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HappyHappyHawaii · 08/02/2026 20:36

Attended one yesterday as a bridesmaid. The brides cousin was also a bridesmaid, spent the whole morning clearly aggrieved that the day wasn't about her... smoked in the getting ready suite and had to be told to put it out, then lit up again and claimed she had forgotten when the bride told her and made a snarky comment..then presented her silver converse she had customised to wear with her dress as she "doesn't really do heels"... the bride ignored her and sweetly said "at this point I don't think I can stop you" as she knows what she's like then what do you know, she wears the heels! There were loads of instances like this all day and she is 28 but seemed to want to just be am inconvenience all day which I assume was jealousy...even little things like being late for photos and pretending not to hear when called over, pushing the food round her plate, really ungracious behaviour. The wedding was fantastic! She could have really enjoyed it much more. Not really an aibu but whats the worst behaviour youve seen like this?

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Rayburn · 10/02/2026 17:55

TheIrritatingGentleman · 10/02/2026 17:48

Even if it is true, I'm not sure why so many find it funny.

It’s a good example of what the thread is about.

This reply of yours is not. It’s po-faced and boring. Why are you reading the thread?

I heard an incredible heavily accented rendition of “Your Cheating Heart” by a lady guest at a Glasgow wedding. Then a bloke went up and sang The Rose of Tralee.

Us and the enemy had opposite sides of the hall.

B1anche · 10/02/2026 17:53

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 17:50

I’ve used cocaine a couple of times in my entire life and I’m 47 years old. I’m just not judgemental of things like that

Yes you're right. We shouldn't judge those who shit themselves on the dance floor and fight at weddings.

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 17:50

I’ve used cocaine a couple of times in my entire life and I’m 47 years old. I’m just not judgemental of things like that

TheIrritatingGentleman · 10/02/2026 17:48

Eviangeica · 08/02/2026 22:59

And absolutely no-one had a word with him? I find this hard to believe…

Even if it is true, I'm not sure why so many find it funny.

B1anche · 10/02/2026 17:47

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 16:53

So from a purely pragmatic perspective rather than a moral one - a wedding is kind of a sensible occasion on which to do cocaine.

In the right amounts it keeps you from getting sloppy/messy through drink, keep you sharp and focused even after a skin full. It gives you a bit of extra energy and enthusiasm for the evening part of the day and can make people more chatty and social.

for a lot of people weddings involve drinking from late morning/lunchtime onwards, often with not quite enough food. A cheeky bump after dinner enables one to manage the affects of alcohol and still be able to speak, dance, engage with everyone appropriately.

obviously if people get carried away and do way too much it negates this sharpening effect, but I’ll bet you’ve seen people on a little bit of coke at weddings before and not been aware, because most people can use drugs sensibly.

im not commenting on the rights and wrongs of this- just explaining why its so common.

Edited

A cheeky bump after dinner enables one to manage the affects of alcohol and still be able to speak, dance, engage with everyone appropriately.

This backs up my theory that cocaine users have no self-awareness whatsoever. They always seem to think they are the life and soul of the party, witty and entertaining. Everyone else thinks they are absolute bellends.

Cherrycola4 · 10/02/2026 17:47

Someone booked the groom a stripper dressed as a ‘sexy bride’ for the night do.

LemonAndGingerMarmalade · 10/02/2026 17:39

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 16:53

So from a purely pragmatic perspective rather than a moral one - a wedding is kind of a sensible occasion on which to do cocaine.

In the right amounts it keeps you from getting sloppy/messy through drink, keep you sharp and focused even after a skin full. It gives you a bit of extra energy and enthusiasm for the evening part of the day and can make people more chatty and social.

for a lot of people weddings involve drinking from late morning/lunchtime onwards, often with not quite enough food. A cheeky bump after dinner enables one to manage the affects of alcohol and still be able to speak, dance, engage with everyone appropriately.

obviously if people get carried away and do way too much it negates this sharpening effect, but I’ll bet you’ve seen people on a little bit of coke at weddings before and not been aware, because most people can use drugs sensibly.

im not commenting on the rights and wrongs of this- just explaining why its so common.

Edited

'A cheeky bump''

'Use drugs sensibly'

Said the clueless drug user.

'

properidiot · 10/02/2026 17:38

Needtofixmyageingskin · 09/02/2026 23:52

No way!!!!!

