol for fun suggests that you may actually think that's not a problem.

Those posts from everyone at the airport at 5am "starting as I mean to go on" with a pint before their flight. Because holiday means being constantly drunk, right?

Where in the OPs posts does it suggest she has an alcohol problem?

You obviously need better friends or a thicker skin!
I regularly choose not to not to drink I couldn’t care less what people say or think.

You might be able to clearly see from written posts that someone does not have issues with alcohol use. GPs all round the country would give their eye teeth for that ability. It's probably the most lied about health issue that the NHS deals with.

The reactions people get for choosing not to drink, either as a one off or as a general thing, suggests otherwise.

I've been asked how I'll manage to enjoy myself at a party when I wasn't drinking (several hours drive home the following day), been told I'm boring when I've decided to take a break from it and on my own hen do had to ask for water "but make it look like gin" to stop people forcing more alcohol me when I'd had enough.

Don't even want to start on the Brits Abroad thing.

There is a heavy reliance on alcohol "to be fun" in this county.

Each to their own, but you can't deny that it's there.

Or perhaps it’s not that deep and people just like to have a drink 🤷🏼‍♀️