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To think that there is no such thing as too clean and tidy

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NoRoomForALittleOne · 08/02/2026 18:13

Our house went on the market just before Christmas. We were happy with the photos having put in a lot of effort to make sure it was ‘show home tidy’. We have six dc so this wasn’t a small task but we managed it and still had cupboards that had space. My parents came to stay for Christmas and made lots of negative comments about the photos looking like no-one lived in the house and the house being “too clean”. My MiL phoned whilst my parents were staying and kept on making comments over and over again about “where did you hide all your stuff?” She then shared pictures of the five bed house that she is buying with her new dp. I hadn’t realised they were buying such a large house for the two of them and expressed surprise. I will concede that it’s absolutely none of my business and they can buy any size house they like. I hope they are very happy there. But the comments continued from both sets of parents about our house being too clean and tidy and how we didn’t have stuff on show as though we should be ashamed of this. We’ve now accepted an offer above the asking price for the house and this seems to have upset the parents. I don’t get it. Surely there is no such thing as ‘too clean and tidy’? The dc are allowed toys out. We just tidy up every so often.

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Ponderingwindow · 08/02/2026 18:29

In the narrow context you have defined, you can make that statement.

in real life, absolutely not. Requiring a home to be clean and tidy can easily become abuse. If you have ever been terrified to create a single crumb or been screamed at for hours for leaving a textbook on your desk during dinner, you will understand.

AwfullyGood · 08/02/2026 18:29

I love a clean and tidy house.

Think it's only an issue where is becomes a compulsive obession or where it becomes uncomfortable for visitors like following thrm around with a dust buster or going crash if a child puts a sticky handprint on the coffee table.

outerspacepotato · 08/02/2026 18:28

I'm impressed you managed that level of clean with 6 kids. You should give yourself a pat on the back.

A really clean home with no clutter and few knickknacks sells better. And you found that out and profited from your hard work.

Your parents and in laws are jealous, sorry.

Pollqueen · 08/02/2026 18:25

Your parents and in laws are weird. You were selling your house so of course it was clean and tidy for the photos

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/02/2026 18:25

I went to look at a house once that had obviously been staged to the extent it made me wonder where all their things were. It definitely put me off even though it looked lovely. It made me realise it was actually quite small. I think there's a happy medium.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 08/02/2026 18:23

Eh?! I’d love someone to describe my home as too clean and tidy! How bizarre!

If you’re selling your home, you are much more likely to get viewings if it looks lovely and clean. Ignore them.

PersephoneGoddessOfSpring · 08/02/2026 18:21

I wholeheartedly agree!
Comments like this usually come from people that wish they could get their own home to that standard but can't manage it for whatever reason - it makes them feel better to try and drag you to their level rather than trying and failing to get to yours.

Alwaysontherun · 08/02/2026 18:19

When it comes to selling your home there is no such thing as too clean and tidy. There is nothing more off putting for buyers than coming to view a dirty or cluttered home

RappelChoan · 08/02/2026 18:15

Well if your house is clean and tidy to the extent that no one feels comfortable to relax in it, that would be an issue. However when selling anything you want to portray it in the best possible way, without personal stuff on show. This is basic common sense.