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to think it’s a bit depressing that women still use these terms against other women?

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HazelMember · 08/02/2026 18:08

I’ve noticed that the harshest, most misogynistic insults on mumsnet I hear are actually coming from women directed at other women. Words like cunt, bitch, cow, etc.

When men are criticised, the language often seems much milder or at least less specifically gendered.

Is it internalised misogyny? Habit? Just how people speak now?

OP posts:
Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 21:53

YourBreezyBiscuit · 08/02/2026 21:34

Men get called pigs and dogs. What of it?

By some people. I tend to stay away from the childish name calling which people on this thread seem to think is normal discourse.

SleeplessInWherever · 08/02/2026 21:51

Brefugee · 08/02/2026 21:42

are you the SIL from the cake thread? i called her a cunt, i think, because she was behaving like one.

You did, deservedly so 😂

I’ve just read that thread, and can’t believe OPs takeaway was that women were unkind on it. It’s not misogyny, that SIL is a grade A arsehole.

YourBreezyBiscuit · 08/02/2026 21:50

Liz1tummypain · 08/02/2026 21:40

I'd like to add when posters call other posters "pick me"women or "handmaids"

Ah yes! The "feminists" are the biggest misogynists of all! 😂

Evaka · 08/02/2026 21:42

I reserve my use of cunt on here for the all the cunting men being massive cunts to their partners.

Brefugee · 08/02/2026 21:42

are you the SIL from the cake thread? i called her a cunt, i think, because she was behaving like one.

Liz1tummypain · 08/02/2026 21:40

I'd like to add when posters call other posters "pick me"women or "handmaids"

YourBreezyBiscuit · 08/02/2026 21:34

Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 20:35

So comparing women with animals? 😬

Men get called pigs and dogs. What of it?

NotThatSerious · 08/02/2026 20:59

I would still call a man those words too 🤷‍♀️ it’s not that deep really

Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 20:57

SleeplessInWherever · 08/02/2026 20:51

I was responding to “If we’d be uncomfortable hearing men use them…”

I’m not uncomfortable with a man calling me a bitch. I’m uncomfortable with them anything that implies I should be in a kitchen or am in any way inferior, and particularly uncomfortable with the ones that rape and kill women.

There is really more to worry about than whether a man thinks I’m a “cow” or not. Like I said, not that sensitive.

Well I am uncomfortable with it. Different standards I suppose.

Tableforjoan · 08/02/2026 20:54

I’m all for equal opportunities.

I’ll call a man or Woman a whore or a cunt.

I’ve called men slags before 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you’re acting like a twat you can be a twat.

I don’t gender my swear words.

SleeplessInWherever · 08/02/2026 20:51

Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 20:37

The OP us talking about women who are misogynists, not men.

Edited

I was responding to “If we’d be uncomfortable hearing men use them…”

I’m not uncomfortable with a man calling me a bitch. I’m uncomfortable with them anything that implies I should be in a kitchen or am in any way inferior, and particularly uncomfortable with the ones that rape and kill women.

There is really more to worry about than whether a man thinks I’m a “cow” or not. Like I said, not that sensitive.

Fearlesssloth · 08/02/2026 20:50

igelkott2026 · 08/02/2026 18:51

Did she really behave like a bitch or a cow? I think she behaved like a childish queen bee woman.

And the c word should be banned. It is so nasty.

Cunt is used all the time in Scotland, sometimes very affectionately. A bit like mate in England

Fearlesssloth · 08/02/2026 20:48

Cunt (although it means vagina) is used equally for men and women. Although I don’t think I’ve ever seen it on MN..I must be missing out on all the really good threads! I think there’s plenty of offensive gender-based insults for men too - knobhead, bellend, dick, dickhead, prick, needle dick (🤣)
I really don’t think it’s that deep. Insults have always used names for both male and female parts. However it really pisses me off when anyone (man or woman but esp women cos I’d expect better from them) calls a woman a slut or a slag.

Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 20:37

SleeplessInWherever · 08/02/2026 20:36

I don’t feel any worse when a man calls me a bitch than if a woman did, because frankly I’m not that sensitive.

