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Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

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Meg878o · 09/02/2026 07:18

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

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HessianSack · 09/02/2026 08:40

A complete non issue (the telling off). Are you and your dd normally this sensitive? Exchanges such as this will happen ten times a day in any normal household.

WiseMoose · 09/02/2026 08:40

Well done your DH

I wish more parents would teach their children good manners

Why are you so upset about this ?

PollyBell · 09/02/2026 08:39

I would have said the same

rockingroller · 09/02/2026 08:39

Very reasonable of DH. Loud chewing is a bad habit DD needs to drop.

TittyGajillions · 09/02/2026 08:38

How do some people survive if they're angry, upset, and offended by the smallest of things. No wonder young people can't cope with anything, resilience is a lost skill.

Womaninhouse17 · 09/02/2026 08:38

It's a good idea to teach children to not annoy other people, to eat quietly and with their mouth closed.

Sudagame · 09/02/2026 08:38

Good for him, better him than a stranger.. and l bet that would really send you into Mummy Bear mode🙄.

Boomer55 · 09/02/2026 08:37

Too much drama from you and your daughter. Bad eating habits are horrible. DH was right.

AzureRose · 09/02/2026 08:36

Children are often pissed off the first time they're told off for something.

It's "affected" her ...of course it has

Wordsmithery · 09/02/2026 08:34

Would you prefer she turns into one of those adults who eats loudly with their mouth open? I sat next to somebody doing this on a train at the weekend and wondered how he'd got to adulthood with such a lack of awareness. Gross.

OMGitsnotgood · 09/02/2026 08:34

Nothing worse than a loud eater. Teach her how to eat quietly. If it is bad enough to annoy her Dad, it will be bad enough to have her teased at about it. And it really is unoleaaant to listen to other people chewing loudly

Lilactimes · 09/02/2026 08:33

Gosh really? You are cross about him stepping up giving her some behaviour tips??

How do you think kids grow up without chomping through their food, churning it around in their mouths like dirty washing in a machine so the whole world can hear or see it???
Parents coach them or tell them an alternative way to eat!!

In case you don't know yet, you have to tell them lots of things!!! from frequency of washing, how to wash, where to wash, how to keep themselves healthy, and habits that MAY not be liked by prospective friends, partners or employers when they're older. THe list includes chewing loudly, but also can including farting burping bad BO poor toilet and sanitary behaviour.

hididdlyho · 09/02/2026 08:32

Buckle up, she's about to be a teenager and likely to be offended by equally mundane stuff on a daily basis! I don't see anything wrong with what your DH said unless he got right in her face and said it in a threatening way or something.

Lourdes12 · 09/02/2026 08:31

My thoughts are…. Are you ok?

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 09/02/2026 08:31

No one wants to hear loud chewing noises. Team DH.

Bushmillsbabe · 09/02/2026 08:29

11 year old girls get offended by everything, I wouldn't be too bothered. Children have to learn that their actions impact on others. If her Dad is noticing it, her friends definitely have and it's nuch better that she hears it from him than them

Zov · 09/02/2026 08:28

YABVU, why on earth was she doing this? I would have said the same to her. Your DH did nothing wrong.

Imdunfer · 09/02/2026 08:27

She may have been chewing noisily. He may have misophonia.

YABU

Snippit · 09/02/2026 08:25

theonlyonestillawake · 09/02/2026 07:25

My DH would tell DS this. Especially if they were chewy sweets. He's quite intolerant to slurpy, chompy slapping of lips. And I get it. It's gross.

Sometimes kids get told things they don't want to hear.. That's parenting.

Why was he sitting in the back? Did a different child get to sit in the front? Do your kids often rule the roost a bit and get offended when told off?

I agree, I hate when people eat loudly by not closing their mouth, or trying to talk with a mouthful. Both my mother and mother in law do it, it’s disgusting and bad manners.

CandyflossKing · 09/02/2026 08:22

Don't give your kids chewy sweets if you don't want them to chew!

My daughter is very sensitive to chewing sounds, even when it is normal chewing with mouth closed. That said he is the adult and could have handled this better! How long was the car journey?

shhblackbag · 09/02/2026 08:22

It's basic manners not to behave like she did. What he did was fine. It will annoy the fuck out of people. Better she hears it at home.

arethereanyleftatall · 09/02/2026 08:20

Why was he in the back?

JukeboxJive2 · 09/02/2026 08:19

Whatsmyusername85 · 09/02/2026 07:20

My thoughts are that she needs to learn to close her mouth while eating…it’s basic manners. No harm done imo

First one’s a winner!

BMW6 · 09/02/2026 08:19

Well unless he screamed in her face what on earth is the problem?

Waitingforthesunnydays · 09/02/2026 08:17

Is your daughter overly sensitive? I get that comments like this (esp from parents) can hit a nerve and even feel hurtful to sensitive kids because it’s commenting on something very personal about the way their body does something (best way I could think to put it!) I was a sensitive kid like this. If that is the reason, you just need to be mindful about how you say things in future and if you need to say something critical try not to make it sound personal

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