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Taylor Swift

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Nezukokamado · 08/02/2026 21:46

Was anyone a fan but now is a bit....done?

I was, of her music, didn't really follow her much (her personal life)

But after her shitty album, the texts made public in the BL/JB controversy and now the Opalite video yet AGAIN making digs at her fiances ex, who is now getting bullied online...I just think I see her for who she is and I can't separate the music from the artist

I think I may be a retired 'swiftie'

She's nearing 40 for god's sake....it's all very mean girl

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Odiebay · 09/02/2026 18:19

Don't agree with the let someone else have a turn. Going to say that to Lewis Hamilton are you?

She's not perfect and I don't agree with everything she does at all. However travis' ex has also come for her so although I think the back and forth is petty I don't think it's one sided from Taylor.

Personally I loved TTPD and although showgirl is not my fav I'd say I listen to over half the songs. The funny thing is say if you like ed sheeran does that mean you have to like everyone of his albums? Of course not. Not everything is going to be for you and that's fine.

On another note maybe I am slightly biased because I have met and worked with her for nearly a week and I can tell you literally noone has a bad word to say about her who she works with and I honestly get why. She was incredibly kind and not diva at all. Her mum is also so sweet.

I think just take what is good for you and leave the rest. People still show up to see Chris brown
Which I think is wrong but if Taylor has done something that you can't morally support then don't listen to her music 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheDogsSmile · 09/02/2026 18:01

EverythingIsComputer · 09/02/2026 10:19

I’d love her to just let someone else have a turn, stop releasing multiple versions of albums that clog up the charts and rinse your fans.

Everything feels so calculated with her. She’s an ok singer, musician, good song writer, there are many much stronger but she had the money behind her to make her as successful as she has become.

I find it an odd thing to say let someone else has a turn. Thats not how it works. It’s up to the public whose music they buy. If fans are happy to buy it, let them.

As Taylor said, there is a different vocabulary for men and women, men strategic, women are calculated.

Who gets to the top of their game, with years of life ahead of them, plenty left to offer, can make more money and continue doing what they enjoy, and thinks ‘I know, I need to let someone else have a turn’. 🤪

Zov · 09/02/2026 17:59

But @SirQuintus it's always Taylor Swift! Well nearly always. She receives more vitriol on Mumsnet than ANYone. It's bizarre!

SirQuintus · 09/02/2026 17:58

Why is she so disliked on here (by some?) A thread bashing her pops up every other week. I don't get it. Genuinely I don't.

It's human nature. There is no one person who everyone will like or even agree is attractive. It must be hell to be in the public eye because you can look exceptionally beautiful to some but there will be those who say you are too fat, too thin, bad teeth, wide nose, hairy arms, horrible feat, repulsive voice and so on.

People have varying opinions and lots of people enjoy attacking and criticising others. Internet trolls abound as well.It's just life sadly.

Zov · 09/02/2026 17:50

Candlestickinthediningroom · 09/02/2026 15:29

"Let someone else have a turn".... Do you say the same about all successful creatives? FFS Martin Scorsese and Steven Spielberg you have enough Oscars why are you still directing. And as for Steven King, he really should just shuffle away and burn his typewriter. Meryl Streep.better never act in another film...greedy bitch.

Someone who is a brilliant business women = "calculated". Have a word with yourself.

Exactly this. ^

Have to say though. I don't see such vitriol (on here) aimed at any man in music... Or any man at all who is famous actually! Then again, not many women seem to get as much negativity on here as Taylor Swift!

It seems to bother some people that a beautiful, privileged, middle class woman is very successful and hugely popular... No-one in the world of celebrity at the moment seems to receive such negative comments on here. I don't know why Taylor Swift does. It's really strange. She is a really nice, inoffensive, harmless, genuine, friendly kind of person, yet the hatred for her (from some) is fierce.

What on earth does 'everything is calculated' even mean? I can only surmise that poster means clever, smart, savvy, and talented. Coz that's what Taylor Swift is. She is a very smart businesswoman, as well as being talented, beautiful, and hardworking.

Why is she so disliked on here (by some?) A thread bashing her pops up every other week. I don't get it. Genuinely I don't.

