Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

YABU. I tell my Daughter to not chew loudly. I also have to tell my husband at times. It's no big deal in telling them. I just can't stand the noise.

I wish someone would have told DH this when he was a child, his whole family are lovely but their table manners are questionable. As long as he wasn't mean I don't see the issue, surely its his job to teach her manners?

My thoughts are: your DD needs to learn some manners and some resilience. By the age of 11 she really ought to have a lot more of both, unless she has special needs.

My other thought is by being upset and angry about this you’re not setting her a good example in managing emotions. Ridiculous over-reaction on your part.

So you think people shouldn’t be told to eat more quietly?
Is that what you mean?

First thought - she needs to learn to close her mouth when eating.
Second - why does it appear to be an issue? Its a normal things to ask when someone is eating loudly.

Your daughter needs to stop being so sensitive as its going to be a very hard life ahead if she's offended over her dad telling her not to do something thats irritating. If father cant tell his own child not to do something because the mother is upset and angry then there is something wrong with your relationship and co-parenting, are you always this controlling?

Not really. Some people have utterly irrational sense of proportion when it comes to eating noises. They don't hear the noises they make themselves but think they are owed silence, which is impossible to achieve. Mesophonia or not, I find the attitude insufferable

That sound is unbearable to some, me included, it makes my physically itch 😆 kids will chew loudly unless told not to, he didn't do anything wrong.

They’re the 2% of parents that feel they can never call out their little lambs for being in any way rude, socially offensive or plain bad mannered. 😆

At least he didn't say go and eat your sweets somewhere else if you can't stop being a noisy fucker which was commonplace in my house when I was a kid! Also it was said with humour so .... 😂

With information you are giving i think you are being unreasonable to be upset and angry about this.
Was your daughter chewing loudly in your husbands ear?
Did your husband shout when he asked your daughter to stop chewing in his ear?
Does your husband have misophonia?
I think you have an understanding of how we can have hurt feelings if we are we are asked doing something rude or thoughtless which isn't unreasonable but doesnt mean we shouldnt be asked.
Was it your husbands tone that made you upset ?
If he'd said please could you eat your sweet quietly DD? Would you have been upset/angry or was it that you felt your DD shouldn't be advised re impoliteness or annoying someone?

Who on earth is the 2% on this poll that thinks the Op isn’t being unreasonable?? I would love to know and why? Maybe the Op herself and her DD?

She's 11, she'll be offended by you looking at her soon
You and DD sound like a pair of drama queens. He asked her to stop chewing loudly (and it is irritating) unless he screamed and swore at her you're being ridiculous.
Is your DH not allowed to ask your (his?) children to stop doing things he finds annoying? Your DD is 11 she should know how to eat quietly.
If DH had said this my kids would have probably just gone okay or sorry and that would have been it. None of us would have even thought about it afterwards.

Amazed you have started a thread about this especially an AIBU…

Oh dear, another deluded mother whose child can do no wrong!! The child won't get very far if she can't grasp normal eating behaviour. The DH was correct to nip it in the bud, and 11 is far too young to be 'offended' about anything - she is a child.

Good grief.

Chewing noises (and mouth noises in general) are awful. Granted, I'm autistic and debilitatingly sensitive to noise but I think most people have a limit on how long they can listen to someone going to town on a bag of sweets.

I remember settling in for a train journey from London back to Glasgow and the guy across the aisle made an unholy amount of noise eating a meal deal. I can only surmise that the crisps were made of MDF, then he tipped the crumbs into his mouth, then sucked every finger clean. I wanted to climb out of my skin 😭

I had a colleague who was perpetually single. He was in his 40s. Seemed nice enough. Then one day I sat next to him at lunch. His loud chewing and slurping noises were revolting. The rumour was he never got further dates after taking a potential partner for a meal.
Loud chewing is horrible. Teach your DC to reflect on their behaviour rather than being offended by being told off.

Depends if it was mouth wide open chewing or just normal noise.
my father is intolerant to many noises and growing up was tough, eating an apple had to be done on a different room, ditto crisps etc. I ate as quietly as possible, was totally paranoid that I was too noisy, I wasn’t I realise now but I did have quite a complex about it

we also just stayed in our rooms if we had colds as coughing etc (always covered mouths) would get you the filthiest look

so like I say depends. You can’t eat in complete silence but a gentle, close your mouth when you’re eating love would be kinder.

But he clearly offended her princess 😂

The fact she created a thread on mumsnet for this is hilarious 😂.

FFS Op!! Angry and upset? Over dramatic or what!!!

Your DH was being a parent and trying to instill good eating manners into his child.

I know plenty of adults where a quick “please eat more quietly “ by their parents when they were children, would have done them the world of good as adults.

Eating loudly is awful to listen to.

Get over it

How can anyone think this is worth posting about on Mumsnet is beyond me...😂😂
This is the most ridiculous first world problem

My thoughts are that either:

1. You have a misplaced belief that children should not be corrected on their behaviour. This will not do your kids any favours.
2. you really, really hate your husband so have misjudged this interaction due to your extreme negative over-ride of your H. You may have good reason to hate him, but not over the particular incident in your OP.

Being upset and angry over this is completely irrational. You need to think about why you had this reaction, and then deal with that.

I once moved away from my son in the cinema because he chewed so loudly

If she's used to never being corrected and you're on her side about everything, I can see why she's offended.