Sadly, absolutely true! Many years ago now but yes - not a wedding I will ever forget!

Dollymylove · 10/02/2026 17:27

"Shitgibbons" this is my new word of choice when I encounter....well, a shitgibbon 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Uricon2 · 10/02/2026 17:27

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 16:53

So from a purely pragmatic perspective rather than a moral one - a wedding is kind of a sensible occasion on which to do cocaine.

In the right amounts it keeps you from getting sloppy/messy through drink, keep you sharp and focused even after a skin full. It gives you a bit of extra energy and enthusiasm for the evening part of the day and can make people more chatty and social.

for a lot of people weddings involve drinking from late morning/lunchtime onwards, often with not quite enough food. A cheeky bump after dinner enables one to manage the affects of alcohol and still be able to speak, dance, engage with everyone appropriately.

obviously if people get carried away and do way too much it negates this sharpening effect, but I’ll bet you’ve seen people on a little bit of coke at weddings before and not been aware, because most people can use drugs sensibly.

im not commenting on the rights and wrongs of this- just explaining why its so common.

Edited

The sort of thing people who use cocaine say. Lots of people who have never used it but observed the effects would say very, very different.

It's like drunks, they think they're fine, noone else does.

HectorPlasm · 10/02/2026 17:11

Why does every good thread get hijacked by shitgibbons wittering on about obscure irrelevancies?

Daygloboo · 10/02/2026 17:08

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 16:53

So from a purely pragmatic perspective rather than a moral one - a wedding is kind of a sensible occasion on which to do cocaine.

In the right amounts it keeps you from getting sloppy/messy through drink, keep you sharp and focused even after a skin full. It gives you a bit of extra energy and enthusiasm for the evening part of the day and can make people more chatty and social.

for a lot of people weddings involve drinking from late morning/lunchtime onwards, often with not quite enough food. A cheeky bump after dinner enables one to manage the affects of alcohol and still be able to speak, dance, engage with everyone appropriately.

obviously if people get carried away and do way too much it negates this sharpening effect, but I’ll bet you’ve seen people on a little bit of coke at weddings before and not been aware, because most people can use drugs sensibly.

im not commenting on the rights and wrongs of this- just explaining why its so common.

Edited

Affects...effects
Its...it's

Fewer cheeky bumps and a bit more spelling practice is in order for you I think.... plus a little bit of light reading about the devastation and destruction to communities that is caused by the cocaine industry...just saying..

CharlotteLightandDark · 10/02/2026 16:53

CruCru · 10/02/2026 10:33

I’m a bit taken aback at all the weddings where people have taken drugs. I can understand getting drunk but taking drugs at a wedding is just a bit weird.

So from a purely pragmatic perspective rather than a moral one - a wedding is kind of a sensible occasion on which to do cocaine.

In the right amounts it keeps you from getting sloppy/messy through drink, keep you sharp and focused even after a skin full. It gives you a bit of extra energy and enthusiasm for the evening part of the day and can make people more chatty and social.

for a lot of people weddings involve drinking from late morning/lunchtime onwards, often with not quite enough food. A cheeky bump after dinner enables one to manage the affects of alcohol and still be able to speak, dance, engage with everyone appropriately.

obviously if people get carried away and do way too much it negates this sharpening effect, but I’ll bet you’ve seen people on a little bit of coke at weddings before and not been aware, because most people can use drugs sensibly.

im not commenting on the rights and wrongs of this- just explaining why its so common.

Purplebunnie · 10/02/2026 16:49

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HelpMeUnpickThis · 10/02/2026 16:25

Mizztikle · 09/02/2026 14:43

Did you get charged for them? I know usually those things are rented, as in the décor.
If you did I hope you sent them the bill, cheeky fkrs.

That’s the thing it wasn't rented. ExH and I paid for everything as venue didnt do decor.

We got the cake back 🙄.

2026hastobebetterthan2025 · 10/02/2026 16:23

Groom worked shifts and invited his two work colleagues/girlfriends (from different shifts) to his big catholic church wedding. Both girls dissolved in tears during the wedding/reception, sobbing in the loos etc. Sister of the bride had a ONS with him during the engagement. Bride was oblivious to the drama. Tiny grandmother of groom got pissed and started threatening his friends and trying to head butt them.