I think things like flower, pet, her indoors, anything related to how I should be baking cakes instead of working, “modern career woman”, are all sexist. I turned down a job once because the interviewer started a sentence with the words “Listen, sweetheart.”

Cunt is just a run of the mill insult, and it’s not sexist.

The worst men can do to us really isn’t hurty words.

The OP us talking about women who are misogynists, not men.

SleeplessInWherever · 08/02/2026 20:36

HazelMember · 08/02/2026 20:14

I think it’s still misogyny though, even when it’s coming from women. The words mentioned in my OP aren’t neutral insults. They exist specifically to put women down.

If we’d be uncomfortable hearing men use them, I don’t really see why it’s suddenly fine when women direct them at each other. It feels like internalised misogyny being normalised.

I don’t feel any worse when a man calls me a bitch than if a woman did, because frankly I’m not that sensitive.

I think things like flower, pet, her indoors, anything related to how I should be baking cakes instead of working, “modern career woman”, are all sexist. I turned down a job once because the interviewer started a sentence with the words “Listen, sweetheart.”

Cunt is just a run of the mill insult, and it’s not sexist.

The worst men can do to us really isn’t hurty words.

Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 20:35

YourBreezyBiscuit · 08/02/2026 20:22

Like other posters have said dickhead, cock, wanker etc. are insults used to specifically put men down so are they misandrist insults? Does anyone even give a fuck if they are?

The words cow and bitch don't exist specifically to put women down by the way. They were created to describe animals and then co opted as insults.

So comparing women with animals? 😬

Differentforgirls · 08/02/2026 20:35

Think you’ve hit a few nerves here OP. Good on you. 🥰

YourBreezyBiscuit · 08/02/2026 20:22

HazelMember · 08/02/2026 20:14

I think it’s still misogyny though, even when it’s coming from women. The words mentioned in my OP aren’t neutral insults. They exist specifically to put women down.

If we’d be uncomfortable hearing men use them, I don’t really see why it’s suddenly fine when women direct them at each other. It feels like internalised misogyny being normalised.

Like other posters have said dickhead, cock, wanker etc. are insults used to specifically put men down so are they misandrist insults? Does anyone even give a fuck if they are?

The words cow and bitch don't exist specifically to put women down by the way. They were created to describe animals and then co opted as insults.

HazelMember · 08/02/2026 20:14

I think it’s still misogyny though, even when it’s coming from women. The words mentioned in my OP aren’t neutral insults. They exist specifically to put women down.

If we’d be uncomfortable hearing men use them, I don’t really see why it’s suddenly fine when women direct them at each other. It feels like internalised misogyny being normalised.

OP posts:
DollydaydreamTheThird · 08/02/2026 19:59

These are just words. Misogyny has nothing to do with it. It is not our fault that the men decided to pick the harshest sounding word and say it means a vagina. Its more to do with the letter sounds than the meaning. If it was meaning then why is cunt worse than fanny??? Answer me that.
I call men cunts all the time. Much more so than I do women. I also call women dickheads and pricks. They aren't gendered words that you can only call one sex. I also happen to like swearing.😂

Dweetfidilove · 08/02/2026 19:46

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/02/2026 19:16

Can you link it.

I could...

pinkyredrose · 08/02/2026 19:38

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Well if you'd RTFT you'd have seen that the Sil was indeed a cunt. If you can't handle swearing Mumsnet may not be the place for you.

NotMeAtAll · 08/02/2026 19:21

Women are often called a bitch or a cow, while men are more likely to be called a prick, an arsehole, or a bollocks.

Cunt is an equal opportunities insult.

PersephonePomegranate · 08/02/2026 19:17

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Men are referred to as cunts as much as women.

They're generally more likely to be referred to as: arseholes, wankers, pricks, pigs, bastards - are those misandrist terms?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/02/2026 19:16

Dweetfidilove · 08/02/2026 18:50

@HazelMember , have you seen an OW thread? If not, buckle up.
That's where you see some 'real' name calling and it's never by the men.

Can you link it.