To feel hurt by parents

But you're chosing friends over family. If family is so important to you make plans to see your brother or see your parents. It shouldn't be on them to organize everything. You sound very "woe is me" when you're not doing anything about it, and most people don't see there's a problem in the first place.

Thinking about it I agree that if they find everyone together too much a different location won’t change that

Whilst. I love seeing my grown dc separately, although tiring if we are hosting, i also love to see both my adult children together as brother and sister. Thats a pleaseure to me and am old , and do tire , but i rest.
sometimes they want to
come to have time together as a family without partners too.
op i think its normal
fot all members of the family to
comprise and if my adult dc wanted to be together even if was tired id facilitate.
i dont think
you are bu!

Loneliness can be a really uncomfortable part of single parenting

Indeed it can, but so can many in relationships as testified by the myriad posts on here.

As a single parent, you owe it to yourself and to your kid(s) to reach out to your local community, whether that is other solo parents, bumping into a neighbour in the local supermarket or at the front door, a chat with someone at your child's school or their parent on the phone organising a get-together having a bitch with a friend lol, just having a chat at the local bus stop....

OP, our parents are no longer with us and my siblings and I and their offspring all live in different countries. I accept it as it's just life.

When my parents were alive I loved the times we spent just me and them, I got to hear about their lives, their friends, their hobbies and they got to hear about mine. Having other family there diluted that time with them but was just as nice in a different way. I used to meet with them alone, sometimes with my DH and children and at other times with my siblings and their children. It doesn’t need to be all together or nothing.

My in laws have got like this, I do feel they find it overwhelming and can't get quality time I think though I do think there should be SOME family get-togethers or you'd never be all together again.

Do your brother and partner have children?

Make plans with your brother and his partner alone. Don't invite your parents as they dont want to see you both together.

So you could change this by being the planner/host? Arrange a mutual date now for the spring.. A meal out or BBQ etc? Try to change the dynamic up.

I do agree with a PP... It's a real shame when some families only get together for weddings and funerals ☹️

Are you upset because you now have to make a separate trip to see your brother? If they find it too much they find it too much. Maybe you and your brother talk to each other and they feel left out or struggle to hear if lots of people. For whatever reason ittheir decision and probably more about them than you. You could always host everyone if they would travel.

I'd find this frustrating. It can be logically tricky to get together with people and the last thing you want is people coming up with unnecessary obstacles.

Your parents have two adult children that they want to spend time with. Is your brother peeved because they want to spend time with you without him being there ? I bet not.

Do you see your sibling alone or only at your parents. Maybe that feel that the interaction between the two of you excludes than a bit.

Its not up to you to determine the impact on them. They have a reason they have requested it

I think its fair enough really, they aren’t saying they don’t want to see you, just that they’ll see you both separately

My dad’s parents were / are like this. 4 brothers (including my dad) and 7 grandchildren and we could never do something all as a family. It had to be individual families. The only time we were all together was my grandad’s funeral. I still find it so so strange and I barely have a relationship with GM now.

Do you all get along well?

Do you mean your child would never be there when you all meet?

Does your brother and his partner have a good relationship with your child? Are they “child” people?

Do you and your brother get along? Any strain or bickering?

Is the issue that you don’t have anything to do otherwise with your weekends if you don’t see them? I would fix that first, rather than relying on other people to entertain you, then getting upset when they don’t entertain you how you want.

you can surely realise that it is entirely up to them how they invite you all when they host?!? I can’t even get how you would be upset by someone doing something a different way to you. It’s incredibly self absorbed. If you want all 5 of you to do something together, then you host surely?

You’re way over thinking this. Me and DH don’t get together with our siblings often with our parents.

This explains it more.

I presume you're feeling left out/excluded and that's not a nice feeling.

Are you able to plan something yourself that includes everyone.

I can totally understand why you'd feel crappy if you're alone some weekends and have found out they're all having a jolly time together... Loneliness can be a really uncomfortable part of single parenting ☹️

How do you get on with your brother and his partner?

So for me it doesn’t seem too much for 5 adults to be together on the weekends

That's how it seems for you but at least 2 of the others find it too much and maybe the other two agree. The fact that you're hurt by this does seem a bit dramatic and is maybe why they (and/or the sibling and partner) find it too much. all spending their weekends with you. It sounds like you want them for company while your DC is with their dad, so maybe better not to look to them for that and line up other things to do, then this won't be such a big deal. Seeing your parents without a sibling and partner in tow is totally normal. Presumably you can see your sibling separately too when you please.