Marriage lasted a couple of years until he apparently called out the wrong name during sex and it all unravelled fast.

idkbroidk · 10/02/2026 16:16

Missj25 · 09/02/2026 18:27

I didn’t say there was anything wrong with her behaviour !
Of course it affected her day .
Obviously I was in the wrong , that’s what this thread is about.
I was just telling a story & you don’t sound like a nice person being honest .

YOU don't sound like a nice person, did you have to hijack all the attention on a wedding that wasnt yours?

Daygloboo · 10/02/2026 15:35

Purplebunnie · 10/02/2026 15:26

Thank goodness I thought it was just me.

Nieces wedding and when our DC arrived for the evening they pointed out to me these girls who were gurnning whilst on drugs

I'd never heard of gurning and definitely never seen it before. It was actually entertaining until one of them nearly trod on a glass she'd broken

I mean have a couple of drinks to maybe get into the mood but this was on another level. Do you really need to do this to enjoy an evening out

Wonder what the conversation was at work as I believe they were work colleagues

I thought gurnong only happened in the advanced stages of cocaine addiction

RubyMentor · 10/02/2026 15:33

Rayburn · 10/02/2026 13:24

Probably only me that had to look it up.

A croquembouche (French: [kʁɔ.kɑ̃.buʃ]) or croque-en-bouche is a Frenchdessert consisting of choux pastry puffs piled into a cone and bound with threads of caramel. In Italy and France, it is often served at weddings, baptisms and First Communions.

No, I also had to google it 😂

Rayburn · 10/02/2026 15:30

PandorasMailbox · 10/02/2026 15:00

I'd have stuck a fork in it to see if it was cooked.

Behold the chap sigh thermometer.

To ask for examples of the worst behaviour you've seen from an adult at a wedding?
Purplebunnie · 10/02/2026 15:26

CruCru · 10/02/2026 10:33

I’m a bit taken aback at all the weddings where people have taken drugs. I can understand getting drunk but taking drugs at a wedding is just a bit weird.

Thank goodness I thought it was just me.

Nieces wedding and when our DC arrived for the evening they pointed out to me these girls who were gurnning whilst on drugs

I'd never heard of gurning and definitely never seen it before. It was actually entertaining until one of them nearly trod on a glass she'd broken

I mean have a couple of drinks to maybe get into the mood but this was on another level. Do you really need to do this to enjoy an evening out

Wonder what the conversation was at work as I believe they were work colleagues

Daygloboo · 10/02/2026 15:26

SorcererGaheris · 10/02/2026 15:03

@B1anche

Of course I've made a mistake, but I was operating under the assumption that the poster had got the part about it being a "Sir" correct.

If she was mistaken about that, then it makes sense.

Oh Starkey. What a revolting thing to do. If it was him, he really isnt a nice man, is he. I dont know why he is so snotty about other people when he is clearly an absolute oik.

Calliopespa · 10/02/2026 15:18

TorroFerney · 10/02/2026 12:29

Nope I agree , it’s indecent exposure.

I was thinking it couldn't have gone on for long because someone would have stepped in.

Daygloboo · 10/02/2026 15:15

rickyrickygrimes · 10/02/2026 13:28

When I was a student in Edinburgh, a friend's-friend started a business as a wedding photographer. He got a gig in a fancy hotel near where we lived and invited us along as his 'assistants' ie free food and booze in exchange for carrying some bags for him. It was a big wedding, loads of champagne flowing freely. The first dance had finished and lots of guests were up on the dance floor. Then some bloke (one of the bride's brothers apparently) came charging across the room, launched himself at another man, they both flew backwards and crashed right through a set of french doors onto the terrace 😱where they proceeded to kick the shit out of each other. Half the dance floor followed them outside (it was summer so still light) and either joined in or cheered them on. Fucking mental. The bride was inside bawling her eyes out and being comforted by her mum and bridesmaids. My friend and I stayed in the (free) bar with eyes on stalks while the photographer carefully packed away all his expensive gear in the middle of this total barney.

Who were they? Did you ever find out

Calliopespa · 10/02/2026 15:14

B1anche · 08/02/2026 21:35

I'd have said 'thanks' and stuck my fork in it.

Or tried to cut the thing in half and offer it round.