Page 9 | Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 09/02/2026 11:59

So how will she learn to have manners if her own father can’t tell her that eating with her mouth making smacking / chomping sounds in his ear isn’t very polite? Do you want her to grow up eating with her mouth open etc and making adults feel queasy? Of course not. Things like being told you’ve got body odour, food stuck between your teeth or you’re eating noisily aren’t nice to hear because we get embarrassed but sometimes we need telling!

SummerFeverVenice · 09/02/2026 11:56

Meg878o · 09/02/2026 07:18

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

He was parenting. Why on earth would you be upset at him teaching her it’s impolite to chew loudly?

CurlewKate · 09/02/2026 11:54

user1492757084 · 09/02/2026 11:33

You could help DD cope with the reasonable request.
Did she react in an upset way?
Maybe compliment her once she improves.

Back her Dad up saying something like, "Oh yes, poor Dad having those delicious sweets munching so close, please try closing your mouth DD."

She’s 11, ffs! She shouldn’t need telling to eat quietly at that age. And to be told robustly if she doesn’t.

Jfieobabco · 09/02/2026 11:50

Definitely LTB! That's abuse! 🙄

BauhausOfEliott · 09/02/2026 11:48

user1492757084 · 09/02/2026 11:33

You could help DD cope with the reasonable request.
Did she react in an upset way?
Maybe compliment her once she improves.

Back her Dad up saying something like, "Oh yes, poor Dad having those delicious sweets munching so close, please try closing your mouth DD."

Oh come on, she's 11, not 4.

BloomsburyBelgravia · 09/02/2026 11:41

Better her dad tells her than someone at school.

southerngirl10 · 09/02/2026 11:41

Meg878o · 09/02/2026 07:18

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

If you think this is a problem then maybe you need to spend some time in a country where actual problems exist. You won't even see this as a problem then.

Growlybear83 · 09/02/2026 11:38

Puttingonabraveface247 · 09/02/2026 11:25

Can anyone actually chew sweets quietly?
I know I can't.
That said I don't eat them within close distance of anyone.

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I think it’s perfectly possible to chew sweets without making a noise. The only thing that I think it’s almost impossible to eat without making a noise is biting into an apple. Anything else can be eaten quietly, including crisps.

user1492757084 · 09/02/2026 11:33

You could help DD cope with the reasonable request.
Did she react in an upset way?
Maybe compliment her once she improves.

Back her Dad up saying something like, "Oh yes, poor Dad having those delicious sweets munching so close, please try closing your mouth DD."

Puttingonabraveface247 · 09/02/2026 11:30

FieryA · 09/02/2026 11:29

Yes that's what I meant, the loud chewing, just like the many others in this thread. Not sure why you chose my reply to comment on.

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Sorry it wasn't against you personally.
I haven't read the previous comments.

FieryA · 09/02/2026 11:29

Puttingonabraveface247 · 09/02/2026 11:25

Can anyone actually chew sweets quietly?
I know I can't.
That said I don't eat them within close distance of anyone.

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Yes that's what I meant, the loud chewing, just like the many others in this thread. Not sure why you chose my reply to comment on.

Northerngirl821 · 09/02/2026 11:27

Your husband is not the problem here.

The problem is that you apparently think your 11yo daughter should not be given the slightest bit of negative feedback or criticism, even when her behaviour is having a negative impact on others, in case it “offends”.

In five years time you’ll be one of the many posters on here complaining about how your teenager has had every advantage under the sun and you can’t understand why they have now turned into a spoilt brat who is completely ungrateful, speaks to you like crap, ignores all boundaries and does nothing to help around the house.

user1492757084 · 09/02/2026 11:26

Parents need to remind their children about their manners quite often when they are young. How else do they learn?

Puttingonabraveface247 · 09/02/2026 11:25

FieryA · 09/02/2026 11:23

Your reaction is definitely an over-reaction. He said nothing wrong, even if it was in an irritated tone. Do the children regularly do this?

Can anyone actually chew sweets quietly?
I know I can't.
That said I don't eat them within close distance of anyone.

feelingsarentfacts · 09/02/2026 11:24

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FieryA · 09/02/2026 11:23

Your reaction is definitely an over-reaction. He said nothing wrong, even if it was in an irritated tone. Do the children regularly do this?

KateBushAgain · 09/02/2026 11:22

Was she chewing with her mouth open ?
If that was the case she absolutely needs to know not to do that .

Puttingonabraveface247 · 09/02/2026 11:22

I was going to say does your dd know it annoys her dad? My son will deliberately chew loudly in my ear to wind me up (he knows I can't stand it) but it's all kept light hearted.
However, as your daughter seemed upset I'm guessing she wasn't doing it to wind him up. He could have said it in a kinder tone. It will probably make her conscious to eat sweets now.

dontforgetme · 09/02/2026 11:17

I say this to my 11 year old daughter 5/7 nights a week at least, she eats like a pig sometimes! It’s basic manners to chew with your mouth closed.

Rooroobear · 09/02/2026 11:10

Make a thread…..don’t return. Does my head in. Troll all the way. Like the bloody dog and parking thread. Mondays are stupid thread day

Pricelessadvice · 09/02/2026 11:10

Whatsmyusername85 · 09/02/2026 09:09

yes, this is the reason people are so easily offended now…their parents were afraid to to tell the a few truths it seems! Honestly we have a new girl in work who gets offended when you so much as look in her direction (I wish I was exaggerating!)

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Scary isn’t it. I run a livery yard and currently have a 20-something girl who has the most massive brat tantrums if she doesn’t get her own way. She expects the world to revolve around her and any amount of tiny stress has her flying off the handle and throwing a wobbler. I’m very close to telling her to get lost!

Bogofftosomewherehot · 09/02/2026 10:58

OP is MIA.

At least your husband is parenting - good on him.

One of DD's friends has the most disgusting eating habits, known her 10yrs, now early 20s. I refuse to sit at a table with her.

Chomp, slurp, spatter, - I don't wanna hear it, see it or have it potentially land in my direction.

Team husband all the way!

LunaDeBallona · 09/02/2026 10:57

If your 11 year old was ‘offended’ by her father saying this to her then I think you need to look at your parenting techniques in order to prepare her for life.
Jeez. We are fucked if this is the next generation.
EDIT - yes you are ABVVVU to be ‘angry and upset’ by your husband being a parent. We can see where your daughter gets her ‘offence’ from.

pinkyredrose · 09/02/2026 10:57

I'm on his side.

Lakeyloo · 09/02/2026 10:53

Parent tries to teach child manners, child is offended ??!....... there really is no hope.