Zov · 09/02/2026 17:50

Nezukokamado · 09/02/2026 17:10

Me too, that's why I have bowed out. You can't say anything against her whatsoever. No point in trying to discuss anything!

But why do you WANT to? Confused Why do you WANT to say anything against her?

Ninerainbows · 09/02/2026 17:44

Nezukokamado · 09/02/2026 17:39

I mean I didn't say any of those things anyway 😐

This not you then?

Oh she's in control! The wedding sounds like it's going to be huge on another scale. Disney documentary? You bet!

I don't think her fans engaging in discussions on threads like these means you "can't say anything whatsoever". If someone disagrees with you, that's an opinion same as yours.

Nezukokamado · 09/02/2026 17:39

Ninerainbows · 09/02/2026 17:34

I don't think that's fair. One can agree that it's gross to continually release album variants all year round yet disagree with those saying that she's not very talented, too old to write breakup songs and "looks weird".

She won't do a wedding documentary. She's not a Love Island or Real Housewives reality TV star.

I mean I didn't say any of those things anyway 😐

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Nezukokamado · 09/02/2026 17:37

SummaLuvin · 09/02/2026 17:20

I've been a swiftie for ages, and Showgirl is pretty low down in my rankings of her albums, but I think this thread feels a bit much. If you feel like her music isn't for you anymore then just move on.

The new music video is fun and charming, and if some fans are taking it upon themselves to hate on her/Travis' exes then that's on them. Could she call them off? Yes. But that isn't always the right action as it can validate these rabid fans by acknowledging their bad behaviour.

And with regards to the Blake Lively situation, if my best friend has told me all about the man who sexually assaulted her at the work place then I don't my texts about him would be as mild as Taylor's were. They were mean, but who can blame her in that situation.

I don't think her texts were particularly mean, it just showed a level of scheming that I wouldn't expect in that situation. He didn't sexually assault her (we can agree to disagree on this point for now) but if he did then I would expect to tell my friend to go to the police or at the very least HR, not try and take over his movie! That's just me though.

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Ninerainbows · 09/02/2026 17:34

Nezukokamado · 09/02/2026 17:10

Me too, that's why I have bowed out. You can't say anything against her whatsoever. No point in trying to discuss anything!

I don't think that's fair. One can agree that it's gross to continually release album variants all year round yet disagree with those saying that she's not very talented, too old to write breakup songs and "looks weird".

She won't do a wedding documentary. She's not a Love Island or Real Housewives reality TV star.

SummaLuvin · 09/02/2026 17:20

I've been a swiftie for ages, and Showgirl is pretty low down in my rankings of her albums, but I think this thread feels a bit much. If you feel like her music isn't for you anymore then just move on.

The new music video is fun and charming, and if some fans are taking it upon themselves to hate on her/Travis' exes then that's on them. Could she call them off? Yes. But that isn't always the right action as it can validate these rabid fans by acknowledging their bad behaviour.

And with regards to the Blake Lively situation, if my best friend has told me all about the man who sexually assaulted her at the work place then I don't my texts about him would be as mild as Taylor's were. They were mean, but who can blame her in that situation.

ApplebyArrows · 09/02/2026 17:18

I think she now (for the last five or six years) averages about one very good per album, with none of them matching the exceptional quality of much of her early work, but you know what, I can't think of many popular musicians who've continued to consistently produce exceptional work over two decades, so I'm not going to hold it against her.

Nezukokamado · 09/02/2026 17:10

EverythingIsComputer · 09/02/2026 17:03

Just had a wee chat with myself as recommended.

Spielberg, Scorsese et al don’t release dozens of cuts of one film, King doesn’t release the same book with dozens of covers, Streep doesn’t have several versions of a film where she’ll play someone slightly differently.

I thought there was a great atmosphere when she played in my city a few summers ago, the fans were so excited and it was lovely to see but the online Swifties scare me so I’m not going to engage further in this thread.

Me too, that's why I have bowed out. You can't say anything against her whatsoever. No point in trying to discuss anything!

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JHound · 09/02/2026 17:07

What’s happened? What texts?

