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Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

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Meg878o · 09/02/2026 07:18

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

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TheMorgenmuffel · 09/02/2026 15:31

Fair enough. Gobbly slurpy chomping noises in my ear make me feel murderous. He has my sympathy!

Charliede1182 · 09/02/2026 15:24

My husband chews loudly with his mouth open and sounds like a pig. I have been aware of it since we were dating and I made a conscious decision to accept it as everything else was great and I am sure I have my quirks too.

However I sure wish his parents had brought him up to eat with better manners in company!

I know you don't want your daughter's feelings to be hurt but it will be worse if she ends up being made fun of by her peers or rejected when she is older because of it.

My daughter went through early puberty and had smelly armpits which I kept having to tell her to wash and apply antiperspirant.

I hated making her feel bad but I would rather it come from me with kindness than kids noticing and making cruel comments at school.

HomeTheatreSystem · 09/02/2026 15:22

Be glad it was her dad who told her that chewing noises in someone's ear are almost always very annoying and that it would have been a lot more upsetting had it been communicated by another child her age imitating her noise so she could understand what she was inflicting on those around her.

FrizzyFrizbee · 09/02/2026 15:20

Should it not be a parent who teaches good manners?

If your DH hadn’t raised, someone else would at some point, and you and your daughter might like that less.

IndysMamaRex · 09/02/2026 15:19

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable thing to do if someone is chewing loudly. If DD was offended that’s called life DH was offended by the sound she was making & asked for her to eat quietly

Foxybyname · 09/02/2026 15:18

CrustyBread1977 · 09/02/2026 07:21

Seems fair enough. Loud chewing noises are disgusting.

This.
With bells on.

BlueJuniper94 · 09/02/2026 15:16

MJagain · 09/02/2026 15:14

This.

Why are you giving it headspace? Who cares if she’s offended? She needs to learn rude behaviour is offensive.

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It would be more helpful to her if she had been corrected in a more loving way - this then teaches her valuable diplomacy skills!!

BlueJuniper94 · 09/02/2026 15:15

I can't believe how few people are on team DD here. Makes me sad

MJagain · 09/02/2026 15:14

Sirzy · 09/02/2026 07:30

Loud eating is horrible. At least one parent is trying to ensure basic manners!

This.

Why are you giving it headspace? Who cares if she’s offended? She needs to learn rude behaviour is offensive.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 09/02/2026 15:13

I say this to my kids all the time, it's common courtesy and a good life lesson that chewing loudly right next to someone is not an appealing habit!!

BlueJuniper94 · 09/02/2026 15:12

carnivalqueenthethird · 09/02/2026 15:07

i don’t understand why this has upset or angered you. It’s irritating when people eat loudly and I wouldn’t want to hear the constant slopping and lip smacking in my ear either. Your daughter needs to learn some manners and chew quietly.

Why can't this be done in a more considerate way? Obviously this was said in a disrespectful manner, I doubt the father would appreciate being spoken to like that.

Aphroditesangel · 09/02/2026 15:12

Sounds like it’s well overdue. She needs to learn to keep her mouth closed when eating.

ghostofchristmaspasta · 09/02/2026 15:11

I remind my THREE year old to eat nicely, mouth closed while chewing etc. She has lovely manners and only has to be reminded every so often. I don’t think it was wrong to correct her as eating loudly is bad manners and not pleasant for anyone.

If he said it in a shitty or agitated way he is being unreasonable and does need to get a grip but also Misophonia is horrible.

BlueJuniper94 · 09/02/2026 15:09

TheTortiePuffinNeedsHerBreakfast · 09/02/2026 07:23

What do you think he should have said to alert your DD to her off putting chewing sounds and ask her to stop?

It could have been corrected with love.

carnivalqueenthethird · 09/02/2026 15:07

i don’t understand why this has upset or angered you. It’s irritating when people eat loudly and I wouldn’t want to hear the constant slopping and lip smacking in my ear either. Your daughter needs to learn some manners and chew quietly.

PloddingAlong21 · 09/02/2026 14:54

This post is a wind up.

Blades2 · 09/02/2026 14:50

justaskme · 09/02/2026 14:48

Another one with misophonia here.

Honestly I wish more people would teach themselves and their children to chew quietly, and especially with their mouths closed. It amazes me how many don't do this.

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I have this too. I have to leave the room if someone has crisps or crunchy foods. Headphones have been my commute lifesaver

Blades2 · 09/02/2026 14:49

I’d be telling her too. Chew with your mouth closed, can’t you teach her basic food manners?

justaskme · 09/02/2026 14:48

Another one with misophonia here.

Honestly I wish more people would teach themselves and their children to chew quietly, and especially with their mouths closed. It amazes me how many don't do this.

tuvamoodyson · 09/02/2026 14:47

Are you especially fond of her chewing loudly in YOUR ear OP? It’s basic manners. YABVVU.

SixtySomething · 09/02/2026 14:45

Do you never tell your daughter off, or correct her manners?
Perhaps you leave it to him?

Allmarbleslost · 09/02/2026 14:45

Chewing noises fill me with rage. It's just basic manners to chew quietly.

Fidgety31 · 09/02/2026 14:44

I have misophonia so I am pleased your husband is trying to teach your child some eating manners. Why haven’t you ?

not sure why you would want your child to grow up thinking that chomping and chewing loudly is acceptable . It’s disgusting . absolutely vile.

FrozenFebruary · 09/02/2026 14:38

Another ridiculous post with a non returning OP. There's a surprise.

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