To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?

Yes but we now know from evidence based research that that ‘low level’ sex crimes - voyerism, flashing, upskirting etc is also associated with much more brutal sexual assaults and murder of women - so this is not inert and harmless and needs to be reported and investigated to intercept any potential tragedy.

Most well known recent example is the brute who kidnapped, tortured, raped and murdered Sarah Everard in broad daylight. He had exposed himself at the McDonald’s drive through weeks before.

There are hundreds more examples.

The answer is within the thread...but you have to read through 850 posts to find it!

Oh OK...it was David Starkey apparently. The 'Sir' was a red herring.

Are the initials SF?

I’m very intrigued.

This is a good point actually. Someone needs to start a thread on this subject.

My Mum often speaks of the local 'flasher' when she was young. She said her and her friends used to follow him about pulling faces and laughing at him then they'd scream and run off when he got his willy out, then repeat the process. She said she wasn't afraid of him at all, just thought he was a silly man who got his willy out.

Of course this tale shocked me who is 37 years younger.

I will add wedding-related posts anyway because I am part of the derailing now.

I went to one wedding where the bride told me she was only marrying to give her daughter security, they didn't love each other and she knew their relationship would be over soon.

I was also invited to a wedding recently as a plus one to my partner. We had discussed 'us being next' although that was fast, we'd been together less than a year. Lovely wedding itself, but relatives including several alcoholics (or at least problem drinkers) were helping themselves to booze from a car boot from the moment the reception opened. I was sitting on the loo and a woman fell off the loo seat in the next cubicle and crashed half into mine having broken the partition wall which then sort of pinged back and I heard a huge groan/scream/thud as she fell onto the floor, knickers still around ankles.

Bride's Dad propositioned me all night.

And following the wedding I was dumped. Turns out partner had only wanted me because of not having a 'plus one' for the wedding, and wanting to 'look good' in front of family.

Another wedding, I cried all the way through the reception and had a stony-face all through the wedding procession because the basket of flowers I had to carry was too heavy for me.

I was seven, but still...

That's a fabulous book to read, The Moon's a Balloon.

We, 75+, need a good laugh though!

Before these very very sensitive times, 20 year olds were able to deal with this sort of thing, (I almost wrote handle these sort of things!) I recall a group of us being flashed at by a member of the dirty mac brigade and we all laughed, Is that the best you can manage?, he got really offended and stormed off!

“ Instructs me to “get the registrar on the phone to change the names on the paper”.

Yeah do that. Sounds simple enough!

Thank you @ToffeePennie for rescuing the thread- you've given us some proper humdingers here. I'd take 'wedding-breaking punk ass cowboy' as a badge of honour in the circumstances.

I have been part of a wedding where the bride was forced to sleep on the pull out couch bed the night before (despite paying for everything).
I have been to a wedding where the brides supposed “best friend” was incredibly jealous and kept saying “He had to get drunk to marry her” - they are no longer friends.
I was helping at a wedding where the bride turned full on bridezilla and refused to pay anyone to set up her wedding so instead she had family and friends do the set up for her, whilst she got a mani pedi, came in to scream at us for doing the napkins wrong and then left again to get her hair done. When the actual ceremony was over, her new husband went to the pub and had to be forced to do the speeches - he was dragged back by his bride screaming the whole way that it was HER day and it was NOT ABOUT HIS FRIENDS.
I went to a wedding as a guest where a new mum wasn’t allocated any space for pumping, despite being reassured she would have somewhere, the venue and couple decided the mum and baby could “deal with it for a few hours”. Mum left after 3 hours as she was in too much pain. Once she had left the bridal couple trashed her to everyone who would listen saying that she was causing sooo much drama on their day. She had enquired discreetly and left when the party started - no one except those sitting beside her knew.
I also served at several weddings: we had a lovely bride who clearly had a lot of relatives staying over. They were all absolutely wasted and ended up falling over themselves to try and flirt with 14/15 year old waitresses. When her brother tried to shove £20 into my top, winked and said “see ya later” I told my boss who had the whole thing closed down. There were tears and screaming, the whole nine yards, but I will never forget this beautifully dressed 24 year old woman screaming at the top of her lungs “you broke my wedding, you punk ass cowboy” in the most southern of southern American accents I had ever heard.
I served a wedding where the best man was sleeping with the bride, groom was sleeping with the maid of honour. They went through with the wedding, during the reception the truth came out. Punches were thrown, it calmed down, groom takes maid of honour to her room, bride invites best man to the bridal suite. Instructs me to “get the registrar on the phone to change the names on the paper”. It was very weird explaining I was 15 and had no way of doing that.
The magician hired by the couple set a table on fire….evacuation of a 1500s Manor House….
A couple hired a local dance instructor to entertain their guests whilst having photos taken. None of the guests even moved, the poor dance instructor was mortified and ended up refunding the couple.
yeah there have been a few!

So, posting the hot dog story as an “example of the worst behaviour” (see title) is “really saying it’s ok?”

Yes yes that is exactly what everyone is saying...🙄

....but it probably is okay to body shame a flasher

Literally nobody is saying that.

OK, my last post on the subject , but are we really saying it's ok to sexually abuse women if they are old?!!

We definitely need the laughing emoji back! 👏👏

People Can be strange and weirdly take it upon themselves to be offended for all.
People take/ do coke (as demonstrated on here) and the fact it’s on most bank notes.
’Gurning’ is not just for the latter throws of addiction to cocaine. Speed can also make you gurn and also gives you a ‘billy Willy’ which also leads onto….
Willies, penis’, Johnson’s, pork swords etc. My ex brother in law (rugby winger) used to rest it on my mum’s shoulder and see how long it took her to notice. A firm swat and an ‘oh *’ used to encourage him to tuck it away again. She used to find it funny, it made many a family picture.

We aren’t all cut from the same cloth. Is it really such a stretch (on a light hearted thread) to even entertain we might find different things funny? Not normal? Not acceptable? Just…. Oh well…..

It wasn't my attitude. It was an attitude that I was referencing. But yes, as a PP said, let's not derail a fun and (mostly) lighthearted and entertaining thread.

... and before that, the tale of a waiter offering his "wares" (in this case on a sliver platter and garnished with salad) to unsuspecting ladies featured in actor David Niven's autobiography, which described his life in Hollywood in the 1940s and 1950s.

My mother worked as a theatre nurse in A&E. They saw all sorts. One of the doctors once sneered at a drunk flasher 'It's like a button on a fur coat'.

Mine cost £15k 24 years ago so not bad going so far!

As a health care worker we are often treated to such sights ( minus bread roll). I have a colleague who often says ‘oh that looks like a penis only smaller’ in a completely disinterested tone that soon has them tucking it away😂

Oh give over. Start another thread and stop trying to spoil this one.

There we go again with the victim shaming. Now they are "pathetic and weak" if they don't like it.

This is the sort of attitude that leads women to berate women like Sandy Peggie and the Darlington nurses for objecting to a naked penis in their work changing room. Women who object are sent to change in cupboards while the men get full access, alongside all the "robust" women who don't mind.

It suggests that anyone who objects is unreasonable. Well they aren't. They are simply protecting pretty universal boundaries.

😂
I don't watch them either!

I agree about the penis thing actually. I am only in my early 40s, but if someone got his population-paster out at me now I would probably roll my eyes and say 'put it away ffs' or 'doesn't look very appetising!' rather than a younger me who would have been shocked.