EverythingIsComputer · 09/02/2026 17:03

Just had a wee chat with myself as recommended.

Spielberg, Scorsese et al don’t release dozens of cuts of one film, King doesn’t release the same book with dozens of covers, Streep doesn’t have several versions of a film where she’ll play someone slightly differently.

I thought there was a great atmosphere when she played in my city a few summers ago, the fans were so excited and it was lovely to see but the online Swifties scare me so I’m not going to engage further in this thread.

SIimPickins · 09/02/2026 16:07

EverythingIsComputer · 09/02/2026 10:19

I’d love her to just let someone else have a turn, stop releasing multiple versions of albums that clog up the charts and rinse your fans.

Everything feels so calculated with her. She’s an ok singer, musician, good song writer, there are many much stronger but she had the money behind her to make her as successful as she has become.

https://youtube.com/shorts/h1ceZQiYEgk?si=BqUe1irmG2Bek65I

Candlestickinthediningroom · 09/02/2026 15:29

EverythingIsComputer · 09/02/2026 10:19

I’d love her to just let someone else have a turn, stop releasing multiple versions of albums that clog up the charts and rinse your fans.

Everything feels so calculated with her. She’s an ok singer, musician, good song writer, there are many much stronger but she had the money behind her to make her as successful as she has become.

"Let someone else have a turn".... Do you say the same about all successful creatives? FFS Martin Scorsese and Steven Spielberg you have enough Oscars why are you still directing. And as for Steven King, he really should just shuffle away and burn his typewriter. Meryl Streep.better never act in another film...greedy bitch.

Someone who is a brilliant business women = "calculated". Have a word with yourself.

Ninerainbows · 09/02/2026 10:21

I like her a lot and went to the Eras tour but she peaked twice for me - Red and Folklore/Evermore. I hate Showgirl.

EverythingIsComputer · 09/02/2026 10:19

I’d love her to just let someone else have a turn, stop releasing multiple versions of albums that clog up the charts and rinse your fans.

Everything feels so calculated with her. She’s an ok singer, musician, good song writer, there are many much stronger but she had the money behind her to make her as successful as she has become.

TaffetaPhrases · 09/02/2026 10:12

Children stop fighting 🙄

Taytay jumped the shark IMO when she announced something like “your English teacher and gym teacher are getting married” - there was so much implied in that sentence.

Thewonderfuleveryday · 09/02/2026 10:12

Of course she won't document her wedding. We'll get a few photos after the event.

There's a world of difference between a collosal world tour and a personal event.

Zerox · 09/02/2026 10:12

Are you the monster on the hill?

SteelMaiden · 09/02/2026 10:05

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I don't think you know what "triggered" means

SteelMaiden · 09/02/2026 10:04

thetimehascomeandso · 08/02/2026 21:47

I had a roast for dinner.

Yeah - We had stew

Re the thread: Could have been anything
Taylor Swift confirmed to be an alien
Taylor Swift won an oscar
Taylor Swift is retiring
Taylor Swift will be on Celebrity Bake Off
Taylor Swift has 12 secret children
Taylor Swift has split with Travis and is going to marry Prince William when his divorce from Kate comes through
Taylor Swift wears a dress
Taylor Swift cuts her hair

Zov · 09/02/2026 09:38

ChattyCatty25 · 09/02/2026 01:28

I’ve never been a fan (I hate her weak voice), but she couldn’t realistically keep up the unlucky in love ex-bashing persona forever. She’s aged out of it, however she’s tried to carry it on, while partially combining it with happily-ever-after schtick. She’s managed to alienate her fans while making everyone finally realise that she’s far too old for this.

Also, there is the simple fact that popularity is always temporary for pop stars. Taylor is now passed her peak, but she rode the wave for a long, long time.

Then there’s ageism: Taylor is 36, which is geriatric for an industry aimed at teens. Pop fans are young, and her original fans are moving on and long since grown up. She managed to keep gaining new fans by looking and acting young, but it’s getting ridiculous now. Plus like most famous women who dare to exist past their twenties, she’s got work done to preserve her looks, but she now looks a bit odd.

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