Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

As someone who detests noisy eating, I’m with her dad.

The sound of chewing puts a horrible knot in my stomach I can’t even explain. I can’t be around loud eaters absolutely not

I suffer from misophonia and I can't stand loud eating noises. My 4dc quickly learned to eat properly- alas exdh never did! Surely dh was just being a parent, unless it was followed by an unreasonable punishment (confiscation of sweets if loud chewing persisted would be reasonable)

Oh my word, are you being serious?!

Sounds like she was eating with her mouth open and that should have been addressed at a much younger age. Manners don’t cost a thing. I absolutely would have said something myself if my child was chewing sweets loudly. But for you to feel angry or upset because your husband addressed what he was having to endure?! Really?! X

That she needs to learn to chew with her mouth closed, she is upset as he won’t be the first person that has mentioned it.

Do you never correct her behavior? I mean, THIS was upsetting enough to take to mumsnet and write a post about it? He simple asked her to stop doing something. You are overreacting terribly and I question your parenting for the past 11 years.

I assume she is his daughter too? If so he has as much right to chastise her as you do. Noisy eating is awful and she has to learn

If she was chewing loudly im my ear, I'd say the same.

I think everyone deserves to be asked or told politely if they are doing something like loud chewing in the heat of the moment. If she was an adult with the habit of doing so and ignoring the polite requests then fair enough. A child deserves a reminder in a descent manner though.

Living in a house full of people who hate the sound of chewing loudly, you catch on pretty quickly to eat quietly so as not to upset anyone! Lol!
To be honest, if someone was chewing gum really loudly near me, I think I’d lose it! I can hear my grandad telling me when I was a kid, ‘stop smacking your lips!!’

It's a bit grim...better coming from her dad and learning from it than from a friend and being embarrassed...

Of course it’s fine for your parents to say this. How else will children learn? This is a horrible habit.

If I were tbe detective on this case my questions would be:
Was she, in fact, chewing loudly?
And what tone did DH use? Was it dark and menacing, loud and shouty, or a bit miffed?

Sometimes kids get told things they don't want to hear.. That's parenting

I think many parents are terrified of telling their kids things they don't want to hear these days though. Therein lies the problem ...

Being able to eat without annoying other people is an important social skill.

If your parents can't tell you then who will?
You smell, you have bad manners, your hair looks a mess, your nails are dirty, your shoes need cleaning, you are being a brat, your tantrums are childish, your chewing is loud and annoying and can be heard by others.
Your parents are supposed to tell you these things so you can go out in the world and present yourself in public, navigate social situations and be self aware.

Don't be a cement mixer mouth!!

Which is what we used to say if someone chewed with their mouth open...noone wants to see that

I agree with objecting to excessively loud chewing & teaching children manners around eating. The problem is he has been portrayed as if there was sheer anger in the reprimand instead of a calm explanation as to why loud chewing is rude. Rather than being angry with his reaction I'd be more inclined to question him about why he appears so angry & frustrated and whatever the reason he shouldn't be taking it out on his family.

He’s doing her a favour. Noisy eating is grim. She needs to learn to chew with her mouth closed.

It seems that this isn't a stand-alone issue. Turns out that OP has posted in the past about her DH constantly yelling at their children. Which somewhat changes my opinion.
I'm guessing that this wasn't a case of him calmly asking the kid not to chew loudly.

Entitled would also include an 11 year old eating like she’s chewing the cud, and a mother getting upset because Dad has told her little darling off for bad manners…🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🙄

Teach the 11 year old to chew with her mouth closed. Ew.

She was doing something annoying and he corrected her. She was being offensive chewing loudly by someone's ear. Do you want her to be not invited places because she has poor eating manners?

She sounds over indulged if she gets offended by correction when she's doing something offensive.

This is definitely a rage baity thread, OP hasn't posted since the OP hours ago and it's 8 pages long 😂

Honestly, yes. Because instances of people eating loudly are vanishingly rare.

Clearly someone who has never been outside of Europe, and especially has never been to south east Asia.

Obviously there are different rules around etiquette and table manners in different parts of the world, but given we are discussing this in the UK among people who mostly live in the UK I think it's fair enough to judge people by the standards and social mores of the UK, before anyone points out that it's a prefectly acceptable sign of appreciation to slurp a lot and smack your lips in China.

Loud chewing is disgusting and bad manners. It's a parents job to raise their kids with good manners. He's done nothing wrong, she does need to stop chewing so loudly.